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Struggles of trying to conceive.

The battles of ttc.

By Jade AldridgePublished 3 years ago 4 min read
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Many women understand the uphill battle that is trying to conceive. While 45% of 6 million pregnancies are unintended many of the 55% will have struggled to conceive in the first year.

Me and my partner are 7 months into trying for a baby, with my first child already being nearly 4 years old. This is already beginning to look impossible with daily ovulation kits and planning it still is just a matter of luck.

Just over a month ago we experienced a chemical pregnancy which is just a term for early miscarriage, the pain of loss is not one that is easily handled but we picked ourselves up and continued to try again.

Trying to conceive is the most stressful and depressing thing i can imagine, every month your hope is ruined when the test is negative or the bleeding starts, the planning of sex in hope to make it work perfectly but it still doesn't work. A lot of us feel alone and feel as though our partners just don't understand.

In my own mind my partner doesn't understand, he doesn't get the horrible gut feeling whenever the test isn't positive, he doesn't understand the pain of being told maybe next month and continuing month by month and getting nowhere, it's all just put on the women.

Then after a while you start to doubt yourself.

Maybe there is something wrong with me?

Maybe i can't have kids?

Everyone else gets pregnant so easily, why am i struggling?

We never think that the problem could be the partners its always ourselves we put the blame on.

I was diagnosed with PCOS a year ago and i know it will make it hard for us to conceive at any point but we all know what we need to do to conceive but not many people can do it.

We have to let go!

Most pregnant woman i have spoke to all say the same thing, they gave up trying. They took a step back and said trying for a baby should not be m controlling thought and although i know first hand that this is true, it is almost impossible to let go.

I tried for my daughter for over a year. Constant testing and planning for the perfect time to catch, but it never worked. After so much failed hope me and my partner went to the doctors, we gave up hope and handed it all over to the doctors. I had blood test after blood test and while waiting on my results and planning for my partners tests i realized i my period was late and just like that i found out i was pregnant.

So the more i look at it the more i know to get pregnant, you have to lose the thought of trying and just have fun with your partner.

Now you know my story here are some tips on how to get pregnant for those new to mapping out their cycle.

1- Record your cycle

Many people may have different opinions on the best app to use but i use the app glow. Glow has an amazing community of woman that love to help with any problems and queries.

2- Monitor ovulation

Monitoring ovulation does not need to be expensive, a lot of woman recommend clear blue ovulation tests but to those of us that cant afford them i believe one step ovulation strips from amazon or ebay work just as well, or if you are looking for reusable maybe baby ovulation microscope is easy to work out.

Other ways of learning your ovulation is through cervical mucus, gross i know. Cervical mucus changes through your cycle but the kind you need to keep an eye out for is what they class as fertile cm, either egg white cervical mucus which as it sounds is usually stretchy and clear like egg white or even watery is classed as fertile.

3- Have sex every other day in fertile window.

A lot of people believe the best way to get pregnant is to have sex multiple times a day every day but that isn't the case that is more likely to lessen the quality of your partners sperm.

4- This one may not seem important but take prenatal vitamins.

No you may not be pregnant but taking prenatal vitamins up to 3 months before pregnancy can help lower many of the pregnancy risks and make the womb more habitable.

I wish you all luck on your journey of trying for a baby or how we say in the Glow app we wish you plenty of baby dust.

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About the Creator

Jade Aldridge

i am a 24 year old mum and step mum to 3. i have a pull to writing, but i am still learning. My hope is to eventually have some kind of income from my writing.

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