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My Husband Acts Like He Hates Me (How To Know If Your Husband Secretly Hates You)

Are you in a marriage where you're thinking my husband acts like he hates me? It is quite heart breaking right? Probably even more so than you thought it would be. This article will show you how to know if your husband secretly hates you.

By Ron CollinsPublished 2 years ago 6 min read

Loving someone who does not show signs that he loves you back can be a very painful experience. There is nothing like feeling love for someone and not having it returned, especially when that person is your husband.

For married couples, life is supposed to be a road that the two of you travel together. On the road of life, together you will come to beautiful oases and comfortable rest stops at times. At other times, it will seem like all deserts and potholes mile after mile. But either way, somehow the journey is sweeter when you have someone whom you love - and who loves you back - to travel it with.

You may suspect that your husband has fallen out of love with you. The reasons for your thinking this could stem from anything from "just a hunch" to having rock-solid evidence that he doesn't care for you anymore like you'd hoped he did. However, it can be easy to second-guess yourself. After all, what if your suspicions are wrong and he is just experiencing some other difficulties which are getting in the way of his expressing his love for you?

If you are saying, "What are the signs that my husband doesn't love me anymore?", here are 5 possible signs:

1. Your husband seems outwardly hostile when you try to get closer to him:

Sensing the emotional distance between the two of you, you may at times find yourself trying extra hard to get closer to your husband by doing nice things for him or showing him extra love. If you sense that doing so just serves to push him further away or he even acts hostile toward your advances, this could be an indication that he is trying to end the relationship but doesn't have the guts to do so directly.

2. He does not seem at all sympathetic when you are going through pain:

When something particularly bad happens to your or you just have a hard day, does your husband show you sympathetic support or mainly apathy and a lack of caring? Having sympathy for another human being is an important sign of love.

3. Your husband actively ogles at other women right in front of you:

If you often catch your husband openly staring at other women while not caring that this bothers you, he is acting very disrespectfully toward you and the relationship. It is hard to love someone you don't respect.

4. He disrespects your family and friends:

When a man loves you, he will show respect to your family and close friends. If he generally acts disrespectfully to everyone who is important to you, what does that say about his level of love for you? Not much, unfortunately.

5. He consistently makes plans that do not involve you in any way:

When your husband talks about his future dreams and plans - whether it involves next summer's vacation plans or your future dream home - pay attention to whether these dreams include you or just himself or his friends. How big a part do you play in his future?

Look for one or more of these possible signs that your husband doesn't love you anymore. On the other hand, if you believe he still may love you, then you need to get to work right away to help heal your relationship before his inability to express his love to you tears your relationship apart.

Why Does He Act Like He Hates Me? - Find What's Going Wrong With Your Relationship

The fire of the relationship comes on strong, then has a nice stretch at about half throttle, then tends to slowly work its way down to what many couples would call boredom. This can be confused as relationship problems or you may even think you husband doesn't like you anymore, but that certainly is jumping to conclusions.

Men tend to become bored in relationships a little more quickly than women. They get comfortable around a woman after a while and just lose some of the attention and courtesy they once had. This doesn't mean the love is dead, though it could be, but it could also mean that you just need to make an effort to spice things up a bit.

The best way to combat this boredom, or whatever else it could be, is to confront it. I'm not talking about confrontation in terms of fighting, but more of a heart-to-heart discussion with your lover. Healthy relationships should be having these discussions anyway - it's called communication.

Sit down with your man and let him know that you've noticed that he isn't as at tentative as he once was. Discuss some ways to spruce up your love life a little bit. This can be with more adult ways, and you probably know what I'm talking about, or it can be with simple quiet romantic evenings together without the kids running around screaming. You'd be surprised, many men like to talk about this stuff, but they just don't know how to start the conversations.

How to Solve Marriage Problems

Do you feel stressed out worrying about your marriage problems? If so, here are 3 keys on how to solve marriage problems so you can create more peace and harmony within your family...

Key #1: Know what you want

Whatever your marriage problems are, whether they are related to money children housework sex not spending enough time together lack of communication etc

The first thing you need to do is to figure out: What do you want instead? For example, your husband doesn't spend enough time with you. You feel neglected. But do you really know what you want instead? Can you be specific about it. Of course you want him to spend more time with you. But, how much more time? Perhaps you want him to spend Friday and Saturday nights with you, plus the whole of Sunday. You will need to be clear about what you want before we get to the next step...

Key #2: Be prepared to negotiate

Once you are armed with the knowledge of what you want, you must then state them clearly to your husband. Be specific! Telling your husband you want him to communicate more with you is extremely vague. It's better to say to him "I want you to talk to me for 10 minutes everyday before you go to bed. During this 10 minutes, please share the details of your day with me, and also ask me how my day was. I need you to listen to me and repeat back to me what I said. Can you do that?"

If your husband is not agreeable to your request, ask him what he would prefer instead. Then do your best to find a solution that will make both of you happy. If you can't think of a solution immediately, tell your husband that you will think about it and get back to him.

Key #3: Good Timing

One key to successful communication within a marriage is learning how to pick a good timing to discuss difficult topics. Don't try to start a serious conversation with your husband when he is - Tired - Stressed - Angry - Busy with something else

If you need to, make an appointment with your husband. Say to him:"Can we please meet at 10pm tomorrow to discuss this issue?" This allows your husband to mentally prepare himself for the conversation ahead. Be considerate and give him some time to think about the issue instead of forcing him to make decisions or come up with brilliant ideas on the spot.

Learning how to solve marriage problems is one of the best things I've done in my life, but I didn't figure it all out overnight. Be patient with yourself and your spouse. Just keep practising and I know things will get better.

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