You're Evicted

ASKED BY A PARENT TO RELOCATE TO THEIR OUT OF STATE HOME TO "HELP" with their household crisis, health, business or otherwise, how vulnerable are we to being "evicted" from their home? Is it a valid consideration for the term? By definition, evict means to expel (someone) from a property, especially with the support of the law: "he had court orders to evict the trespassers from three camps" Synonyms: expel, eject, oust, remove, dislodge, turn out, put out, force out, throw out, throw out on the streets, throw out on one's ear, drum out, drive out, dispossess, expropriate, chuck out, kick out, boot out, heave out, bounce, throw someone. out on their ear, show someone the door, turf out, give someone the bum's rush, defenestrate, out.

There is nothing requiring endearment or respect for a family member be they mom or dad, grandparents nor a child of the individual demanding the removal of the other. Nothing is said of the typical requirement for transferral of monies or other goods or services normally agreed to that could create a documented contract for performance and due diligence. The simple presence of an officer in uniform and the issuance of written notice validates the action.

In the case of that individual requested to relocate as "loving assistance" to the requesting parent with no discussion of or expectation for fiduciary exchange they can find themselves on the street at that abrupt change of attitude, last minute whim. Take not that any request should be handled as it would with a stranger and should be held to as if it were a contractual agreement with that stranger.

In the specific event mentioned the requested help was unspecified, but implied help to regain control over a problem with alcohol use was expressedly relayed. It is not rare for an addict or alcoholic to feel distressed or depressed in their struggle to gain control over their lives after slipping under an addiction. Drug or alcohol use from their moment of awakening into the night hours is a habit which needs to be addressed. The would be caregiver/co-dependent is put to task with juggling their continued existence in the household AND the stability of ind and health of their charge and for themselves as well. If the caregiver/co-dependent gets the upper hand, the addicted individual may feel pressured to the point that loss of control of the space where his or her addiction was free to run rampant. While the need for "help" is originally a one sided deficit, it could quickly become a stressload for the rescuing party if they were to actually drop ties to occupational income, children's schooling, any military obligations and personal relationships to be that rescuer only to be cast out with the minimal gain of an upperhand position on the addict's ruination of himself. While no one should consider themselves "well" if he awakens on every morning to get a cup of coffee spiked with his favorite cognac and follow that with several more old fashioned glasses of that cognac. Other than the observation and assist by a caregiver/co dependent willing to linger in his presence, enduring any of many lewd tendencies projected by the addict n their attempt at helping him curtail his "habit" up to and including contracting a profesional consultant to address his health issue. Attentions paid to the co-dependent's own stress becomes an issue in need of an outlet and support where available. While there are as many organizations for alcoholics and drug users as there are for those burdened with trying to patiently care for that person who realized their need for help well enough to ask for help... co-dependents of alcoholics will help the helper.