Why is the youngest child in a family with many children more likely to go to extremes?

In a family with many children, each child in a different position will develop a completely different world and life view. This is not only a function of the parent's genetic predisposition but also depends to a large extent on the differences that result from the position of the children.

If you analyze the birth order of the children, you will find that it is a very interesting thing. The children in the position of the youngest in a family with many children are the most special, and the children in this position are also the most likely to go to the two extremes.

The special status of the "youngest"

The youngest is in a very special position in the family, as she or he has several older siblings in front of him or her, and no younger children behind him or her. In any way, they are the weakest one, and the youngest is likely to be bullied by their family members or older siblings, so there are two completely different ways of thinking about the situation.

The oldest child is unable to be independent because of the "special care"

Many of the youngest in the family are born under the eager expectation of their parents, the youngest carries a lot of expectations and hopes of their parents, which means that the youngest will be the object of protection by the family, parents and even elders often have a strong coddling mentality towards the youngest, which is not a good thing for the youngest.

To give the simplest example, I remember when I was a child in the village of a family that had two daughters, the family looked forward to wanting a boy. Later, after trying many methods to finally give birth to a boy as they wished, the couple treated the youngest child as a treasure.

The family chores are 2 sisters contracted, the youngest child will never do any housework; because of the limited family conditions at the time 2 sisters did not finish junior high school, and was arranged for the parents to go out to work, only the youngest parents have been paying for school.

This is the heart of the parents, parents hope that the youngest child can become a dragon and a phoenix, but things are not what they want, the youngest child has been growing up in the parental love, developed a completely self-centered character, in school with classmates can not get along, the teacher's class can not listen to, the results are also a mess.

The young man later failed to get into college, before and after several jobs in his hometown, each job is not long. Now is close to 30 years old and has not found someone to marry, their parents are at home arranging a variety of blind dates, but the results are not successful.

This example is just to show that it's really hard for the young ones who grow up in coddling to form an independent personality, they (they) are used to having everything arranged for them and think it's the way it should be.

Parents who coddle their young are choking off their children's wings and are destined to prevent them from flying on their own in the future. They lack the courage and confidence to fight for themselves, and even if they have big ambitions in their hearts, it is difficult for them to take the first difficult steps.

The young and the old struggle to catch up because of various stimuli

The young and old are not as good as others in all aspects, and there are always people in front of them who are better than they are. This is an unbearable thing for the little one who does not give in to defeat.

Every day is a variety of things to stimulate, it is like a lion in front of a piece of meat, wanting to quickly eat this piece of meat lion can only keep running bravely.

Receiving constant pressure from all sides, the youngest is likely to excel, and he will even train himself quickly to catch up with his older siblings as fast as possible because of his strong motivation.

If a family is a very loving family, with loving parents and harmonious children, then this family environment will be a great help for the youngest to grow up.

Parents and elders will do everything possible to help the youngest grow up, giving them the most help and assistance, and giving them a lot of space and freedom, the development of the youngest in this environment is amazingly fast, (and they) will find their interests and love direction at the fastest speed, thus largely avoiding the detours.

It can be said that the young and old are the most likely to go to extremes, they are easy to succeed and also easy to fail. A good family environment is simply too important for the growth of the young and old.

Parents' guidance, older siblings' affirmation, and help for their own words and deeds will fill the youngster's heart with a sense of power, and it is this invisible energy that can be the source of the youngster's growth!

Avoid giving excessive love and coddling to your little one, and do not let your little one gain an imaginary dominant position; train your little one to think against the odds, and teach your little one how to learn to resolve and grow in difficult situations.

The appropriate guidance method is the most appropriate time to let the youngster grow up healthy and fast!