'They' state the brain is the most erogenous zone of the body.
We've all had to sit through "The Talk" at one point or another. Either your parents pull you aside, draw you pictures, and give you a detailed explanation about why your leg might be cramping, or you had to watch that overly-blunt video in your primary school class at the age of 10. Bottom line is, sex has come up in discussion for us since we first learned why boys and girls are born different biologically and what all those "weird gross parts" are for.
From the moment that my first book published to present day, the sweetest words that I get to hear when I'm approached by strangers are, "I've read/checked out your work and I absolutely love it! Keep it up!" Whether they're talking about my writing or their libido, I get a real kick out of knowing that I'm doing a great job and people genuinely enjoy what I do. That being said, let's get into my next blog which literally came out of a discussion with my best friend Valencia. Although I will take credit for setting up the scene aka building the house, I do have to give her credit for laying down the foundation so walk with me, take a look around, the queens collaborated so kiss the crowns!
Imagine it. It's late at night. You're curled up in your significant other's arms. Things turn from innocent to steamy. From steamy to hot and heavy. And then it turns to....what? Do you......have sex? F*ck? Bang?
It all started on a Tuesday, so I spent the weekend in the ER and they confiscated my meds, causing me to stop them abruptly. By disrupting my scheduled times, consequently, they threw me into mania.
In the spirit of being a bit contrarian in today's permissive and hyper-liberal sexual environment, I want to remind people of the value of love in the sexual arena.
Right, so this isn't gonna be some very explicit piece talking about the birds and the bees. Just general thoughts. Don't get your knickers in a twist.
If it has mutual consent, then is sending nude or lewd text messages still considered legal? Many teenagers believe that they are safe to say and send whatever they want through instant messaging, but when does that naïve feeling of security begin to harm reality? Sexting is the sharing of pictures or choice words, via technology, that exploits the body or mindset of the sender to its intended or unintentional receivers (Dictionary.com, “Sexting”). A survey in the year 2012 has proved that roughly twenty percent of male and female students in high school have sent out nude or raunchy text messages and photographs, and over twenty-five percent of that same group of students have resent the same photographs and suggestive text messages on to other children (Ackerman, p. 22). Most children over the age ten are engaging in risk-taking when they send out those types of instant messages, because majority of them do not realize the consequences of their actions. Sexting is harmful because it has long-term effects, it authorizes the approval of public access, and it introduces a mild form of pornography.
There is something which I've never quite understood, and actually I still do not get. Slut-shaming. We are living in 2017 now - almost 2018 - and the word 'slut' can not be used enough. For the people who are not familiar with this word; Slut is used as a 'curse word' for a woman who are seen as sexually licentious. Synonyms are tramp, whore, floozy, harlot, hooker, hussy, and sometimes prostitute. Although that last word refers to professional sex workers. A slut does not get paid to share a bed with someone.
I had mentioned in my blog We are Survivors, NOT Broken about BDSM. I figured now would be a good time to explain how they have helped me and became more than just a community of kinky people.
Most men like to believe they are a God in bed. From their epic oral skills to their grand love-making techniques, I have yet to encounter a man who doesn’t believe he’s the best in the sack. Now of course some dudes actually live up to their boasting and practice what they preach, but for the fellas who reside in an alternate universe and believe the “jackhammer” move is every girls fantasy or that a female orgasm is possible in two minutes, here is a dose of reality for you. If you are guilty of doing two or more things from the list below, you my friend are most likely crap in the sack. Luckily for you though, this assessment comes with some advice and there is no time like the present to learn and improve.
It was back in 2001 when I had sex for the first time. A girl in my high school, named Nicole, committed to make a man out of me. While mother and grandmother were ferociously attempting to preserve my innocence, and to groom me into the Pentecostal church, I saw bewilderment in the darkness of goth, punk, metal culture. The hair, makeup, and self-inflicted piercings, pocket-knife mutilations, and music and theater obsessions were more meaningful to me than a dusty bible and vintage pews. They resembled the part of my existence which screamed, "I am sex deprived, uneducated, and too curious to stay frigid!"