A mother's soul-piercing reflection: under the epidemic, these three abilities must be "forced" to develop.

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We should teach our children to be normal, awe and grateful, to cherish the present, to be kind to everyone around us, and to cherish every grain of food on hand.

The spring of 2022 will be particularly difficult.

Originally thought that through the cold winter, ushered in the Winter Olympic Games, looking forward to the spring, will open fog, flowers four seasons, but did not expect, the epidemic made a comeback.

So far, the cumulative number of confirmed cases in Shanghai alone has exceeded 40,000, and it is still at a high level.

This is the third year of our struggle against the virus, although we have not been knocked down, but the virus has not yet disappeared.

With the mutation and counterattack of the virus again and again, we urgently prepare for the war in turn, the rhythm of life has been disrupted, and the mentality has changed a lot.

There is a hot topic on Weibo, "the change of mentality in the three years of the epidemic", which attracted 200m onlookers.

Some people say: in 2020, my life is shopping and singing midnight snacks. In 2022, all I have left is isolated nucleic acid scan code.

Some people say: in 2020, I want to travel, but now I only hope to get out of the community.

Others say: it's not 2022, it's the third year of the new era.

Indeed, three years has changed a lot of things, some people are anxious because they cannot return to a normal life, some people are upset because their plans have been disrupted again and again, and some people suffer because they are confused about the future.

As parents, at the moment of the epidemic, what we can do is to teach our children to make scientific protection, wear masks, wash their hands frequently, and try their best to protect their health.

Apart from that, what else can children learn from this epidemic?

Keep a normal mind, have a normal state of mind

The epidemic disrupted everything, and the children's study plans changed again and again, with no end in sight for suspension, suspension, online lessons and isolation.

The long and seamless relationship between parents and children has given rise to many contradictions that have been covered up, so chickens and dogs jumping and quarrelling have become the norm of life.

But some people, can not predict the future of the panic, efforts to find and harvest some warmth and touching.

A netizen on Zhihu said about his relationship with his father: dad is very busy and grumpy, and usually has little time to accompany him.

During the epidemic, the pace slowed down, the father had more time, had a special fun with his two children every day, the relationship between the parents became better, and the father's character changed a lot, becoming knowledgeable and humorous.

The more difficult it is, the more you cultivate your mind, and having a good state of mind is more important than anything else.

As Xi Murong once said: setbacks will come, will pass, tears will flow down, will also put away, nothing can be discouraged, because I have a long life.

A mother's post, "the child is almost three years old, accounted for three years of the epidemic, but after working full-time, I was surprised to find that" once became popular all over the Internet.

When the epidemic hit, she worked as a stay-at-home mother for three years, and her daily life was like fighting a war, washing clothes, cooking, breast-feeding, changing diapers and playing with her.

One day, when she picked up her things, she accidentally found an old camera and started a different life.

Originally just as entertainment, unexpectedly, she fell in love with photography, self-study every day, busy.

She took the children to the deserted suburbs and campuses, took pictures during the day and repaired pictures at night, and had a full day.

She said: because of the arrival of the epidemic, I began to cherish every little bit of beauty, children's every moment is very precious, it is worth recording with the camera.

Keeping a normal mind and having a normal state of mind is a generous gift we give to our children.

We have to tell them: what we can do, we should do our best; what we cannot do, we can smile with relief, and we do not have to force it.

Only by keeping a normal mind can we be able to resist the changing environment, to experience insipid happiness, to know the happiness of giving up, and to gain insight into the value of indifference.

Be in awe and obey the rules

There is a question on Zhihu: why should we obey the rules?

The most favorable answer is: because, that is the bottom line of life.

Fighting the epidemic requires the joint efforts of all of us. Wearing mouth, washing hands frequently, keeping social distance and scanning codes have become a rule that many people, even many children, keep in mind.

These rules and requirements are life advice to all.

However, there will still be many people who think that these rules are too troublesome, and they expect to release control as soon as possible and let life return to freedom, so they desperately find loopholes under the rules, which leads to the leakage and spread of the epidemic again.

Just like the mother and daughter who traveled from Shanghai to Hangzhou, they knowingly violated the rules of the epidemic, but it was the innocent people of Hangzhou who ended up bearing the consequences.

According to the current survey, in the early hours of April 5, they set out from Shanghai, which is suffering from a serious epidemic, to Hangzhou, crowded on the crowded subway at the morning peak in Hangzhou, and strolled around large supermarkets such as Vientiane City and Raffles.

It was not until nine o'clock in the evening that the Hangzhou epidemic prevention workers who had been looking for them all day finally found them in the coffee shop.

Not only that, after they set out from Shanghai South Railway Station and arrived in Hangzhou, they concealed their itinerary, lied about the shutdown of their mobile phones, bypassed the links of checking "health codes" and "travel codes", muddled through and avoided inspection.

It can be seen that they themselves are well aware of the rules of epidemic prevention, but they deliberately do not abide by them.

Their behavior led to more than 2000 home quarantines and an increase of 3 cases of asymptomatic infections.

Since this round of outbreak, she is by no means the only one who does not comply with epidemic prevention requirements, deliberately conceals, moves around, and spreads rumors.

Come to think of it, when the whole country makes concerted efforts to fight the epidemic, they have no rules in their minds and no awe in their hearts. this is undoubtedly contempt and trampling on other people's lives.

You know, the cruelest thing about life is that there is no if.

Zhu Xi, a scholar of the Southern Song Dynasty, said in Zhongyong Notes: the heart of a gentleman is always in awe.

As parents, we have to tell our children that there are some red lines in this world that cannot be touched or crossed.

Teach children from an early age to establish a sense of rules and learn to abide by the rules. When they grow up, these rules will be integrated into their bones and blood and become the bottom line of life that they must abide by.

Be grateful and cherish the present

"difficulty" is the most direct feeling of many people in this round of epidemic.

It's hard, it's hard. Many people's study, work, life has been greatly affected, can not go out normally, there is no stable income, children can not go to school.

However, when we stay at home and feel "bored", we have to see that at this moment, there are still many "understanding", volunteers, and community service providers who are working hard to protect our "boredom".

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