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How To Deal With Religious Differences In A Marriage (How To Save The Marriage When You Have Religious Differences)

If you're having trouble with your marriage and you're looking for how to deal with religious differences in a marriage then you're not alone. The statistics of marriage being what they are then I'm sure that you realize that your chances of your marriage failing and ending in divorce are pretty great. This article will show you exactly how to save the marriage when you have religious differences.

By Ron CollinsPublished 2 years ago 5 min read

Would you like to know how to handle religious conflicts in a marriage? You may have entered into the marriage coming from two very similar, yet somewhat different religious traditions, or you may entered into the marriage with one of you being a person of faith and the other not. Another scenario is where you both enter into a marriage with neither of you being a person of faith, and then one of you becomes a person of faith. in any of these situations, however, you would want to learn how to handle religious conflicts in a marriage.

I will use the example of a marriage that has at least one of the partners involved in an evangelical church (sometimes called a Bible-believing church, or a biblically-conservative, healthy, well-balanced church).

When you have very similar, but slightly different, religious traditions, you have some options that others do not. Either of you can decide to attend church with the other one without doing damage to the basic tenents of your faith. Another option is to attend separate churches. I know of some couples who have done this somewhat successfully, yet one of those couples confided in me that if they had it to do over, they would have chosen one church or the other, and both of them would have attended it. When children come along, this separate but equal idea is harder to implement.

When you are a person of faith, but your spouse does not share the conviction, it becomes more difficult. If you entered into the marriage in this situation, you were likely warned that it could have troubling consequences. Now you begin to face them.

The other option is that both of you were not people of faith when you got married. Then one of you became a Christian. That caused some difficult changes to take place in the marriage.

Some of those problems were;

1. One begins to sense that he or she is in competition with a perfect person, and partly that person is right. No one can compete with the Lord of Glory. The solution is to help the non-believing spouse to understand that as you come closer to your Lord, you have a greater capacity to love your partner as well.

2. One partner may feel that the other now thinks that he or she is better the first partner.

The answer to this is simply treat your partner with love and respect.

3. You no longer are on the same page when it comes to certain activities that you shared in the past.

Again, be respectful, but enjoy the activities that you still can share together.

4. As you (you being the believing partner) make good changes in your life, and as you live in a non-self-righteous manner, you may find your spouse being drawn to your new found faith. If he or she comes on board, then you will be able to share the most important experiences of your lives with each other.

These illustrate four situations that you may face as you attempt to learn how to handle religious conflicts in a marriage. We talked about some practical suggestions as to how to deal with these situations.

Tolerance and Acceptance for Happily Married Life

Tolerance and acceptance are two virtues that many people start learning during their teen years. These values, when imbibed in your character, can help you immensely in sailing through the rough periods of your married life. Usually, bride and bridegroom often neglect to see the goodness of these virtues when planning their life together. One of the reasons for that is many people consider tolerance as the value of yesteryears. According to them if you are not raising your voice or losing your temper, you are a coward. This wrong meaning has largely been driven by our desire to control everything that happens in our life. However, tolerance in married life does not mean that you "put up" constantly with your spouse in all his or her wrong doings; it is just used as a support when you need to accept certain facts and display pertinence. Choosing not to argue when not required is the direct benefit of high tolerance power.

Of course there are times in every marriage when you should voice your opinions, but it should be done with decency. Trivial issues do not need arguments and sometimes it is better to "move on" rather than sticking to your choices and opinions. For example, you may be a cleanliness freak but your partner doesn't show too much interest in cleaning every corner of the home. Rather than arguing and getting upset over it, a good way would be to accept the fact that it is impossible to have everything your way. So talk to your partner keeping this in mind and you will surely reach a middle ground and simple issues like these will have a resolution.

Mild disagreements among married couples are common and are required to keep the things interesting. However, it shouldn't dampen your spirit and the strong bond of positivity that you share. Companions may not always appreciate each other, but the sooner they learn to accept and become tolerant of their differences, the smoother their marriage becomes. A marriage is about keeping the promises that you made while exchanging your wedding rings.

The key to develop acceptance is to listen to each other properly and showing consideration towards your spouse. Give the same attention that you had for them in the wedding hall. Have a high regard and to not disagree unnecessarily. In case of disagreement, think about your wedding song and what it means to you. Everyone loves feeling important and giving priority to your spouse over everything else in your life is a sure shot way to stay happy in marriage.

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