"Oh, it's that time, look at what came in the mail for you!"
It was Sunday, year 2001, it was a rainy day and the sky was grey and windy, there was a girl named Eva was 25 years old. She had very interesting personality and very good observer. She loved her mother and siblings with all her heart. Eva, was very obedient girl since her childhood. She was always dreaming and lost in her own fantasy world. She loved to go to fishing with her older brother and cooking was her another hobby. She was very talented and creative.
For as long as I can remember, I have been attracted to people of different genders. Even long before puberty, in kindergarten when liking someone had very little to do with any conscious sexual feelings and more to do with innocent butterflies. (I still maintain to this day that my first love was Jessica, when we were both four years old, even though I would struggle to put into words the difference between what I felt wrestling with her in the sofa and what I felt for other bffs I had later.)
We often hear from non-binary people that a definitive gender identity is something that makes no sense to them. It is difficult to estimate how many people identify as either male or female, but it is estimated that about 40% of trans people do not identify as male or female. It is estimated that 40-50% (or about 1 in 5) of the trans population identify as non-binary, which means that they identify neither as "male" nor as "female."
It annoys me a lot that members of the LGBT+ community often are assumed straight or cis until they tell people otherwise. That they're expected to come out to inform people of their identity. It's almost like a ritual of validating themselves as regular human beings.
I didn't intend to fall in love with a girl. It just happened.
September is actually asexual awareness month! I've not done anything for it so far, so I wanted to write something to share with you to raise awareness. Today I thought I should address some common myths about asexuality.
Labeling myself hasn’t been something I’ve given much thought of until a few years ago. Years ago, when it came to my sexuality, I considered myself a lesbian. However, in the last few years, getting into the relationship I’ve been, looking back, and the relationship I’m in right now, I can say without hesitation that I am pansexual. The reason being I don’t think much about the gender of the person I’m attracted to. I’ve been attracted to men, women, transgender women, and transgender men. I’m not leaving out non binary people; I just haven’t been romantically attracted to someone who identifies with this term. If I did meet someone who, they would just fall in with those I’ve been attracted to over the years. My point being, if there was a label I would go with, it would be pansexual because it’s a label that fits me the best. This all being said though, why are labels almost a mandatory thing in the LGBTQ community? Is it even mandatory? All of this comes from my person experiences, along with a little bit of research, so I’m putting that out there now. That being said, lets chat about labels.
Why is it that people act the way they do? Why do certain types of people hate or dislike others just because they are in a different class of society? Why do people judge you because of the mistakes you have made or the person you choose to love? These are just some of the questions you might ask yourself when dealing with other people, I know I have. It is important to remember that not all people are as nice and goodhearted as they may seem and that not everyone will treat you as an equal. People are going to judge you, look and even talk down on you and people will hate you just because of who you are or the things that you believe.
Everybody’s concept of a tattoo is different. For some people it is symbolic, for others it is mere aesthetics; some people do it as a reminder, others for the experience. For me, a tattoo is to make visible what is inside your mind, it is to commission an artist to turn you into a work of art inspired in yourself. Tattoos are permanent and people are mutable, so to choose an image that will tell something about yourself to every person that sees you for the rest of your life it is better to choose something that expresses something so inherent to your identity that you know that it will remain unchanged as long as your flesh lasts.
“What if we did tattoos?”