The importance of self love

Kids, work, relationships, school, etc. Responsibilites up to your neck, and somebody always needs you for something. You take care of everything and everyone. Always making sure everyone else is happy and their needs are met. What about you, though? Inside you are so overwhelmed, frustrated and just simply lost because you come to realize at the end of the day not once could you do anything for yourself. There may be days where you are so busy with everyone else's needs or problems, that your even forget to feed yourself. Irritable and wanting to just get away from it all, just wanting to find yourself again. Along with the guilty feeling that comes from that. It is simply not fair. Why is it that because you are a mother that you should not be able to take time out for yourself? I mean, we are human too. What people dont realize is the effect it takes on you, being socially isolated from the world. Only tending to the kids, or at work. When you are not at work, you are home with the kids. With very few days off you try to spend your days off with your kids. Trust me, I get it. The only thing about that, is how do you tell your kids that Mommy wants to go somewhere alone or do something by herself, without hurting their feelings. That's the hard part. You just want them to know you love them and that you care. (You) have to care about (yourself) as well. For your own sanity, it is important for self care, self love. The days you would usually just leave the house with messy hair and house slippers on, take the time to do your makeup and brush your hair. Get dressed up and looking good. Do it for yourself. I understand that probably by the time you've gotten everyone else dressed and ready to hit the door you pass by a mirror and then you notice that you are the only one that you forgot to take care of. Your role as a parent is important but you don't have to make it your entire life. Taking breaks for yourself and doing things for yourself you will notice that you might be in higher spirits and a little relieved. That is important, as you don't want to start spiraling downward, and then lose all control. Remind yourself that you are doing the best that you can, and giving all you can give. You are doing everything you are supposed too, so you deserve time to just focus on you or doing something you've been wanting to do. Read, go to the nail salon, things that will help you to relax and give your brain a rest from the everyday chaos it is so badly burned out from. That is not selfish. You are just as important as the people you love and want to make happy. You also cannot do that if you, (yourself) are not happy. It will just drain you. Going for a walk by (yourself), will help you get a clear head and give you a little peace. And, if you feel extremely self-deprived that you feel you don't know what you like or can't think of anything you would find enjoyable, you could take on new hobbies and find new interests. Take care of youself momma, you are important too.

5 minutes of self care: Write down 5 things about yourself that you love. Listen to music that you love. Take a walk on sunny day. Book that hair or nail appointment that you have been putting off. Love yourself.