How to be an unconventional person?

"Startled by the wind, a flock of geese on the border takes flight, half sweeping the flat sands and half soaring into the clouds," as the poem says.

Bai Juyi came upon a flock of terrified wild geese on his way to the borders.

The wild geese fluttered their wings in fear, flying erratically. Half of them flew into the skies, while the other half skimmed the sandy ground.

For regular people, this poem only describes the scene at that time, demonstrating the poet's sharp observation and perfect representation.

However, for those who want to reflect, this shows what happens to a group when they are faced with unforeseen circumstances or become trapped in a difficult scenario. Unable to act together, they disperse and look for their own protection. This offers some new perspectives on how we interact with others.

When I was still a child, I used to enjoy gathering friends around. If I was ignored, it would make me feel uncomfortable.

When I first entered the workplace, I hoped to rely on the group and thrive smoothly.

Life transitions into a stage of maturity after you reach middle age. Life becomes somewhat stable and experiences grow fairly plentiful as people get older, especially after the age of forty or fifty. At this moment, the idea of "fitting in" with a group assumes a significant meaning.

Those who are eager to fit in are frequently vulnerable to harm from others

Children in rural areas may have tried on poking at hornets' nests. They would bring a stick and try to deal with hornets' nests when they saw them. The hornets suddenly buzzed around in a fury, scattering everyone in various directions and finally, stung some children...

"It's your fault," parents say.

Some groups, like hornets, do more harm than good. You can't blame others if you've been damaged by a group; it's your own fault. This explanation will be obvious to anyone with prior experience.

During the Spring and Autumn Period, Sheng Yu, the daughter of King Helü of Wu, had a strong preference for eating fish.

One day, the King of Wu offered Sheng Yu his leftover half of a fish to eat. Sheng Yu died of depression because she believed her father no longer loved her.

The King of Wu constructed a large tomb for Sheng Yu and unleashed white cranes. Many people were drawn in by the cranes' exquisite dance.

People followed the white cranes and unknowingly arrived at the burial place. The tomb gates were abruptly closed, and all the spectators were transformed into those being buried.

Unexpectedly, simply viewing the spectacle resulted in their deaths...

It appears that mindless conformity and overwhelming zeal to fit in can both be harmful

In the workplace, you can't avoid being implicated when someone in the group commits a mistake and if you worry too much about cliques. Besides, you might also have to serve the people in the clique and align with their direction, often going against your own wishes.

When you constantly adapt to the ideas of relatives and friends in your interactions, you may wind up losing your own route in life, which can lead to confusion.

In society, if you worry too much about what others say and think, you will become someone who overvalues their reputation in society. Following that, you may engage in behaviors that are simply motivated by preserving your image even suffering uncomfortable situations.

The herd mentality tells us that the impulse to conform can quickly lead to blind obedience, and blind obedience frequently results in falling for scams or experiencing failure. As a result, only by being an outcast can you have the opportunity to control your own destiny!