The stuff Common Sense can’t buy!

I get it. Women want men to provide because if she is financially stable, why should she call on a man for anything?

No, this is not a tear down on black women making more money than men, but a search for those with emotional intelligence! Now as I sit here, a man divorced from a woman that I supported before she became a Doctor in psychiatry and with all the amenities from a divorce that favored her in the State of Texas, I’m still lost as to how women can be so brilliant, yet lack the proper emotional intelligence to know right from wrong.

Now with the kids hanging in the halls of collateral damage, one would think that each parent would want the kids to be in the best position to access success. I know! Many will say off the top, the kids should stay with her as she has the most access to financial means!

However, that is the mind of a simple person not looking into the details and programs that are in place to help the kids with post education. Now I write this article with those of you that are in a situation of 50/50 child custody (which is uncommon) to look at your situation without emotional ignorance.

Yes, I agree there is no situation that mirrors the next, but when it’s all said and done, what is the best outcome for the child resting in the ashes of divorce? This may require both parties putting their egos aside and really coming together with a plan that allows the child to excel!

Now if a well-known prestigious university is offering a full ride for children with a household under a certain income level, that child should be under that household that helps qualify that child for a free ride.

Yes, there are situations that involve domestic violence and even child abuse but I am not talking about those situations. We all know that those are unhealthy situations and the children should be as far as way as possible with scenarios dealing in those similarities.

However, with an atmosphere that is ideal for a child to receive great benefits from a solid program, then where is the problem? I know that no one in their right mind would welcome a $100K plus payment for undergrad with interest tacked on. Who needs that kind of stress?

Now I will not highlight my personal situation for various reasons, but I ask the reader to reach beyond his or her ego and tap into some emotional intelligence and ask the question, “what is the best strategy for my child to succeed?”

I strongly believe that the surface competition of who has the most, who is not in need of the other and the list goes on with the psychopathic goals and standards we maintain just to say that we are better than the next person. While in the same breath, our kids are struggling because their parents cannot put their differences aside and allow the kids the opportunity to excel with less friction as possible.

It’s equivalent to sending a child on their way at the age of 18 with no financial planning or a way to navigate life at such an early age. Then we wonder why there is no legacy in place and the cycle of struggling young adults grow with this crazy economy!

One thing I have learned in life is that in order for my offspring to succeed and do better than I, the playing field has to be set up differently. Unfortunately, the landscape will continue to be the same, with the same social, financial and mental booby traps that will hold us back!

Meanwhile, make that money, SIS! You don’t need him! SMH