Don’t feel bad about Feeling Sad

When something negative happens in your life, it can seem like your world is ending. But you should genuinely embrace your feelings rather than repressing or dismissing them, either by diverting your attention or putting up a pleasant front.

“All emotions are important to experience and have valuable information for us about our lives,” says Dr. Lori Rockmore, Psy.D.

As a matter of fact, a 2017 study that appeared in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology came to the conclusion that

"Individuals who accept rather than judge their mental experiences may attain better psychological health, in part because acceptance helps them experience less negative emotion in response to stressors."

It can be simple to identify the reason of your upset at times. For instance, perhaps you and your partner had an Argument or your parents had a misunderstanding. However, there may be moments when you are unhappy for no apparent cause. If this is the case, grab a pen and a piece of paper and "write for five minutes or longer without stopping." Not only may you naturally discover what is causing your sadness, but simply writing may help you begin to feel better, as I am writing this piece of writing now. Alternatively, you may try maintaining a journal, attending a yoga class, or meditating - all of which are fantastic ways to focus on your inner self.

As previously stated, avoiding sadness entirely is actually doing more harm than good.

“You can’t heal what you don’t feel,” says life coach and author Nancy Levin.

As difficult as it may be, expressing and embracing your sadness is the first step towards feeling better. "Rather than running away, eating, drinking, or yelling at someone, breathe it in.

"No matter how bad it feels, you just give it more space. When you breathe in, you open to it." Says Tibetan Buddhist nun and author Pema Chödrön.

You may also try "crashing," which is something I do when I'm sad. "I put on music, movies, or shows that I know will help me cry and have a release.

"Only humans exhibit emotional crying," says Dr. Matt Bellace, PhD, psychologist, and self-help author.

According to Bellace, a biochemical examination of tears revealed that the droplets contain leucine-enkephalin, an endorphin known to relieve pain and improve positive emotions. Criers most likely report mood improvement if they receive comfort from others, thus sobbing in front of a close friend or family member, or shredding tears against the pillow, as I do, may be beneficial.

It's time to get a handle on things once you've ugly cried until your eyes burn. It could take few minutes, couple of hours, several days, weeks, or even months. Grief does not follow a timetable.

To avoid going from zero to 100 and back, "lay the groundwork for success by initiating action in the smallest possible increments." Begin with something easy (such as brushing your teeth or washing your face), and then progress in modest, incremental steps (such as preparing coffee or putting on clean, cosy jammies). You might be surprised to find yourself inspired to do more once you get started.

Consider this the inverse of crashing: instead of embracing weepy, tearjerkers, choose an uplifting novel, listen to some music that makes you smile, or watch a couple feel-good movie (my ones are classic rom-com). Alternatively, you could participate in an activity or interest that you actually enjoy, for example volunteering, solving a difficult sudoku challenge, or taking care of to your lavish plants. I enjoy making TikTok videos and reels, as well as doing things like reading books and paying attention to my garden.

What's better? Doing something enjoyable (for example, listening to a comedy podcast or viewing a kitten video on YouTube)."Responding to pain and sadness with laughter can be an excellent coping mechanism."

Of course, the grieving process takes time, "so there is no shame in not wanting to laugh for a while"

Connecting with your favourite person, especially in times of loneliness, can be an effective way to seek assistance. However, I find it difficult to find the courage to reach out.

Reframe your thoughts such that you are no longer thinking about what makes you upset.One method is to simply change negative thought into a happy thought. Rather than telling yourself, "I'll be alone forever," try telling yourself, "I will find happiness again."You'll feel more at ease and less depressed, and you'll finally believe it

Sadness is a universal experience, but it requires courage to transform it into an opportunity for personal growth and a brighter life. Those who acquire this transformative skill will achieve success in their journey.

I wish you all the success. Thanks for Reading.

Written By : Ammu