5 tips for effective social interaction

Socialization is an enduring topic, many stories are generated because of socialization, socialization in the terrain not only in real life, but in a variety of films and dramas that is used as a tool to promote the plot, and many coincidences and misunderstandings in the drama are generated in the socialization.

But how to socialize, is a proposition that everyone is discussing.

As the saying goes, the wine has a thousand cups of friends, and the conversation is not a lot.

Modern society is a society of people, even if the people who do not need friends have to admit that there are friends in the place, it will be convenient to do a lot, and social networking is to provide us with the opportunity to meet friends.

However, social fear is constantly eroding us, we always do not know how to communicate with others, whether in life or the workplace, always social problems plagued.

Did you know?

Socialization is a technical work, as long as the method is mastered, it can be completely designed by us to control.

For us, to know someone, 5 seconds is enough; to understand someone, 5 minutes is enough; to establish a connection with someone, 5 days is enough.

So we just need to grasp the initial 5 minutes, we can completely master the rhythm and control the social.

1、Find the right place for you to play

Athletes playing the game will have the home-field advantage, and so does our socializing, each person has a social place dedicated to him or her.

In these places within the exchange, you can be more relaxed and better able to play their strengths.

For example, if you feel constrained in a bar, but feel relaxed in a cafe, then the cafe is the right place for you.

So, we have to find out the right place for you first, that is, the place where you feel relaxed and want to talk and communicate with others.

First, take out a piece of paper and list all the locations you can think of that require you to visit.

Then, according to your own experience, the unsuitable places are listed as "survival places", those that do not feel like "neutral places", and the rest are your social places.

After the classification of places, you can correctly determine which invitations can be accepted, and which need to politely decline; at the same time, we can also take the initiative to recommend suitable places for those invitations they do not like.

2, pay attention to the social venue

After finding the venue, we can not immediately start communication, we should pay attention to avoid social traps, that is, the beginning of the activity area, such as the sign-in area, and the door.

People in these areas, just arrived at the event site, emotionally excited, and there are many things to do, such as signing in, looking for acquaintances, etc.

This is not a good time to chat and communicate, so we just need to simply exchange pleasantries or nod and smile.

Inside the venue, the food side is a good area to open up communication.

When people are getting drinks and food, they are ready to chat in-depth, and this is the time when we go over to communicate without being easily interrupted or annoyed.

Second, the vicinity of the organizer is also a good place to chat.

Whoever it is, will talk to the organizer for a while, so follow the organizer next to the first time and guests to say hello, conducive to further communication.

3、Use the right posture to communicate

Stars always pay attention to their words and actions, and so do we. In socializing, there are three non-verbal weapons to break the three-level trust barrier - gestures, posture, and eye contact.

a.Hand gestures

The hands are an important sign that signifies openness.

First make sure your hands are on the surface, i.e. in a state where the other person can see them, as a sign that you mean no harm.

Then keep your hands dry and then you can shake hands. The body produces enough hormones during a handshake to build trust and then create a deeper connection.

b.Posture

Face others with an open posture that gives the other person a confident stance.

Keep your shoulders naturally down and back.

Keep your chin, chest, and forehead facing forward and your chin may be slightly lifted.

Make sure to leave a small space between your arms and your body.

c. Eye contact

Studies have found that eye contact takes up 41% of the time when people are talking, and 75% of the time when they are listening.

So in a conversation, we need to keep 60% to 70% of the time spent on eye contact.

4. Start with an interesting topic

The most taboo thing is to start a conversation with a bland topic, such as "How are you feeling?" "What's your job?" ......

These topics have been used by others and will make each other feel that we are not sincere, just perfunctory chat.

We can find common topics to open the conversation through people we know together or find topics to open the conversation by looking at each other's accessories.

Try these topics: Take a wedding, for example

"What do you think of the wedding?"

"I also like the feathery backdrop ......"

"This wedding has quite a lot of shows, quite interesting, which one do you like?"

5、Pitching a good idea

After the topic is opened, observe each other's expressions and continue to look for topics that interest each other to chat.

In short, when the other party's expression lights up, you will step on his point of interest, at this time, you can ask him to continue to elaborate on the background, and details of the matter, to pursue deeper questions.

Don't be embarrassed to think of yourself as a hundred thousand questions, so you can create a lot of topics, the other party will also continue to produce dopamine because of the pleasure, and finally, this conversation will let your relationship heat up quickly.

6、Written at the end

Excellent people are often surrounded by excellent people, human interaction is a transaction, we all try to find in human interaction that can meet their things, but also prefer to maintain the relationship between the two sides' benefits.

So, communication with people is not that difficult, do not be afraid to communicate, learn how, and you can also become a "master of communication". Social is an enduring topic, many stories are generated because of social, social stems not only in real life but in a variety of films and dramas and is used as a tool to promote the plot, the drama of many coincidences and misunderstandings are generated in the social.

But how to socialize, is a proposition that everyone is discussing.

As the saying goes, the wine has a thousand cups of friends, and the conversation is not a lot.

Modern society is a society of people, even if the people who do not need friends have to admit that there are friends in the place, it will be convenient to do a lot, and social networking is to provide us with the opportunity to meet friends.

However, social fear is constantly eroding us, we always do not know how to communicate with others, whether in life or the workplace, always social problems plagued.

Did you know?

Socialization is a technical work, as long as the method is mastered, it can be completely designed by us to control.

For us, to know someone, 5 seconds is enough; to understand someone, 5 minutes is enough; to establish a connection with someone, 5 days is enough.

So we just need to grasp the initial 5 minutes, we can completely master the rhythm and control the social.

1、Find the right place for you to play

Athletes playing the game will have the home-field advantage, and so does our socializing, each person has a social place dedicated to him or her.

In these places within the exchange, you can be more relaxed and better able to play their strengths.

For example, if you feel constrained in a bar, but feel relaxed in a cafe, then the cafe is the right place for you.

So, we have to find out the right place for you first, that is, the place where you feel relaxed and want to talk and communicate with others.

First, take out a piece of paper and list all the locations you can think of that require you to visit.

Then, according to your own experience, the unsuitable places are listed as "survival places", those that do not feel like "neutral places", and the rest are your social places.

After the classification of places, you can correctly determine which invitations can be accepted, and which need to politely decline; at the same time, we can also take the initiative to recommend suitable places for those invitations they do not like.

2, pay attention to the social venue

After finding the venue, we can not immediately start communication, we should pay attention to avoid social traps, that is, the beginning of the activity area, such as the sign-in area, and the door.

People in these areas, just arrived at the event site, emotionally excited, and there are many things to do, such as signing in, looking for acquaintances, etc.

This is not a good time to chat and communicate, so we just need to simply exchange pleasantries or nod and smile.

Inside the venue, the food side is a good area to open up communication.

When people are getting drinks and food, they are ready to chat in-depth, and this is the time when we go over to communicate without being easily interrupted or annoyed.

Second, the vicinity of the organizer is also a good place to chat.

Whoever it is, will talk to the organizer for a while, so follow the organizer next to the first time and guests to say hello, conducive to further communication.

3、Use the right posture to communicate

Stars always pay attention to their words and actions, and so do we. In socializing, there are three non-verbal weapons to break the three-level trust barrier - gestures, posture, and eye contact.

a.Hand gestures

The hands are an important sign that signifies openness.

First make sure your hands are on the surface, i.e. in a state where the other person can see them, as a sign that you mean no harm.

Then keep your hands dry and then you can shake hands. The body produces enough hormones during a handshake to build trust and then create a deeper connection.

b.Posture

Face others with an open posture that gives the other person a confident stance.

Keep your shoulders naturally down and back.

Keep your chin, chest, and forehead facing forward and your chin may be slightly lifted.

Make sure to leave a small space between your arms and your body.

c. Eye contact

Studies have found that eye contact takes up 41% of the time when people are talking, and 75% of the time when they are listening.

So in a conversation, we need to keep 60% to 70% of the time spent on eye contact.

4. Start with an interesting topic

The most taboo thing is to start a conversation with a bland topic, such as "How are you feeling?" "What's your job?" ......

These topics have been used by others and will make each other feel that we are not sincere, just perfunctory chat.

We can find common topics to open the conversation through people we know together or find topics to open the conversation by looking at each other's accessories.

Try these topics: Take a wedding, for example

"What do you think of the wedding?"

"I also like the feathery backdrop ......"

"This wedding has quite a lot of shows, quite interesting, which one do you like?"

5、Pitching a good idea

After the topic is opened, observe each other's expressions and continue to look for topics that interest each other to chat.

In short, when the other party's expression lights up, you will step on his point of interest, at this time, you can ask him to continue to elaborate on the background, and details of the matter, to pursue deeper questions.

Don't be embarrassed to think of yourself as a hundred thousand questions, so you can create a lot of topics, the other party will also continue to produce dopamine because of the pleasure, and finally, this conversation will let your relationship heat up quickly.

6、Written at the end

Excellent people are often surrounded by excellent people, human interaction is a transaction, we all try to find in human interaction that can meet their things, but also prefer to maintain the relationship between the two sides' benefits.

So, communication with people is not that difficult, do not be afraid to communicate, learn how, and you can also become a "master of communication".