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6 Simple Steps That Helped Me Have My Best Orgasm Ever

My eyes rolled to the back of my head as I came in so hard.

By Lora LimePublished 2 years ago 4 min read
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6 Simple Steps That Helped Me Have My Best Orgasm Ever
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I had one of my strongest and longest orgasms yet a few nights ago. My partner made me feel exceptionally cherished and close, which simply added to the pleasure.

I attempted to figure out what was so amazing about that sex session. You don't have an orgasm like that and then not attempt to have another one, right?

The following are the findings I've reached. I recommend that you try these on your wife or girlfriend (or any partner who has a clit).

1. Have sex with her the day before her menstruation starts

I was really horny after viewing a gorgeous scenario (which you can read more about below). I'm happier than I've been in a long time.

What happened the next day, by the way? My menstruation has begun.

People who have periods have been shown in several studies to be highly turned on a few days or so before their period.

So I believe it's reasonable to state that this is a good recommendation in general, not simply a coincidence. (Phew.)

2. Begin foreplay by watching a steamy sex scene with your partner

My girlfriend and I had no intention of having sex the day following Valentine's Day. We were content simply snuggling in bed and watching a sapphic movie on Hulu called "Disobedience."

However, Rachel McAdams' character and Rachel Weisz's character started having sex in the midst of the film. And, unlike previous LGBT films I've watched, this one was essentially a softcore pornographic film. From the continual wailing to the fact that it was a bit visually gory, it was delightfully intense.

We were both clearly turned on after that, and we had sex right afterward.

3. Before stroking or licking her clitter, get her as moist and turned on as possible

I spent at least 20 minutes on my partner before having that great orgasm. And it made me incredibly wet and turned on, exactly as it had done previously.

It's a good idea to be moist enough before sex to make it more enjoyable and reduce the risk of tears and infection.

4. Make eye contact with each other and gently touch one other's faces.

Any form of eye contact during sex has always made me uneasy. I've always answered no when my lovers have asked. I didn't want my girlfriend, with whom I'm in a committed relationship, to see me come for a long.

I was afraid I'd make a strange expression, try too hard to seem seductive, or do something else embarrassing.

But something happened to me the other night.

"I want to look at you," I said quietly. She piled on top of me, and we exchanged glances as she caressed me. I touched her face and noted that I was in such a pleasant mood that my eyes rolled back in my head numerous times.

And that's something I've never experienced before, at least not with a partner.

Extra oxytocin, the "love hormone," is released when you make eye contact, which may aid. It might assist you in feeling closer to your mate.

5. Don't make her feel rushed or insignificant

One of my biggest roadblocks to having an orgasm is the fear that it won't happen or that my partner would get weary of caressing or going down on me.

I'm concerned about taking "too long." Then my mind becomes so preoccupied with it that I lose track of how amazing I truly feel.

Getting wet (or "getting it up") becomes more difficult when you're concerned about your sexual performance. While it may be easier said than done, I recommend that you work on your sexual concerns with your spouse or a therapist in order to have more joyful sex.

Hearing affirmations is one thing that helps me. I feel less worried when my girlfriend tells me how sexy I am, how much she enjoys touching me, and how much she wants me to come. I tell myself that I, too, deserve an orgasm (as long as my partner is game) and that it's fine if I take a little longer than she does.

And before you know it, I'm climaxing afterthoughts like that.

6. Concentrate on the clit (obviously)

This is probably something you already know, but I felt compelled to include it. Clitoral play is crucial in assisting many individuals, including myself, in experiencing orgasm. This is supported by research.

Check out this post from a sex therapist for advice on how to play with your partner's vulva and clit.

Conclusion

Overall, I believe that the finest orgasms have three components: connection, science, and emotional comfort. Some of the advice is based on science and the human body, while others are derived from a healthy, happy relationship and sex life.

But, like with everything else, talk to your spouse about what seems right. These suggestions may not work for everyone, at least not right immediately, and there are a few that I have yet to learn about. (The latter is very thrilling.)

Here's to orgasms that last a long time and are powerful!

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Lora Lime

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