Stages of Union

Why do so many women fight for the “equal right” to consent for their bodies to be used, instead of cherished in a holy multidimensional union with one man deserving of her? Why do so many men glorify the idea of having as many conquests as possible, instead of a committed, consuming, sacred union with one woman he would willingly give himself up for?

It is because we have been programmed to forget the stages of Union that are encoded within us, once God awakens them in us through the relationship with Him.

The UNION of INTENT: Intention through Courtship is a man’s first initiation of leadership and faith, and a woman’s initiation into softening and trust. If this stage of union is embodied through Engagement, then he and she initiate each other into purposeful preparation for sacred Union.

The UNION in COVENANT: The sacred union of Marriage is both a terrestrial bond and eternal bond, where “two become One” (God’s original design). It is a Covenant union, sealed in relationship with God as a tenet of the cosmos. It is a “holy love”, the sacredness of which is witnessed, then set in symbolic stone.

The UNION of BODY: Within the sacred Union of marriage is the completion of our individual designs as masculine and feminine beings; the perfection of our relational oneness with each other: the body & soul Union of Co-creation. We become the very embodiment of fecundity, progeny and legacy.

Only a God-led man can take a woman where she cannot take herself. Only a God-led woman can inspire a man to lead her and rise to where he never thought himself capable.

The stages of Union are ascending integrations of man and woman: the masculine and feminine coalescing into the devotional oneness that God designed them for within this very fabric of this cosmos.

Union at every stage has always and will always be two becoming One; always and will always be One (man and woman in a union), reflecting and glorifying God, a loving Father in relationship with creation.

Why a Woman needs God and Devotes to God first, before devoting to a Man

Our need for God is the embodiment of our femininity. Having faith in God requires full surrender and trust, which are the central qualities of feminine design. The feminine is wired, templated in fact, to be led by the masculine provision, supported by stability and direction. Like marriage, it is when a woman chooses this Union (integration) with Him, that He supports her in every aspect of her life: health, relationship, provision, etc

Devotion to God is mirrored in our devotion to men

When we have First Devotion to God, er are led by His principles (one of which is discernment), so that we “guard our hearts” and only open it up to for a worthy man who is a reflection of God’s holy, masculine aspects. A “God-held woman” only gives her devotion to a man who-like God- she would be happy to trust and surrender to. When we are anchored in God, we have values, standards and boundaries that befit the daughter of a King.

Devotion to God ends our self-sourced striving

Radicalized feminism led us to believe that needing the masculine is weak. This looks like ‘women empowerment” tropes of all kinds, centered on the deletion of the Masculine presence and principle. But the feminine cannot create without being seeded by the Masculine: That is universal Tuth that even God follows. We cannot be “penetrated” when we have “filled our cup” on our power and through transactional receiving. When we need God, however, we end this cycle of self-sourcing and begin to truly receive.

Rejecting God as the masculine can look like:

• Dismissing our primal feminine yearning for Him (and believing we find it in transactional receiving with men)
• Casual sex
• “Armoring up”
• Looking down on men
• Settling for any man for fear of being alone
• Hustling in business (sacrificing health, satisfaction)
• Pushing the body (adrenaline fatigue; hormone crashes)
• Birth control
• Money issues (receiving; charging clients; not being able to save; overspending)
• Refusal to heal the relationship with Masculine …to name a few

Devotion to God (so we can devote to a man) can look like:

• Healing “father wound” (forgiveness integration)
• Being led by Him through relationship (the true “intuition”)
• Inspired by Him for purpose, creativity, fun, and pleasure
• A healthy sense of feminine sensuality
• Appreciation for beauty
• Gratitude attitude
• Is energetically postured as open, soft and receptive
• Able to trust her steps because she trusts His lead (discernment; has agency)
• Self-responsible for her choices ...to name a few

Being supported to be in devotion to God can be like:

• Being guided/mentored in her inner relationship with God
• Journeying with a tribe/community of like-minded women with a similar devotion to the Masculine
• Being guided in her transitions, transformation, in forgiveness and emotional integration of God wound/father wound healing
• Relationship support, specific to her life stage with men
• Submitting her “feminine chaos” to structure and order through masculine principles …to name a few

How ready are you to be a “God-held feminine woman”? Where are you needing God’s masculine presence, so you can devote to your man? Are you ready to fully love and be loved without excuses?