How Violence Begins

There is an epidemic that starts and appears hidden. It is the trauma that makes a troubled child into a criminal. This has remained unknown and yet to be discovered. I believe the epidemic of a troubled child starts from the womb. All the violence that the mother goes through as the baby is inside of her. The child may feel and hear while inside the mother’s womb. They begin to learn violence at an early age and reciprocate that violence as a young child. The parents have to recognize the violence and seek counseling from pediatricians and psychologists. It has to be constructive advice that will curb the child’s learning stance because learning is the key to breaking their road of violence. Corporate punishment is swift but it has to be repetitive and a lesson must be learned with the punishment. A parent must keep their child busy in doing something good. They must give them something inspiring to do and watch. Children at a young age want to learn about themselves and the world. They are afraid of many things besides death. And they do things because they don’t know right from wrong or wrong from right. Another issue is their body changing quickly, children can’t keep up with their body changes and sometimes they don’t know what changes but they feel different. Parents have to explain to them what changes and why they are changing. Change can cause aggression. Having a new brother or sister? Missing an old toy? Being treated differently? These are some of the changes that affect a child’s growth. Parents have to keep re-introducing their children to change and show them that it is okay and natural. They must show them that the world is full of changes and what to accept because not every change is good. It has been studied that boys' milestone change is when their balls dropped no later than age 6. Most boys become aggressive and devious. They begin a life of crime and start taking whatever they want. They begin wandering and ignoring and even fighting their parents. They begin attacking their siblings. It is like their body and mind are in outrage because they are growing up and changing. Some boys don’t go this extreme until puberty starts and some are in the middle of puberty. The way to stop this is to spend time with the child and try to understand their world. You must have meaningful fireside chats about their behavior and you must coordinate your response with a direct punishment. Even if you have to begin showing the punishment for bad behavior and set timeframes of when the child ought to be back home, no parenting is perfect. It’s a give-and-take relationship if the parent is giving more and receiving less respect then give less for less. Eventually, the child is going to ask for more and then you can make them earn their place in the world. Girls start puberty early around age 9 and that is when they may become devious and divisive. Girls require the freedom of owning things while boys require the freedom of doing things. And this may vary with genes and parenting, you must show them that you can be fearless and strong. And let them know who rules the house because when parents give up authority, their child gladly takes the place and will rule the household. Parents must never give up that much authority, a strong hand does not have to be stern all the time. It can be swift with judgment and concentrating on responsibility and accountability. It has been recommended that teaching boys about strength and introducing them to exercising and sports can dramatically change their perspective and strengthen their manhood. For example, they can start from watching television and listening on the radio to playing with siblings and friends to actively playing in school sports. It has been recommended that teaching girls about beauty and introducing them to role models can dramatically change their perspectives and womanhood. For example, that represents the woman you want them to become and have them imitate the smart part of them. Then the vice versa training, where boys get introduced to beauty and girls get to introduced to strength, girls and boys need to know that they will become women and men having mates and changing the world together. Hopefully, this helps end the epidemic in society. As we continually materialize. We must not forget every place at the table of society. We must forge a new generation of changers, world changers from the beginning. And they don’t all have to be geniuses, they just have to be themselves and make a difference in the lives of their society.