7 Easy Ways to Spice Up Your Solo Sex Sessions!

Solo sex aka masturbation is an important part of self care and self love. We all know that it relieves stress, lifts mood, and improves sleep.

It is a lot of fun when we first discover it but as time goes by we can settle into a monotonous and unimaginative routine.

So if you are stuck in a rut and want to spice it up, check out a few of my tried and tested tips.

1. Slippery and wet!

If you are going to pleasure yourself, why not start with a sensual self massage!

Move your hands slowly and deliberately all over your body and apply that oil to each and every nook and cranny, massaging and exploring yourself. It sets up the mood and builds anticipation of what’s to come.

I prefer the slickest of silicone lubes and rub it all over myself till I am slippery. The pure sight of my shiny naked body makes me feel so sexy. The lube also supplements my natural juices and helps me with all the rubbing and inserting that is to come!

You can take it to a whole another level by getting an oil proof Nuru massage mat and roll around in it without worrying about staining your bed. When I get horny, I grind myself into all kinds of crazy positions. Sliding around naked is a lot of sexy fun!

2. Mirror Mirror on the wall!

The easiest way to sex things up is to place a mirror in front you while you get on with it. Now you have your own private live porn show!

Believe me, there is something inherently sexy about watching yourself do the deed.

I felt a bit weird the first time I made eye contact with myself while rubbing my clit. I guess I was not ready to be comfortable with my own sexuality at that time.

But soon I started to get a strange kick out of watching myself being so dirty. I would spread my legs even further and keep fingering myself, keeping my eyes on that nasty little girl in the mirror, looking at her body till I orgasmed. I didn’t even need porn.

As an added benefit you can practise all the different sex moves and check yourself out in those nasty positions. I make sure to get into some newly discovered debased sex positions and make some horny faces.

It is so deliciously nasty to look into my own eyes as I cum.

3. Get some toys!

Sure, your own fingers and hands can be the most effective tools for self pleasure, but using a toy in the right hole and at the right angle can do wonders as well.

I still remember the first time I used a dildo in my ass. A few days earlier, I had decided I was going to go for it and had placed an online order for a vibrating anal dildo. I became hornier and hornier each passing day waiting for the toy, as I imagined and prepared for what was to come.

It was a strange unexpected sensation when I finally lubed up and pushed it in, but the very fact that I was doing something taboo was turning me on so bad. And when I pressed the vibrate button, a bunch of nerve endings down there came alive.

I finally came as I rubbed myself, and the dildo in my ass took my orgasm to a new level. My anus quivered as I was convulsing, but the dildo kept my anal muscles from fully contracting and forced me to let go even more. It was awesome.

You can even try other items (warning - be careful before you insert to make sure it doesn't get lost down there). I sometimes push the tip of my massage gun into my anus while I rub myself. Or I place it on my crotch and turn it to max as I cum hands free!

4. Hands free!

Speaking of hands free masturbation, do you think it can be as pleasurable as using your own good old trusty paws? I sure didn’t think so.

The first time I tried, it felt like a lot of work. I moved awkwardly as I humped my nub on the pillow. In the mirror, I could see myself glistening with sweat.

But soon I got into the groove and rocked my hips back and forth in a nice rhythm and was fucking the shit out of that pillow. When the pleasure finally built up to the finale, I increased my thrusts, moaned, and came hard.

Sometimes, I stick a dildo with a suction base on a wall or on the floor and act as if I am fucking someone real.

Guys have it easier as they can rub their dick against something or can get a pocket pussy or a full on sex doll to fuck.

It can get insane.

5. Time yourself!

Another way to spice up your solo sex life is to set up a time limit.

When I have all day to myself, I like to edge for hours.

I even take breaks, walk around naked in my house, and go on for multiple sessions. When the time limit is finally over, I allow myself to explode into a massive orgasm.

So, take your time, and set an alarm for an hour or two, or whatever you feel comfortable with, and don't cum until the alarm chimes, no matter what!

On the flip-side, if you are short on time, try to cum before the timer is up.

On occasions, I give myself as little as only two minutes to climax. It can be a fun little challenge, especially when I get horny at work or in a public place.

This is a nice segway to the next topic!

6. Get outside!

Do you always masturbate at the same place at the same time? I used to do the same.

As a private and shy person, I would always masturbate in my bed, mostly before bedtime.

But one day I got horny on the beach.

Warm sun was on my bare skin, beer gave me a buzz, and I was practically naked in public, wearing one of those tiny thong bikinis.

The male gaze on my barely covered crotch was arousing me. A few hours of squirming around made me super horny, but I was too shy to rub myself out in public like that. So I went to my car and did the deed there.

That incident led to an addiction of cuming in public places. The act of planning it out itself makes me so horny. But even now, I am a bit hesitant at first but as I am about I cum, the “fuck it” feeling I get makes me not care who watches and always leads to a super orgasm.

I have done it in my office with my hands hidden under the desk, while hiking near a stream watching over my shoulders, in a movie theater under the cover of darkness, and even while sitting next to my best friend's brother, but that’s a story for later.

If you are not that adventurous, you can try a different place in your own house, bathtub, kitchen, or near the front door. I once did it on the deck and hopefully none of the neighbors found out what I was up to!

7. Max Out Your Fantasies!

If you masturbate to porn videos, I suggest trying something different, like erotica. Reading erotica can spur your imagination, which is the best way to have a crazy good orgasm. It gives you a slow deliberate build up. So try perusing a few sexy stories on my profile or from other authors on this website.

Personally, I like to mix my imagination with a bit of reality. I imagine doing it with someone I know. And know well. Maybe someone close, or even a family member. Hey! It's just a fantasy!

Once, my brother in law was visiting us and I saw him shirtless by the poolside. I grew weak in my knees.

Since that day, I started to masturbate thinking about him kissing me. It felt so real because I was fantasizing about an actual person from real life. Sometimes, I would orgasm as I would imagine his lips on my nipples while my sister sucked him off.

It can never happen in real life, but in my imagination there are limitless possibilities!

Finally, remember to enjoy the journey more than the final release!