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Save your marriage before it starts to fall apart

The secret to a happy marriage

By Shi WeiPublished 2 years ago 5 min read
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Save your marriage before it starts to fall apart
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Have you ever wondered how married couples who love each other stay together and seem to love each other more? Or how they do it and what their secrets are? I guess if it could all be answered in a few words, and everyone does, this article would end here, we would be done and dusted, the package delivered, and I'd be out - in peace.

Unfortunately for me, we're just getting started.

Your marriage begins the moment you say "I do" to the person you love, the person you know you will always have by your side for the rest of your life. But how do couples keep their love alive and burning with enthusiasm in their marriage? First, before you get married, you both must know what you have in common, what you don't have in common, what your weaknesses are, and what your strengths are. It makes sense to know how to identify possible problems and how to deal with them before the marriage begins. The sacred marriage vows, the commitment between the couple, should always be remembered and honored.

While couples look forward to a bright future when they marry, they also assume problems, conflicts, and struggles. The struggles that test a couple's relationship, even to the point of breaking up. Marriage can be separated from the struggles it goes through, or as the old saying goes, anything that doesn't kill (the relationship) only makes it stronger, whether it is a relationship or a married couple. Couples need to rely on each other to deal with all the problems and disagreements they encounter along the way.

But today, when married couples are faced with conflict, they tend to exit the marriage immediately rather than work things out. To bypass this reality and help save and protect your marriage before it's too late, here are some tips and advice you may need to know.

In any conflict, dilemma, struggle, or argument - negotiation and communication are paramount. Listen to what your spouse is saying to you. Listen, listen, listen, whatever you do, don't interrupt them while they are talking, don't try to solve the problem until you have heard all the facts, don't be negative, and cause more arguments about any issue because it will hinder your progress. Listen to your partner with an open and understanding mind and a loving heart. Sometimes your partner may need your understanding that you don't have to solve all their problems all the time, they may just need you to hear them, support them or tell them you are sorry for any problems they are going through or that you are sorry and they are struggling to find the words they need to express and explain their situation or that you are sorry and they are having a hard time mustering up the courage they need to deal with. what they're going through in this difficult time. We all need to have the love and support of our partners. We need our partners to be on our empathy board, to vent to them about any thoughts, frustrations, or problems that we may have bottled up or vented about anything that is stressing us out or that we don't like. That said, we also need our beloved partners to give them a big hug and tell us that everything is going to be okay. We need our partners to be our empathy board, to vent to them about any thoughts, frustrations, or problems we may have bottled up or vented about any issues or things we don't like that are stressing us out. That being said, we also need our beloved partners to give them a big hug and tell us that everything is going to be okay. We need our partners to be our empathy board, to vent to them about any thoughts, frustrations or problems we may have bottled up or vented about any issues or things we don't like that are stressing us out. With that said, we also need our beloved partner to give them a big hug and tell us that everything is going to be okay.

Be strong and stay positive. When the marriage is fresh and there is a strong attraction between the couple, they will notice the cute little things the other does, but over time, without warning, they will start to notice the little things they are not interested in' disliking or becoming annoying and inconvenient, to say the least. To avoid the drama of a big wedding breakup, couples need to remember the first time they fell in love with each other, or the cute little things the other person did when they were newlyweds, and whatever you do, don't complain about it. Complaining to your partner or directly to them has always felt like a constant kick in the guts, and it's not pretty, not at all. Too much nagging and complaining will cause them to stop listening - leaving them very angry, frustrated, and hurt. The best approach you can take is to take a higher stand and communicate your choice of complaint options to your partner in a positive, constructive way so they don't feel scared, offended, or embarrassed. Always remain calm, cool, and collected, and don't forget to give credit when credit is given to your partner for their mature attitude towards the issues you raised, the positive and wise qualities they have made for the relationship, and the understanding you will have when you love and admire them.

Spend lots of quality time together and you will both appreciate each other's company and become closer in the process. Don't just limit yourself to talking about your problems when you're out or on a date - the time you spend together talking about them should be happening all the time. It's also important to talk about positive things. It's a good thing to mix negative issues with positive ones; no one wants to hear the negative all the time - it's too frustrating. So communicate your fears and concerns to your partner, and just remember to mix the positive with the negative in your discussions and conversations, and you'll be fine. Whatever you do, don't talk to your partner about the little problems you're having at work, with your family or friends.

Remember that when you first meet, sex is an important part of what makes your relationship exciting, engaging, and exhilarating. Don't forget intimacy and deep affection. Take the time to express your true love for each other and remember that having a happy relationship revolves around more than just a lot of sex.

We only live once, so live the moments that take your breath away with the people we love and cherish those memories forever.

Precious memories of the times you spent together at home, snuggled up on the couch, slept together on the weekends or holding hands as you walked down the street or at the mall or took a bath or shower together, or gently kissed on the neck or massaged the tense muscles of your loved one or the light crest on the cheek. It is about connecting, emotionally, and touching each other in a non-sexual way. By touching each other physically in a non-sexual way, you show true connection and love for each other.

To save your marriage before it starts to fall apart, your marriage relationship needs to do a few things to ensure its success. Compassion, acceptance, patience, understanding, empathy, communication, and love.

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Shi Wei

I like to travel, but I don't like to arrive at my destination.

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