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How are children with high emotional intelligence made?

Parents must do a few things to prepare

By Luo re LuoPublished about a year ago 5 min read
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Emotional intelligence is valuable from kindergarten onwards

I have a friend who is a kindergarten teacher, and I asked her during a casual conversation, "Every year you take new students to kindergarten, is it difficult to take care of them?

My friend said

It is not difficult to bring up, in a small class, find two children with high emotional intelligence, so grasping the psychological characteristics, is easy.

1, focus on training and regulating behavior.

2, good typical often encourages and praises.

3、Batch grouping to drive other children.

4, clever use of behavioral habits and herd mentality.

I asked her again, how can I tell that their emotional intelligence is high and their emotional intelligence is low?

She then gave me a whole lot of crackling talk. The key points are.

1, strong language skills.

2, psychological self-healing ability.

3, have affinity and know how to share.

4, can organize

5, with leadership qualities.

I have to admit, from my friend's conversation, I can feel that competition is everywhere nowadays, and children with high emotional intelligence are always one step ahead.

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What are the manifestations of emotional intelligence in young children

To give children a head start in developing their emotional intelligence, many parents feel that they must focus on developing their children's language skills and giving them good eloquence. Developing eloquence, in addition to language skills, is also about developing empathy and empathy, which are software for improving emotional intelligence.

Children who have empathy are sensitive to emotional perception, have a good understanding, can quickly find the psychological entry point, and easily empathize with each other, even if they encounter negative emotions, they can cope with an open mind and can self-resolve.

Such children usually do not need to worry about their parents, many things encountered difficulties, they can control their emotions, think differently, through inner feelings, listen, and use the most rational way to solve.

For children, the earlier empathy is cultivated, the better. It is a social affinity agent, a cornerstone for gaining goodwill and trust, and a door-knocker for building interpersonal relationships.

In terms of the development of psychological theories, the developmental level of young children is generally around 3 years old is the budding period of psychological theories for young children, 4-5 years old is the period of rapid development, and 6 years old is the period of stability.

The psychological characteristics of children aged 0-6 years.

1, psychological: 2-3 years old, the baby has facial expression recognition, and emotional understanding, their psychology can be shaped, can be intervened, vulnerable to family factors, language development, etc., these directly determine the child's ability to socialize interaction.

2、Emotion: After the age of 4, children begin to understand the relationship between beliefs and emotions, but they are still immature, and some of their judgments about emotions are wrong, but they can experience accurately the emotional changes of their parents, such as intimacy, rejection, praise, happiness, anger, panic, etc. However, children's control over their emotions is still very weak.

3, experience: in 0-3 years old, dependence is the psychological characteristic of all young children, especially in the encounter of fear and anxiety, and will quickly show overreaction, in 3-6 years old, with the improvement of motor skills, self-awareness, will show resistance to negative emotions, rebellion, and other reactions. Many babies in this period are "big devils".

4, motivation: As young children continue to mature psychologically, their higher emotional activity, is closer to that of adults, especially the development of language skills, so that they can feel more emotional changes from some verbal wording. For example, when criticized, they show anger, aggression, shyness, etc. When parents say something depressing, children will also be emotionally infected and even feel stress and anxiety from the atmosphere.

After the age of 5 or 6, many children's higher emotional activities develop further, self-awareness becomes more prominent, and some psychological activities such as compassion and loneliness are gradually solidified.

According to the psychological characteristics of children, how can parents guide their children and improve their emotional intelligence?

1. Prioritize the development of language skills.

Prevent the occurrence of language disorders, the level of emotional intelligence, is a kind of communication and communication of personal comprehensive ability, can never be separated from the reason comprehension ability and language expression ability, clear pronunciation, accurate vocabulary, rich tone of voice, etc., are in the interaction to gain goodwill and recognition, language ability to dominate, will let the child in interpersonal relationships is always in the advantage everywhere. On the contrary, language barriers lead to children's mispronunciation, stuttering, big tongue, etc., which will reduce their impression score, isolation, discrimination, and even the formation of low self-esteem, not confident personality, unable to blend in the interpersonal environment.

2, emotional control is very important.

Before the age of 6, the babies' social and emotional development is still immature, so they do not have strong emotional control, easy to impulsive, emotional outbursts, many babies cry and cry when they are not happy, it is difficult to approach. Parents should guide their babies to learn to manage and change their emotions appropriately based on their life experiences. Young children who can regulate their emotions can change their behavior for the sake of need, making the interaction activities go more smoothly, and even learning to restrain impulses and hide negative emotions, etc. For example, if a baby wants to play the mom in a role-playing game, and the other peers think she should play the teacher, to make the activity go smoothly, children with emotional regulation skills will control their wishes and emotions, make certain coordination and concessions, or take some ways to convince each other. These are the performance of high emotional intelligence.

3, adapt to the rules and order is important

The most important feature of socialization is rules and order, and people with high emotional intelligence will understand these well and achieve the greatest benefit.

In the interaction, there are rules for different times, different occasions, and different identities, and young children are ignorant of these interpersonal relationships for the first time and do not appreciate human feelings. But parents need to teach their children some rules of etiquette in time to understand early on how to greet those people, how to maintain manners, and gain love and appreciation. In addition, treat some things that happen around you, let your children establish some correct values and moral sense, and do not violate the basic public order and morality.

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