Nature vs. Nurture
Nature vs. Nurture

Parenting Truth

by Paige Whitaker 2 years ago in advice

“Let them live.”

Parenting Truth

Parenting is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, financial, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. When people think of parenting, they picture changing diapers, messy feeding times, chasing them around a grocery store, little league, back to school shopping, or paying for school lunches.

You think your job as parents is to teach your children about love, respect, selflessness and to be a good person to everyone around, right? How do you expect to teach them that? Maybe by the way you act toward strangers outside of the house and doing favors for your family?

You think you know what’s best for them, right? Do you really know them, though? Yes, you signed your son up for little league, but isn't he into theater? You signed your daughter up for cheer to get her more involved with her peers, but isn't she known as the outcast at school?

Sometimes, just being physically present is not enough. Being there physically doesn’t matter as much as being there mentally. Think about it. Tell me, does your child tell you what's been going on in their life? Has your daughter told you about her losing her virginity? What about your son? Your child shouldn’t feel like a possession, yes that is true. Your child also shouldn’t have to feel like their mind is their home that they're trapped in and seeing all the their fears written on the wall.

When was the last time you told your child you were proud of him or her? Actually think about this, what was the last thing you said to him or her? Because you never know, it could be your last. A majority of you guys would say that you either yelled at them for laying around, not doing anything around the house, or even sleeping too much. Do you ever wonder why your child is so exhausted all the time? To you, there is no reason to be because we are only children, right? Parents, they aren't physically tired, it's mentally! They are tired of fighting. Tired of hiding. Tired of working everyday to please everyone. Tired of being a disappointment. Tired of pretending, tired of being alone. Tired of wishing for a life they will never get. Tired of being someone they will never be.

If you were emotionally involved, you'd know that. If you were truly there, you'd know that your son doesn't want to play sports that all he wants to do is act. But that's not what you want your son to do. So that's not what he's going to do. You'd know that your daughter doesn't actually have friends because she pushed them all away due to her trust issues, but she says she does so you don't see her as a loner as the other kids at school do. But little do you know she actually walks the halls alone keeping her head down and her voice low so no one will talk to her. She doesn’t raise her hand in class so people won’t know she’s smart. She doesn’t wear makeup so people won’t look at her. She does these things so that way she won't get attached just so they can up and leave her like everyone else did. You could have stopped her attachment and trust issues. You could have let him live his dream and become a artist. But you didn't know. You see parents you only raise what you wish you could have been. You raised what you’ll never be. Why do that to your offspring?

They will never be you. So let them be themselves.

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