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Abusive Relationship Quiz: Are You Being Abused?

Relationship abuse isn't always obvious. It can happen in any relationship, whether you're married or not, and it's important to know if your relationship is abusive so that you can get help. If you've been in an abusive relationship and are worried that it might be happening again, this quiz will help give you an idea if your relationship is abusive.

By Army PinkPublished 12 months ago 7 min read
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Socially conscious jewelry holds a significant role in raising awareness about important social issues. Relationship abuse, although not always obvious, can occur in any type of relationship, regardless of marital status. Recognizing the signs of abuse is crucial to seeking help and support. If you have experienced abuse in the past and are concerned about its recurrence, taking this quiz can provide insights to assess the health of your current relationship and determine if it exhibits abusive dynamics. It is essential to prioritize your well-being and seek assistance if needed.

Do you feel like you can't do anything right?

If you feel like you can't do anything right, that might be a red flag.

Abuse is not just physical violence. It can also be emotional or verbal abuse. If your partner is constantly criticizing, insulting and humiliating you in front of others--or even when they're alone together--this may be an indication of an abusive relationship.

If your partner yells at or threatens to hurt you in any way (physically or emotionally), this counts as abuse too! Abusers often use threats of violence as a way to control their partners' behavior and get what they want from them without having to resort for real damage on their victim's bodies; however if those threats become real then it becomes physical violence which is also considered abusive behavior by law enforcement agencies worldwide because it puts people's lives at risk so we need all survivors out there who have been affected by this type of crime against humanity come forward now before more innocent lives are lost due out sheer ignorance surrounding these topics due mainly towards lack adequate education regarding domestic violence/sexual assault prevention programs available within schools systems here throughout America today...

Do they put down your intelligence or abilities?

This form of abuse can be difficult to see as a form of abuse because it is often subtle, but it's important to recognize this as an act of domestic violence and take steps to address it. When someone puts down your intelligence or abilities, they are trying to make you feel less confident in yourself and more dependent on them for approval. This can lead you into feeling like there's something wrong with you if other people don't agree with their opinion about how smart or capable you are--and that means that if any dissenting opinions come up (like when someone else tells them something different), then those dissenting opinions must also be wrong! People who have been put down by others often end up believing this lie themselves over time; it becomes part of their identity until they finally realize what happened and start asking themselves questions like "Am I actually dumb?"

Are they jealous or possessive?

Jealousy and possessiveness are signs of an abusive relationship. In fact, jealousy is one of the most common warning signs for domestic abuse. If your partner constantly makes you feel guilty for spending time with other people or accuses you of cheating just because they saw you talking to someone else, then this could be a sign that they're trying to isolate you from other sources of support so that they have more control over your life.

If someone is jealous or controlling it can be difficult to maintain friendships and relationships outside the one with their partner because they'll become suspicious about everything - even if there's no reason for them to feel jealous at all!

Being in love doesn't always mean being happy. Some people confuse love with jealousy which isn't always true; being in love means making sacrifices for each other rather than trying to control every aspect of each other’s lives (this includes friends).

Does your partner control all of the money?

This is a big one. If your partner controls all of the money, or has a job that's not financially secure, it's time to take a closer look at what's going on in your relationship.

● Does your partner control all of the money?

● Do they have a job? If so, is their salary enough to cover living expenses and bills? How much do they contribute to household expenses each month (including groceries)?

If they don't have enough income coming in from their job, does this mean that you're paying for everything--including rent/mortgage payments for both of you as well as food costs? If so: why aren't things changing when it comes down to putting food on the table or paying bills every month? Are there any plans for change in sight?

Do they criticize you, others, or themselves in front of others?

Criticism is not always abusive. For example, your partner may criticize you for being messy or for spending too much money on a new pair of shoes, but this isn't necessarily abusive behavior. However, if your partner frequently criticizes aspects of your personality (such as being lazy), then it can be considered abusive because it's an attack on who you are as a person rather than just something that's wrong with the way you act in certain situations.

Is your partner physically violent with you or others?

If your partner is physically abusive, this is a serious sign of a problem.

● Get help immediately. If you're in an abusive relationship and need help, find a friend or family member to stay with for the night. If that isn't possible, call the police and ask them to come over immediately.

The most important thing is to get out of the situation as soon as possible--and if they're threatening violence while they do it, even better!

Do they keep you from seeing family or friends, or encourage you not to talk to them about what's going on in your relationship?

If your partner keeps you from seeing family or friends, or discourages you from talking to them about what's going on in your relationship, this is a sign of abuse.

Your partner may also control your social life by telling you not to spend time with certain people. If they do this, it could be because they don't like those individuals and want them out of the picture so that there will be no one else for their victim to turn to for support or help.

Another way an abusive partner might try to control who you talk with is by making threats against others if they find out that person has been talking about them behind their back (for example, threatening "I'll kill him/her"). This type of behavior shows how controlling an abuser can be--they will stop at nothing until everything is exactly as they want it!

Are there certain places that are off limits to you, e.g., bars, clubs, parties, etc.?

If so, why? Do they have a reason for it (for example: "I don't want you going out because I'm worried about your drinking habits."). If they don't have a reason for it and just say "no", this could be an indication of controlling behavior.

Does your partner try to control how you dress, wear makeup/clothes or express yourself in other ways? If so, what kind of control do they exert over these things (e.g., "You're too fat anyway") and how do they try to control it (e.g., "You'll wear what I want when we go out")?

Does your partner try to control how you dress, wear makeup/clothes or express yourself in other ways? If so, what kind of control do they exert over these things (e.g., "You're too fat anyway") and how do they try to control it (e.g., "You'll wear what I want when we go out")?

If your partner has a problem with the way, you look or dress for any reason (including their own insecurities), this could be an indicator that he or she is abusive. It's not okay for someone else to tell you how to look--and if they do it often enough, it might mean that the relationship isn't healthy for either party involved!

Are arguments always over something big, but never about how much you love each other? Or are some arguments more about anger than concern for one another's needs? Or is their anger always directed at you rather than at themselves for whatever problem happened that day (e.g., traffic)?

In an abusive relationship, arguments are not always about love. They might be more about anger than concern for one another's needs. Or their anger could be directed at you rather than at themselves for whatever problem happened that day (e.g., traffic).

Conclusion

If you answered yes to any of these questions, there is a good chance that you are in an abusive relationship. However, if you feel like your partner does care about you and wants the best for both of them, then it's important to remember what we said earlier--abuse can happen even when both partners love each other very much. In this case, it may just be time for both of them to get some help from friends or family members who know about the situation so that they can work together on making it better!

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Army Pink stands for women and girls making a statement for peace in everyday life. A dollar from every Peace Pendant goes to fund transportation to help someone escape an abusive relationship.

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