Creating a positive Fatherhood for your choldren

Could you become a good dad for your children, if your own father was never a loving or caring dad to you?

Of course you can be a good father.

But you’ll need to shift some programming in your mind before that happens.

Growing up we are like sponges soaking up what we experience in our environment: the good, the bad, and the ugly, And those things stay there until we become adults, so sometimes when your reminisce on your childhood or adolescence, you’d tell yourself ‘’I’d never yell and belittle my kid, like my father yelled and belittled me!’’. And if saying that is all you do, you’ll be yelling and belittling your own kid just like your father did! 100% guaranteed!

Hate of your father (either open or hidden) doesn’t accomplish anything positive in your own life.

You need a plan of action to rewrite that script that you’ve written when you were a kid.

Instead of telling yourself what you won’t do, hate, or swear never to repeat (which only reinforces those ugly memories), you need to make a list

of the things you will do (good, positive things to help your kid grow up with a mind strong like steel, confidence that could move mountains, and a healthy self esteem, that would rival that of Rocky Balboa).

So every sentence that you’ll write, has to start with

‘’I will….. ‘’

And that’s how you reprogram what was planted in your mind 20–30 years ago, that used to look like a tiny Bonsai plant, and now looks like a mighty oak tree.

This will take a while, weeks, maybe months. Changes in your way of thinking don’t happen with wave of a magic wand. You really have to put some work into it.

I wish you lots of determination, and it will all pay off the moment your kid will wrap his arms around your neck, and whisper to your ear: ‘’Daddy, you are the best Daddy in the whole world!’’

Change the ugly trait that has been passed down to you from generations of guys in your family, and make it into something awesome, that every one of your descendants will be proud to replicate.

It is in your power to change the bad traits in your generational family line. This new, better upbringing of future generations of son's and daughters can start with you.

Many people prefer to be in denial, some out of shame, others out of fear of going against what his father expect them to continue like discipling his grandchildren with an iron fist by yelling, creating fear, being dictatorial, dismissive, never praising, never satisfied, always critical. Maybe his father did that, and his father's father, and somehow they all turned out ok. Nooo! They didn't. They grew up fearful, having no one they can call ''a friend'', having zero confidence, just a superiority complex without manners, self awareness, or social skills.

Your children, their children, and their children's children DESERVE BETTER THAN THAT! And it is up to you to gather the courage and change it.

In the book ''Wild at Heart'', John Eldridge tells how terribly his father's indifferences affected him even in his adult years.

Parenthood. We only get ONE chance at making it right. Let us not miss that chance. Because whatever you'll do now, will continue to carry on generations from now, affecting the lives of your descendants for decades or centuries. Be the force for good, building your kids up, and not pushing them down.

May you have the courage to change the trajectory!