Sometimes a good divorce is better than a bad marriage.
I was NOT Prepared for My Divorce | Dealing with Divorce
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY: I honestly had no idea what was going on. The only thing I remember simply is that when I got separated, I honestly thought it was just, he goes his way, I go my way, we don’t fit well as a married couple so, let’s just go on with our lives. Little did I know that I was so naïve. Little did I know that I did not understand what was about to come my way. I had no idea that my whole life was going to turn upside down. I had no idea that the stress would be so overwhelming that I ended up sick every single year for six years in a row.
How It All Started
My favorite niece tells tall tales, funny, amusing, uplifting lies. She has a way of spinning ordinary events into engaging yarns, finding fascination and humor in the things adults do, as only a fifteen year old could, poking us in the eye, her long black bangs shielding her questioning blue eyes. The only problem is that when she gets to what feels like the middle of the story, she abruptly stops, smiling, assessing our reaction. Occasionally at these gatherings where she's telling four or five quick stories in a row, someone will ask her, well, what happened next, but more often than not, when the last story is over, we will move on to a different topic. Natalie, I whisper to her, every good story has a beginning, middle and an end. Beginning, middle, end, I'll repeat. Typically she will grin, shrug and engage in another on-going conversation. On other occasions, among muffled laughter, she will make an excuse: that WAS the end, Uncle Sam; you don't KNOW how things end, silly; whatever, Uncle Smartie. But one time she turned sullen and said, "Sometimes you can't tell when things end."Conrad Ilesia
True Divorce Story: Little Sally's pair of Shoes and Grilled Cheesed Sandwich cost $5,000!
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY So, I left Sally’s pink shoes at the father’s house and the father refuses to give me back the shoes. So, I argue back and forth and say, “give me back the shoes- I bought them”. And he says, “no, not giving you back Sally’s pink shoes”. So, I go to my lawyer and I say “he won’t give me back the shoes and I want the shoes back, I bought them, I paid them. Here’s the receipt and I want them back”.
No one is Protected From Divorce | Divorce Planning
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY There’s no way these dramas and stories are going to happen to them…. There’s no way that these situations are going to happen because the X doesn’t have money. The X doesn’t have that power… The X doesn’t have the ability or the capacity to do that… The ex is a nice person- he or she would never do anything like that. And I’ll tell you something, if you think that you can PREDICT what your ex or soon to be ex is going to be like, you are DELUSIONAL. You cannot predict what your soon to be ex is going to turn into just as much as you cannot predict that they’re always going to say and do what they say they’re going to do. Things change, life changes, situations change, people come and go into their lives: new girlfriends, new boyfriends, new husbands, new wives, new circumstances arise. You cannot predict. And this is why all I always say you must at the very, very beginning, even BEFORE you talk about getting divorced, you must carefully and logically plan your divorce.
A Helpful Guide on Alimony and How it is Awarded
It's a common belief that alimony is a guaranteed result of a divorce settlement. But in reality, the court orders alimony only when it finds that the spouse seeking alimony is indeed financially needy and needs spousal support. It could be because he or she spent time looking after children but didn't work, as a stay-at-home mom, or is ill and thus incapacitated to find another job. Even if your partner earns more than you do (or vice versa), it won't necessarily result in getting alimony.Robert Smith
This Divorce Response : "I'll try" Makes Me Cringe!
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY I'm honestly convinced that I should have studied psychology before I got divorced. And the reason is that I think my life would have been easier. I think I would have understood things better. I would have gone through less trial and errors. And life would have been more peaceful post-divorce. And the one main area that I will never forget and certainly still lingers around a little bit is, when I was married, my ex used to always say, when I ask him to do something or anything like that, his answer was always, "I'll try" or "It should be OK" or "I don't see why not, but I'm not quite sure".
This Divorce Response : "I'll try" Makes Me Cringe!
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY: Divorce comes with many annoyances. I’m honestly convinced that I should have studied psychology before I got divorced. And the reason is that I think my life would have been easier. I think I would have understood things better. I would have gone through less trial and errors. And life would have been more peaceful post-divorce. And the one main area that I will never forget and certainly still lingers around a little bit is, when I was married, my ex used to always say, when I ask him to do something or anything like that, his answer was always, “I’ll try” or “It should be OK” or “I don’t see why not, but I’m not quite sure”.
Divorcing? Honor Your Marriage
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY. I often say that it could be that divorce is worse than death. And the reason I say that is because when there is a death of your spouse or your loved one, at the end of the day, after all the grieving and the loss of whatever was, you’re still left with good memories. You want to remember the good days. You want to remember the good times you had together. You want to remember all the good that came out of your togetherness, your marriage, your union, your love. When you are getting divorced, it is the polar opposite. You want to scratch all that. You want to forget every good that possibly happened. You literally, in an instant, overnight, are eliminating every possible good memory that you have together. And I have to tell you that is wrong. We have to learn to honor our marriage.
Your Easy Divorce: Focus on Your Divorce Legacy
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY: You should be highly considering your divorce legacy. I find that one of the greatest challenges that we have as parents is protecting and sheltering our children from unnecessary chaos and drama. And for some families, more than others, I guess, the drama could be severely amplified or severely exaggerated in some way.
Are Children of Divorce Ready?
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY. Parent, marriage and coaching: You know what the one main commonality is between all divorces across the world? No matter if you’re a low class, middle class, no class, CEO, Hollywood star, solopreneur — whatever it is you are, the one commonality is that your children and my children are all going to be leading the world one day.
Divorce Questions: The Art of Storytelling
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY. Divorce can make you a pro at story telling. You will find yourself repeating: "Do you want to know what he just did to me? Do you want to know what my ex just said to me? I can't even believe he had the audacity to say that! I can't even believe he just did that! I have had nothing but problems with him for the last decade, and I am so sick and tired of it, and I don't even know what to do anymore. What do you think I should do? How do you think I should do it?"
Divorce is A Game. Do You Know How to Play It?
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY When I got divorced 10 years ago, I thought it was going to be really easy. It turned out to be extremely litigious. I didn't know what I was doing for many, many years.