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Three words parents should not say when their children go to kindergarten

What will you do when you get to kindergarten if you keep this up?"

By Richard ShurwoodPublished 4 months ago 3 min read
Three words parents should not say when their children go to kindergarten
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Many children have difficulty in enrolling in kindergarten, which has become heartache for parents. Some children cry and refuse to go to kindergarten; some children have a hard time separating from their parents, and parents even have to "go to kindergarten together"; some children do not eat or drink in kindergarten, which seriously affects physical and mental development. In addition to the normal factors of separation anxiety between children and their parents, early childhood experts point out that many times parents inadvertently do "negative reinforcement" for their children, which also leads to a serious fear of kindergarten. The early childhood experts summed up "parents should never say three words to their children" This, A word of warning to all parents of children who have entered or will enter kindergarten.

The first sentence: "If you don't listen to me again, I'll send you to kindergarten and let the teacher clean you up!"


For a long time, parents have been subjected to childhood "intimidation" education consciously and unconsciously influence parents of the next generation of education. When a child is disobedient or mischievous, the phrase "If you don't behave, I'll send you to kindergarten and let the teacher clean you up" often comes out. These words not only weaken the authority of parents but also create an impression for children that a kindergarten is a scary place and a teacher is a scary person. Only disobedient children go to kindergarten, and going to kindergarten is a punishment for the child. When children hear this kind of "nagging" education from parents, their fear of kindergarten and teachers will be reinforced and they will refuse to go to kindergarten.

Second sentence: "When you go to kindergarten, you won't be so comfortable and happy."

Parents sometimes look at their children and say this before they enter kindergarten, intentionally or unintentionally. This negative message can create a fear that kindergarten will limit your child's freedom or happiness even before he or she starts school. Parents should not make any negative comparisons between their child's current life and kindergarten, as this will encourage the child's resistance to enter kindergarten.

Third sentence: "What will you do when you get to kindergarten if you keep this up?"

Some parents do not teach their children self-care and self-reliance, and then criticize and blame their children when they are less capable than their peers. Parents can't help but complain when they see that their child will not be able to eat by himself, dress and undress by himself, or clean up his things. The first thing to emphasize is that children should learn to eat on their own from the age of one, and not wait until they are old enough to enter kindergarten to "surprise" them, as learning requires a process. When parents say this, the child will first feel sorry for himself, feel stupid, lose confidence, and feel that no one can control him or help him in kindergarten, so he will not want to go to kindergarten.

It is a very important thing for your child to go to kindergarten, and it is a top priority for him. The first time he goes from home to kindergarten, there is a period of adjustment to kindergarten, which lasts from half a month to a month. Parents' evaluation of kindergarten, kindergarten life, and kindergarten teachers will greatly affect the child's acceptance of the new environment. Parents' evaluation and expectations of their children will also affect their children's confidence in entering kindergarten. Parents should provide their children with positive information and encouragement to help their children adapt to kindergarten life as soon as possible.


About the Creator

Richard Shurwood

If you wish to succeed, you should use persistence as your good friend, experience as your reference, prudence as your brother and hope as your sentry.

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