Family and Friends

I don't know if I would call this a story. It's about a person that I know that has been through a great ordeal in the past while and in the recovery process is finding out who the true friends and family really are. They are known as the black sheep of the family, shunned by others for who they are or are not, they are there to help when needed but when you require help they are nowhere to be seen.

It is sad to see these days how everyone is judged by not who they are but the material thing that they have become or where they stand in the social circle. They look at you from upon the pedestals they have placed themselves thinking they are better cause they have more and because you are not equal you are not worth their time. They are not better. What you have is not what you are. You should sit down and think about it for a few minutes in your so-called busy and great life, is this who you are, who you want to become. Family should be there for the family. You should not judge each other for who they are or what they become. You are blood, brothers, sisters. Aunts and Uncles and cousins. But no, all you are concerned about is yourself and what can you get out of it.

What can you get out of it? That is the biggest question these days. Someone looks at another person and asks them if they could help or give them a hand and the first thing that pops into their head is, What can I get out of this or what's in it for me? They should just feel the gratification of helping out or the smile that comes across the other person's face as they say thank you. So the next time someone asks for a helping hand you should just smile and answer them and not think about what you're going to get out of it.

People are not put in the situations they are in on purpose, they never asked for it and are ashamed to ask for help or to show that they are vulnerable. They try to do it on their own and fall further into disrepair and when they do come up with the courage to ask for help they are shunned upon because of who they are and what they have or don't have. That is the problem with our society these days. We are judged before they even get to know us. What you look like, where you work or live. Some people only judge by what you have or don't have instead of just saying hi and how are you doing?

What do we do about this? The next time you see someone struggling, take the time to say hi, you wouldn't believe how a simple gesture can improve someone's day. If someone comes up to you and asks for a hand, don't judge them by their appearance and if you are able, ask them what they need a hand with, if you are unable, politely refuse instead of saying something rude or just walking away. These little gestures can improve a person's day even if you could not help, at least you were polite and possibly made a new friend.

In today's world with all the uncertainty there is, we got to think about what we can do to make it better. Instead of judging someone by what they look like or have, get to know them, find out what kind of person they really are before they are judged. You will feel better about yourself and the people around you.