Children judged by teachers and parents to be poor students

My neighbor is a very amiable person, usually neighborly, and always likes to help others. However, every night you could hear him scolding his child. We were curious, so we asked him what was wrong with his child. The neighbor said, "This child is simply hopeless, no matter what methods I use, his grades just can not improve. As soon as you get home, you play with your phone, and you can't easily do your homework, but you are still lazy. Half an hour can go to the toilet ten times. I also hate iron, only this."

The poor academic performance of the neighbor's children has made the neighbors worry a lot. I believe that many mothers and fathers are also facing the problem of poor child performance, and are also anxious. The child's poor performance, the trouble is not only mom and dad, but the child is also very sad. So, what discrimination do children with poor academic performance often suffer?

1, in school, is not valued

Today, the classroom teaching system is still dominant, with a teacher corresponding to multiple students. The teacher's energy is limited, so it is impossible to pay attention to everyone. Usually, for children with good grades, teachers pay more attention to them, including calling these students up in class to answer questions, usually caring about their living conditions, and so on

However, for students with bad grades, teachers may at first give token attention to them and call their parents. However, if the child does not change or his or her grades do not rise, the teacher will slowly give up on the child and not get the attention he or she deserves. In addition, in addition to the teacher does not pay attention, classmates may also cast a contemptuous eye.

2, at home often the mother and father are to blame

Like the story of the neighbor mentioned at the beginning, because of the child's poor academic performance, the neighbor always curses at the child, and sometimes even fist and kick.

Generally speaking, mothers and fathers have some vanity and they like to compare their children's achievements. However, it is hard to say that your child is not learning well, which can make parents feel ashamed. So when they get home, they naturally have unnamable anger at seeing their children. Needless to say, these underachieving children will not be "comfortable" at home.

In fact, every child is different, and there are differences between "poor students" and "poor students". We should teach them according to their needs to have a better educational effect. So, let's take a look at the inner world of the so-called "poor students" who have poor academic performance.

1, a strong sense of inferiority

Because of the bad grades, many poor students will feel very lost, after all, nowadays, the score determines everything. Because of their low scores, these students may not have heard a few words of praise for themselves since they were young. In the long run, the child's self-confidence will suffer a serious blow, and over time will give up on themselves, give up on themselves, do not think about progress. In serious cases, there may be a series of psychological disorders.

2, a serious rebellious psychology

We will find that many poor students, in addition to poor academic performance, always like to talk back to their mothers and fathers. They are not willing to do so, but because they often do not get encouragement from their parents, it will make the parent-child relationship more and more distant. Therefore, poor students generally have a rebellious mentality, only the difference between showing it and not showing it.

3, timid and introverted

"If you have a problem, ask the teacher!" The "I can't do it, you can ask your classmates!" Many people say this when teaching students with poor grades. These words do not reach the child's inner world at all. We found that most poor students are reluctant to ask their teachers and classmates for advice because they are timid and introverted, afraid to expose their problems for fear of being ridiculed. Over time, it will be a vicious cycle, not knowing more and more, and not asking more and more, eventually leading to a decline in performance.

In fact, for children with poor academic performance, poor grades are not their intention, they also want to study hard and improve their grades, but because their mothers and fathers or teachers do not teach them according to their needs and take the right approach to education, making these children give up on themselves. As parents, we should not give up on our children but guide them correctly. Next, to provide you with a few methods, I hope that all mothers and fathers can learn from them.

1, the correct view of the child, see the child as a development of people

It is now rare to call children poor students, and more often choose to call them backward students, which reflects a kind of respect for the personality of the child. Mothers and fathers should not beat their children to death with a stick and label them as such but should see them as developing human beings.

Because children are still developing and have infinite possibilities for the future, mothers and fathers should first affirm their children and not give up or abandon them. As long as the child has made some progress compared to the previous one, regardless of the result, he or she should be praised by mom and dad. Moms and dads should also be good at seeing their children's progress and not be stingy with their encouragement.

2、Help your child make a study plan

The reason why many advanced students are not learning well is large that they have not found the right study methods and habits. Therefore, the first thing you need to do is to make a daily study plan with your child. It is important to note that the study plan should not be made by the parents alone, but should involve the child and fully consider the child's opinion.

After the plan is completed, mom and dad should also have a matching reward and punishment system. This is because, without supporting rewards and punishments, there is no difference between a child following the plan and not following it. On the one hand, these measures can motivate the child, on the other hand, can also play a supervisory role.

3, parents should do to set an example

As the old saying goes: If you are right, you will not do what you are told; if you are wrong, you will do more than what you are told. The child is a mirror of the parents, what the mother and father are like, the child is also likely to be what it is. If your child has poor grades and doesn't like to learn, your mom or dad should reflect on whether it's because he or she is simply a person who doesn't like to learn.

Therefore, to make your child's performance improve, mom and dad should also do it by example. When your child is studying, turn down the TV, usually buy more books to read, and create a family atmosphere that loves to learn. So, parents need to set an example for their children to develop an interest in learning. When children are interested in learning, their grades will naturally improve.