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My Husband Has Become So Boring (How To Be Happy With A Boring Husband)

by Melody Khloe 2 months ago in married
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Are you in a marriage where you're saying my husband has become so boring? Well you're not alone in this at all...it happened in my marriage, and many (if not most) other women's marriages too. But it doesn't have to mean strife in the marriage if you do things right. Read on to find out how to be happy with a boring husband.

All married couples experience problems now and then; it is simply the fact of life. But how we handle those problems makes a real difference between a good and a bad marriage.

It is very important that you both work at it and focus on a solution you can both live with. It takes a lot of effort and good will, but there is simply no other way to save your marriage. What did we forget? Oh yes, let me repeat: compromise, compromise, compromise.

There could even arrive some serious challenges some couples will be facing during certain life periods. Here are some typical examples: the need to care for an aging parent, different styles of disciplining children, depression and depressive behavior, job loss and problems with money.

Boredom

But the problem I would like to discuss today is not necessarily related to such a specific cause - it is more likely a problem that comes from the way you treat your partner and yourself. Yes, today I would like to talk about boredom in marriage.

Sometimes even most prospective marriages will break down purely through boredom. Although most people enter into marriage with the best of intentions, it doesn't always work out as planned. Many marriages degrade in quality over time.

According to a recently released survey about marriage, more married people grow tired of one another more quickly than ever. Instead of the so-called "seven-year itch", studies show that couples are now at greatest risk for breaking up just before their fifth anniversary.

Your Marriage Can Grow

Boring marriages are often those whereby one partner is totally disinterested in the other. People tend to forget that it is difficult to keep a marriage relationship alive and well. It takes work and mental flexibility.

Remember, your marriage is either growing and expanding or shrinking and fading. And you should be realistic about your marriage: if you get married there will for sure be routine and sometimes you will get bored.

But again I will stress: it's how you deal with boredom that will make a difference between a good marriage and a total fiasco.

Do Something New And Exciting

When you feel routine bogs things down, take some proactive steps and change the pace from time to time.

A long weekend in a romantic hideaway would be ideal, but even a few hours in a motel will do. Don't tell anyone where you are, turn off your cell phones, and unplug the TV. Take that time for just for two of you. Enjoy.

Do something nice once in a while. Go get a spa treatment sometimes. If you can't afford that, just take a bubble bath at home together!

Date your spouse. Go to movies or theater together, or go eat out together. If you feel like staying at home, get a movie in your local video store, turn off lights and watch the movie cuddled up. A good bottle of wine will help you to create a romantic mood. These simple things will remind you of the times you were younger and just started building your relationship, and will help keep the marriage fresh.

Have Fun - Together!

If you have kids, reserve some time for just two of you. Hire a student for babysitting or make a deal with other couples so you can take turns to baby-sit the kids while the other couple can go out.

Spend more quality time together. That involves a lot of talking and especially listening, a lot of laughing and sometimes even crying. Share all those special and not-so-special moments. Try to become one, physically and emotionally.

Set aside time for yourself. Listen to music you like, or read a good book. Get together with your friends without your spouse or kids once in a while.

Be happy, don't complain all the time, and learn how to feel good about yourself. If you are happy you will notice everyone around you will feel happy as well.

And once you have kids, don't forget you are still a human being, made of flesh and blood. Don't suppress your sexual desire, don't ignore your needs. Don't let the passion die. You are married, you have worries - but nevertheless you are still alive. Stay in shape - getting married doesn't mean you should just let your looks go. Keep the fire in your relationship burning!

The Easy Way Out

Actually most of the complaints people have about their marriages or relationships going stale can be fixed if both people cooperate to address the issue.

Unfortunately people often take an easy way out: instead of trying to re-ignite the spark in their relationships, they would rather find someone else to give them thrill and joy they lack in their own marriage. Wouldn't it be more reasonable and productive to give your partner a chance to fix the problem before resorting to adultery?

After all, it won't be long before that new partner will become the same bore. And what would you do then? Will you just keep going from one partner to another hoping one day you will find someone "interesting enough"?

Until you change yourself, until you realize it is not someone from the outside that will make you feel better, you can spend the rest of your life and never find the partner you are looking for. There is no "external" cure for your problems: it is YOU who must make an effort and make your relationship work!

Thinking about regaining the status of "Happily Married"? It is possible, and is not difficult if you think it is not. But exactly how you do so? If you would like the source most couples used to revive their relationship, strengthened their marriage, regain trust and love in the marriage and not giving up then visit Secrets To A Happy Marriage

Now you can stop your lover's rejection…even if your situation seems hopeless! There are specific techniques that will show you exactly what to do and what to say to get your spouse back in your arms- Especially if you are the only one trying… Visit this Helpful Site to find out more.

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