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What would you do?

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What would you do if you were driving home from work and you receive a text message from your son. The text message was a video of your sister and father of your son talking horribly about you for a good ten minutes? We all know there’s plenty more where that came from. But seriously, what would you do?

Looking back in retrospect I wish I would have never approached my sister about the video. I wish I would have never let her know that I knew the ill words that came out of her mouth about me in front of my children. I wish I would have just left in peace. But no, of course not. I just had to make the biggest scene ever.

The father of my child even came back to the house to find the door locked. My screaming to the top of my lungs on the phone with my other sister, “if anyone opens the door for him I’m calling the cops!!” Just to turn around and see my sister that was kicking my back in open the door for him! I mean I’m talking betrayal after betrayal was hitting me like bricks back to back that night in August 2019, I’ll never forget it.

It’s always easy to say what you will do in a situation before it happens, or what you wish you would have done after it happened. Controlling your emotions and mind during the situation is the hard part. Something I have yet to master. But one thing that we all can agree on is how we respond after all is said and done. How will we overcome such adversity? A technique that I find the be very helpful is dissecting the blessings in disguise.

What blessing comes from a family members disloyalty? Well, the universe showed you their true colors so don’t try to paint a different picture. What blessing can come from a bitter baby dad speaking bad about you? Well, a gossiping man is no man after all. Receipts provided upon request, totally joking.

In life you will be put through hard times, your loyalty, strength and peace of mind will be tested. You will be put in situations that will have you questioning your worth. In those situation, it is so very important to remind yourself that how others treat you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

See, people who speak badly of others do not have nothing else to speak about. No ideas or business concepts, they probably are very surface level people. Not in tune with their own selves so they project their insecurities on others. They find comfort with engaging in activity that requires minimum brain effort. This situation was really just haters hating.

Why else would you be upset that your little sister is finally getting her own place to call home. She has finally upgraded from your basement to a townhouse blocks away from the beach. Well the fact of the matter is as I was leaving so was my half of the rent.

It all made sense now. I understand why she did what she did. Moral of the story is, not everyone can rise to the top with you. Once you start elevating in life, your vibrations will knock down anyone who is not built for you. Keep your head high because people will love to see you fall. Stay blessed Queens, Love Lo 💙

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Laura Ortiz
Laura Ortiz
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Laura Ortiz

2021 is a personal year for me. After overcoming betrayal, heartache, disloyalty and so much more, there’s literally nowhere else to go but up. Follow my journey of my transformation of the mind, body, and soul, in hopes to inspire.

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