Three Good Deeds To Show Your Children

When you are raising children, you are looking for tools to provide to them and guide them through the world, let them grow, and be the human being they want to be. Sometimes there are moments that you don't know what you are doing, what values you should take in situations you have not been in before while parenting. Keep in mind that it is fine to rethink values through the parenting process. We are all human beings after all.

One thing I have been thinking about lately, is what deeds did I gave my children during parenting? This is also a tough question to answer. There are many I gave them. From stuff, to love, as well as playing with them, to guidance them through situations.

So, I will give you at least three good deeds to show your kids. What are the three values in your life do you want to pass on to your children?

Three good deeds that makes you the parent you want to be.

Give unconditional love and support

Your children are happy when they get your unconditional love and support. That means that you have to listen to what your child loves to do. Also, this means support whenever you can with what your child loves to do.

For example: if your child loves to play the guitar and want to make a career out of it, then you should support your child. You do that out of love for your love. Look up information what your child needs to do to make a career out of it.

Another example: if your child loves drawing, painting and other creative things, be supportive. They could make something out of it. When children stimulated by parents to be creative, they will end up in being a better problem solver.

It is that your child know that they always fall on your shoulders when they need you, when you give them unconditional love, and support.

Say more often to your child you love them, say to your child that you will support them no matter what. There are boundaries, like how to do it financially when they are grown-ups, but during their teenage years, you have to provide them with financial support too.

Learn what they love to do

It is important to know what your children are doing, what they like, and dislike. All these things makes you being the most unconditional lovable and supportive parent there is. Learn about what they love to do.

Does your child love reading books? Then ask what kind of books they like. Read the same books as your child. Ask them their favorite part of the book. What are their favorite characters and places from that book? And why do they like them?

If your child likes football/soccer, then find out what you can do to stimulate your child. Especially if your child wants to be a football/soccer player as a profession. Look into this material and search for a good local football/soccer team that stimulate talents and children who want to make a profession out of their hobby. Ask the trainer where they can find information, but also tell the trainer your child wants to make a career out of football/soccer and ask him/her what training program your child needs to follow.

Accept the person who your child is and want to be

Another big part of raising children is accepting the person they become. Of course, there are boundaries, such as no violence, but accepting who they are is important. When you accept them as who they are and who they are becoming are the most important thing in their lives. They feel appreciated, they feel comfortable and lovable. They feel they can actually talk to you for everything and that you will actually listen to them.

This is also guidance your child towards who they are becoming and who they want to become. Your values will be presented. Your rules do exist, but you also need to see them as a whole.

By showing the rules, guide them, speaking to them, listen to them, having fun with them, appreciate them, and all that parenting makes you are doing a good deed because you are actually there for them, someone they can rely on, they will go to when there is something on their mind and so much more that they can trust you with their secrets.

When I am parenting and guidance my three daughters, I try to be close to myself as close to them: how will they respond when I implement a new rule? What are they going to do when there is an issue going on? Their aspects - I believe - are the ones that are a good deed by listening, seeing and hearing them, to be the human being they will be, and I believe the world needs right now.