The Most Taboo Fetishes

SEX. Ok, now that I have your attention. It is something we all do at some point in our lives, it is pretty much the most natural thing a human being can do next to consuming food and excreting it. But yet we don’t talk about it enough, sex remains behind closed doors, pushed away, like we should be ashamed that we are procreating; ashamed that actually procreating without the baby part is still pretty fun.

But sex aside, putting the act of procreation out of the way, what are the darker, more taboo sides of sex? The fetishes that don’t have anything to do with babies and more to do with desire. The fantasies that most people only disclose to their lovers in the dark of their rooms, when they are alone. The kind of acts that need safe words.

These are the most taboo fetishes:

Edge Play

I recently wrote a piece on Edge play as it was something I came across in my late teens and early twenties, in an incredibly toxic relationship. 'Edgeplay' is a subjective term for an activity (either sexually or mentally manipulative) that challenges the normal BDSM structure. BDSM is based on trust and the S.S.C scheme (safe, sane, and consensual). Edgeplay pushes those boundaries, sometimes, as it is implied, right to the edge.

Edge play can become quite addictive; how can you push boundaries, make sex more dangerous, just to show the trust you have in one another? It sounds romantic but after being in a place where this kind of sex controlled my life, it can be a very dark and all consuming fetish.

Blood Play

This involves the cutting and sharing of each others blood. It is a well-known fact that Angelina Jolie and Billy Bob Thornton used to wear viles of each other's blood around their necks and indulge in occasional blood play. I always thought that was quite cute (I'm weird). However, cutting each other and merging your blood is incredibly dangerous, especially if you are not sure of your partner's sexual health status, but yet the risk can make it all the more exciting for those who indulge.

Auto-erotic Asphyxiation

Auto-erotic asphyxiation is the practice of choking someone, or yourself, until orgasm, and letting go at just the right moment. This practice can result in some of the most intense and out of body orgasmic experiences. It can also result in death.

INXS singer Michael Hutchence died this way. The feeling of being strangled to the point of blacking out used to be one of my favourite practices, but like all of these practices, if it goes wrong, if the other person misjudges when to let go, the outcome could be dangerous, if not fatal. It could also result in your partner being convicted of murder for simply indulging in your fetish...something to think about.

Water sports

Water sports is the exchange of urine. Some drink it, some like to be peed on, some enjoy doing the peeing. I’m not ashamed to say that I have indulged in this and actually enjoyed it. I understand why some may find it taboo but I don’t see any harm in a little bit of pee, unless you don’t shower afterwards…

Some take it as far as ‘hard sports.’ I’ll let you work that one out for yourself, but suffice to say, out of all the weird and kinky things people do, that is the one I just cannot get my head around.

Bondage and BDSM

I’m not talking about 50 shades of grey and fluffy handcuffs from Ann Summers, I’m talking proper Shibari ropes, well practiced knots and positions, consensual pain and restriction. It’s taboo because it’s not the norm, although lately the idea of Bondage and BDSM has been made more mainstream with certain films and books taking over the media and porn sites like KINK.com, showcasing every fetish imaginable with the biggest names in porn front and centre.

Ball Busting

Pretty much what it says on the tin. Usually, a gentleman will pay a lady to stamp on/hit/crush his balls and the pain or sensation that is achieved is pleasurable to the crushee.

Sub/Dom

A real sub/dom relationship goes outside of the bedroom. Some sub/dom couples have contracts that the submissive will sign to say they are loyal to their master (the dominant). It is very important to not take notes from toxic portrayals of these relationships; like 50 Shades of Grey, he was just a manipulative asshole. A PROPER sub/dom relationship is built on COMPLETE trust on both sides. There is a bond so strong that the submissive interests their body and life to their dominant, if you understand this kind of interaction, it can be very sweet. Although it will always fall in to the taboo category for most people!

Sex. It comes in all shapes and sizes, there is no one size fits all for what gets us off. Never be ashamed of your fetishes. If you’re having consensual sex with a legal age partner and neither one is getting hurt or doing anything illegal, then pretty much anything goes. Just remember that sex makes babies, so if you don’t want a little version of you, make sure you’re practising safely.