Poor dad, rich dad, and dads like me.

there's a book called ''rich Dad and Poor Dad." and the author appears to be japanese,but he's actually American.

Well, it can only be a book written by an American.

In this East Asian civilization, it's rare for a son to write a book speaking ill of his father.

But this book does exactly that, saying that his own dad is a poor dad, with rigid thinking, lacking ambition, and far inferior to the fathers of his neighboring friends.

In East Asian civilization, it's only the parents who speak ill of their own children. I've never seen a book where someone speaks ill of their own parents and becomes a bestseller.

The author of this book, Robert Kiyosaki, is a Japanese-American born in Hawaii. After writing this book, there's no news of his dad getting angry, scolding him for being disrespectful, or their father-son relationship being hurt... none of that.

In American culture, parents can also be evaluated. On weekends, churches talk about "Our Father in heaven," who is the highest authority. Below that, there's no divinity, so they can be criticized.

In East Asian civilization, the emperor and parents come first. How can one be loyal to the emperor if they're not filial? Therefore, both the king and parents have a divine status and can only be looked up to, not criticized.

In other words, being a father is relatively easier in East Asian civilization.

Moreover, being a father was even easier in ancient East Asia than it is now.

Nowadays, it's obvious that Mother's Day is more important, while Father's Day often feels perfunctory. Why is that?

Because in the past, there was an emperor, but now there isn't.

During the time of having an emperor, Father's Day was celebrated almost every day. People had to love their fathers, and it was an important part of role-playing. People loved their fathers, placed ancestral tablets for their ancestors, showed respect to their neighbors, showed respect to the officials, and showed respect to the emperor. Look how filial I am to my father, I will also be filial to you, officials, and even more filial to His Majesty the Emperor!

Once the emperor was gone, there was no need for role-playing anymore, and naturally, people discovered that mothers were greater and loved them more. As for fathers, well, they were forgotten.

So, during the time of having an emperor, fathers held a higher status than mothers. But in the absence of an emperor, fathers became less important than mothers.

Nowadays, without an emperor, fathers aren't important. If you happen to live in the United States and are a father, you should know that the previous aura is completely gone. Respect from your children, love from your family, all of that needs to be earned through your efforts.

If fathers cannot be criticized or evaluated, then usually they are bad fathers.

If fathers can be criticized and evaluated, it means that being a father also has standards to meet and can push fathers to improve.

There's no doubt that my children will evaluate me: Is this person a poor dad or a rich dad? A passive and decadent dad or an actively responsible dad?

Just thinking about it feels quite challenging.

.As a father, I understand that respect and love from my children must be earned through my actions, and I am ready to embrace this challenge wholeheartedly.

In conclusion, despite the cultural differences between East Asian civilization and American society, I believe that fathers can benefit from constructive criticism and evaluation. By willingly accepting this responsibility, I strive to become an actively responsible dad, nurturing my children's growth and guiding them towards a brighter future.