Destroy a child and let him indulge in "junk happiness" (with 3-step adjustment)

A teenager in Tangshan indulged in mobile games, neglected his studies, and immediately wrote a "guarantee" to sever the relationship between father and son because he disobeyed his father's discipline.

A child in Jiangning liked to play games. His grandfather confiscated his mobile phone and ran away from home, trying to "scare" the old man. As a result, he lost his way and couldn't find his home.

Hangzhou 11-year-old boy, refused to do his homework, his parents smashed his mobile phone, he jumped from the 12th floor and committed suicide.

In recent years, similar incidents have occurred one after another, and more and more children have been poisoned by mobile phones and games.

In the electronic age, every child is faced with the temptation of "junk happiness".

Some children sleep in the morning and stay up all night to watch videos.

Some children, in order to play, secretly take their parents' money to recharge, and even use their lives to recharge.

In order to enjoy the brief pleasures of mobile phones and games, a group of children muddled through day after day.

They are willing to be captured by fragmented entertainment, drowning themselves with unrestrained sensory enjoyment.

I would like to ask such a happy child addicted to garbage, where is the future?

Although he got a short period of satisfaction, he lost his self-control and learning ability in this kind of happiness.

They are too lazy to think, too lazy to make progress, and let their future be stolen by this happiness.

No wonder some people say, destroy a child, let him indulge in pleasure.

Junk, happy.

Is slowly destroying your child.

Zhihu, there is a topic: "the best way to destroy a child is to give him a mobile phone."

One netizen replied, "it's not terrible to play with your mobile phone, but it's junk and happiness." Never let children indulge in the junk pleasure of playing with their mobile phones. "

What causes junk happiness is something that gives people short-term pleasure.

Once children taste the joys of garbage, they will become addicted, can't help but want more, and may even lose their will and ignore what they are supposed to do.

How terrible is junk happiness?

Take playing with mobile phones, for example, the United States once launched a survey:

Scientists tracked 100 children for 10 years, of whom 50 regularly played with their mobile phones and the other 50 had no access to them.

Ten years later, the outcome was shocking.

Of those children who often play with their mobile phones, only 2 have been admitted to college.

Among the children who did not have access to mobile phones, all were admitted to college.

Among them, 16 children have won full scholarships.

The mobile phone satisfies the child's temporary happiness, but the junk happiness created by the mobile phone kills the child's self-control, the child's learning ability, and the child's ambition.

Junk happiness not only opens the distance between children and their peers, but also destroys children step by step.

Junk happiness is as harmful as poison.

If you look closely, you will find that those children who love to play games, browse videos, watch TV dramas, and are addicted to junk have one thing in common:

Have no interest in anything other than short-term pleasure.

One of the moms in the group said:

"before playing games, the children were good and obedient. The grades are also very good in the class, and the teachers all praise her. The child is so clever.

However, since the children are addicted to games, they do not do their homework or want to eat at home every day, so they want to play with their mobile phones first. During the semester, the grades plummeted.

Now children want to play every day, if they don't give it, they start to wipe tears, spill and roll, and even smash things.

Well, it was said that nothing should have let him play games. "

I used to think that it was okay for children to play games, but when I found out the seriousness of the matter, it was too late to regret it.

When children have experienced the pleasure of playing games, it is difficult to get out of it.

At this time, if someone stops him, they are like a different person, losing their temper and making a scene.

Faced with this situation, parents are either at a loss or put a stop to violence. Obviously, neither of these is a good idea.

Therefore, do not let children indulge in junk happiness, once trapped, they can only sink step by step.

Parents are a wall between children and junk happiness.

When children experience the pleasure of "junk happiness", they simply have no self-control and are able to pick it up and put it down.

If the parents do not interfere, the children will indulge in it.

Therefore, it is the primary responsibility of parents to prevent their children from falling into the junk and returning to normal learning.

When children are frantically tempting on the edge of junk happiness, try these three methods:

1. It is better to teach by words than by example.

Children are born to imitate, and parents, as their first teachers, are important objects for children to imitate and learn.

Steve Jobs, the famous father of Apple, never fiddled with electronics at home.

A reporter once interviewed him and asked, "do you play with your cell phone at home?"

Jobs replied: "our family restricts the emergence of electronic products."

So every day after dinner, there is a scene in Jobs' family: the children will read books together and talk about various topics together, and no one wants to hold the phone and iPad.

Mr. Yang Jiang also said: "good education, the power of example is very important."

It is more convincing for parents to lead their children with their own actions than to tell them the truth a thousand times.

If you want your children to read more, exercise more, and not excessively indulge in mobile phones, they should act as role models and imperceptibly influence their children with the power of role models.

two。 Cultivate children's ability to "delay gratification"

In order not to let their children become happy slaves to garbage, many parents think that as long as they do not show their children their mobile phones.

So they were forcibly confiscated and forbidden to play with their mobile phones.

This is not the wisest way.

In psychology, there is a word called "forbidden fruit effect", also known as "Adam and Eve effect", which means:

The more forbidden it is, the more it will arouse curiosity and desire, and the more you want to get it.

Children have strong curiosity and rebelliousness, the more parents do not let their children play with their mobile phones, the more they want to play.

Parents can't put an end to it completely, and it's impossible for children not to be exposed to these entertainment forever.

It is a long process to cultivate a child's self-control, and it is never the best choice to guard against it, but step by step.

When the child especially wants to play games, we should turn the ban into a negotiation. We can tell him: play after dinner or finish homework.

The child will think that my parents haven't turned me down, and I can play again later.

If the child can keep it every day, knowing to do business before entertainment, in the long run, then he will not be reduced to junk happiness.

3. If you can accompany, don't go away.

Mr. Deng Jiaxian, the father of the two games, is a father who knows how to play with his children.

Although he is very busy, he will play with his children whenever he has time.

Take the children to climb mountains, swim and take a walk.

He would put the children on bicycles, take them for a ride, play games with his son, and even set off firecrackers.

Long Yingtai said, "play is the foundation of learning between heaven and earth."

When children are immersed in nature fro