In middle age, please cherish the person who is good to you

Life is complicated, and we have to deal with different people every day.

When dealing with people, if you want to care about everything, you will make interpersonal relations too tense and lose the people who are good to you.

And "let" step, not only can show a person's self-restraint, but also a reflection of the wisdom of life.

To parents, let color

In the Analects of Confucius, Zi Xia asks about filial piety, and Confucius says, "Lust is difficult!"

It means that we treat our parents as filial if we can keep a nice face.

Not long ago, I saw a video of a middle-aged man and his mother having dinner in a small restaurant.

In the video, the man impatiently urges the mother opposite him to eat quickly.

The old man said to the man, "Son, this food is a little spicy."

The man replied angrily, "It's not spicy at all. Hurry up and eat. I'm in a hurry!"

The old man again almost imploringly said: "Well, that's mother is old, eat slowly, you don't angry ah!"

The MAN stared, raised his voice to say: "quibble again IS, I WHICH HAVE SO MUCH TIME TO SPEND WITH YOU, grind grind ALL DAY LONG OF, YOU BORED NOT BORED!"

The old mother in the video had to silently lower her head and wipe her tears. Her submissive appearance in front of her son made people sad.

In life, children like this to their parents face a lot of things, how many children can buy a car for their parents, but can't talk with them to chat; Can send food and drink, but do not want to spend time together.

For parents to do things perfunctory and impatient, for the things to explain to parents but strict requirements, if not meet the requirements, light to parents jilted face, heavy is noisy and scold also have.

We are polite and patient to others, but impatient to them.

In the first half of their life, they use the best years to shelter us from the wind and rain; In the second half of life, they get older, but we begin to despise them.

In this life, we are all parents' first choice, but parents are often our last choice.

Parents, there is still a place in life;

Parents go, life only way back.

In the face of aging parents, we should be more patient, more smiling face, do not wait until "kiss not to be", just too late to regret.

They raised me with love, and I will grow old with love.

To love, let reason

There's a great quote on the Internet that goes like this:

"Those who reasoned with their wives and won, eventually left."

This sentence points out that the intimate relationship between husband and wife is based on "emotional interaction" rather than "reasoning".

In the variety show Dear Inn, Liu Tao was angered by her husband Wang Ke's "reasonability".

Once it was going to rain, Liu Tao was afraid that a dozen boxes of goods would get wet, so he wanted to ship them all back.

When she told her husband this idea, Wang Ke explained the reason to Liu Tao: "Aren't people like you exhausted by things? Why do we have to work ourselves to death? So you're not handling it the right way."

"Yes, I see," said Liu Tao.

In fact, Liu Tao's perfunctory answer showed that she did not want to listen to her husband's reasoning. She wanted to use "um" to express her agreement and end the communication on this matter as soon as possible.

However, the husband was oblivious and continued to preach to his wife: "I don't mind you spending money, I mean you can't do more than you can do, or you will work yourself to death... I'm not taking it personally, I'm taking it personally how you handled it."

Even if Wang Ke did not aim at his wife, he can chatterhouse or caused his wife's dissatisfaction, Liu Tao unbearable ground said: "I again how, you don't say I can?"

In life, I often see my husband clinging to reason, causing unhappiness between husband and wife.

At the end of the show, Liu Tao wrote a letter to her husband, Wang Ke, which included this sentence:

"Today I understand what you mean, I understand what you say, but I still want to tell you, sometimes, women don't want to listen to reason."

The essence of being reasonable is to distinguish between right and wrong. If the husband and wife repeatedly emphasize right and wrong, it will cause great harm. The two people who love each other will try their best to be the "bad judge" of each other in the dispute again and again.

The basis of marriage is love, not reason, so make marriage more beautiful, is "love", not "reason".

Home is our haven, is the place where the two hearts are close to each other, if blindly only "reason" is respect, will only let husband and wife feelings separation, gradually go far.

Rational let three points, unreasonable back three steps, to let each other feel the warmth of getting along.

The sense of security in marriage comes from the warm attitude of the other side.

Those happy couples, all know how to give each other "let", with love to solve the problem, in exchange for a lifetime together.

To love less blame, more let, let out is "reason", harvest is the warmth and company of home.

To a friend, profit

The world is bustling, all for profit."

In the interests of the best to see the heart.

My sister and her friend opened a cosmetics shop together and shared the profits.

Usually the relationship between them is also very good, after half a year of business, business is getting better and better.

But when my sister sees a brand with great potential and wants to take over the agency, I found that there are 100,000 yuan on the account and I do not know when it has been transferred by her friend. When they checked the account, her friend declared that the 100,000 yuan was hers and that she should take more.

The friend covets the practice of benefit really lets younger sister chill, she had to terminate the cooperation of two people.

Profit is the best touchstone of interpersonal relationship.

The man who pays attention to profit and forgets righteousness must not be paid.

Therefore, whether making friends or doing business, only know how to benefit others, can make their own road wider and wider.

Because it is not only the interest, but also the character.

When he was a student at Peking University, Yu Minhong, founder of New Oriental, volunteered to open water for his roommates every day until he graduated.

At that time, some people laugh at him silly, every day was taken advantage of.

He smiled and said, "We are all classmates. We should help each other and not be too fussy."

A few years later, he founded New Oriental and needed partners. His college roommates came to his aid, offering money, experience, personnel, and more.

The students said: "blunt school, you old Yu 4 years of obligation to help us open the water this small thing, we expect you will not let us suffer, we believe you!"

As expected, with the joint efforts of everyone, New Oriental grew bigger and bigger and became the leader in the education and training industry at that time.

After New Oriental terminated its education and training business, people still followed Yu Minhong's side and turned to the track of helping farmers, making live streaming products popular.

The Disciple Proverbs says:

"Let the name of the name return to it, let the profit return to it."

After making profits, the harvest is not only wealth, but also people's hearts.

Only with one heart, can there be all rowing, can open the ship.

Yield is the interest, but gain is trust and the future.

Here's a quote on the Internet:

"Successful people, all understand a 'let' word, do not let can not, small let small, big let big."

People in this life, is in the "let" and "get" shuttle.

For parents, let difficult, to harvest parents laughter in old age;

To love, let reason, in order to harvest the gentle and considerate attitude of love;

To a friend, let the benefit, in order to harvest a friend of loyalty.

"Let" is a kind of wisdom in life, but also a pattern and realm