How to Let Go of the Past

We have all had the experience of being faced with heartbreak and emotional pain and having to slowly move on from something that hurt us. It's hard to accept what has happened and move on. It is important to try and help yourself forget and to move on to live a healthier and happier life and not dwell on the past.

Don't get lost in blaming others for why we are hurting. Don't expect them to apologise. If we get hung up on the fact they caused the hurt, it can backfire. You need to accept the past no matter how hard it is. It will be the hardest moment in your life, but the time that you finally move on will be the happiest time.

The only way you can move forward, is to let the hurt disappear freely and focus on the positives.

- Focus on the Present

It's okay to let go of the past hurt. You need to stop reliving the upset over and over. You can't just undo the past. You can only make the future the brightest and most happiest time of your life. Live for the future, not for the past.

When you focus on the now, you have less time to be able to focus on the past. The memories of the past will creep up every now and then and it is important to acknowledge that. Then let yourself slip away for that and come back to the present moment. It is a big step to be able to let go of the past, accept it and push it aside to focus on your future.

Don't crowd your mind with negative thoughts. Make room for the positive ones. Embrace the growth and strength you have endured through the hard time. Feel more positive about the future.

- If You're Ready, Let Go

The past won't just disappear. We will often have to push ourselves to ensure that we can make that decision to let it go. This can be hard to let go so you can move on, but it is a necessary step to focus on the present and let go of the past.

You are the only person that has that choice to let it go and it is up to you to do that. It will be a sense of empowerment knowing that you can either, hold on to the pain or to live a future life without hurt. The hurt and pain is only holding us back. We can't move on in this way. It will only drag you down.

It is about being able to take responsibility, to know that you are strong and you make the decisions. None of us ever want to deal with the waves of emotion that come along with letting go. Continuing to blame it on ourselves takes the poser we have away from us. Let go and do it at whatever time you feel is acceptable for you.

- Be Kind to Yourself

Stop being so harsh on yourself. Realize that everyone makes mistakes. Stop blaming yourself and stop criticising yourself. Begin to welcome in some kindness and compassion for yourself.

Treat yourself as you would treat a friend. Offer yourself self-compassion. Learn to love yourself and be kind to yourself. When the thoughts begin to arise, be gentle with yourself. Give yourself love and support.

- Let Yourself Forgive

If you've ever been hurt, it takes a lot for you to actually decide to forgive them. Don't get hung up on the fact they hurt us and that we can't just forgive. It's something that is necessary if you are ready to let yourself forgive. It gives us strength to be able to let you do that.

Don't feel pressured to forgive. You can decide when you feel it is the right time. Let yourself build up the strength to able to forgive those who have hurt you. This will give you full closure and you can move on.

It is also important to forgive yourself. Stop kicking yourself for something that has happened in the past and focus on yourself. Learn a lesson from it.

- Disconnect for awhile

Take time away to really help yourself. Take time away from others to be able to focus on you. Clear your head and distance yourself from anything that reminds you of the past.

Take yourself away from social media and the online world. Live in the moment. Focus on a stronger happier you.