5 Good Reason to Hold on To A Relationship Even It Feels Like It's Falling Apart
Your relationship will not always be perfect. Every relationship goes through ups and downs. But if things aren't going well, how do know if your relationship is worth keeping.
Your relationship will not always be perfect. Every relationship goes through ups and downs. But if things aren't going well, how do you know if your relationship is worth keeping?
To Decide, Sonia Frontera, family law attorney and author of Solving the Divorce Dilemma: Should You Keep Your Spouse or Post It on Craigslist? The first step, says Bustle, is to make a somewhat emotional list. Find out why your relationship is in trouble. "If there was any kind of abuse, [it might be best to leave]," she says. "But if not, you may want to give your relationship a fair chance."
Every relationship that has a tough time is doomed to fail. There are some good reasons to wear one, as well as some bad reasons. For example, history is a bad reason. "Dating alone isn't enough to keep two people together," Gina Birch, CEO of dating app Plum and author of The Love Gap, told Bustle. "Don't get caught up in thinking about the illusion of 'sunshine cost,' when there isn't enough chemistry and compatibility to go together."
1. Your problems are temporary
"If the problems are temporary there's no need to throw in the towel," says Frontera. For example, your partner feels sad because they have lost their job and are no longer the ones to love like before. If the problems you're having right now are likely to be fixed on their own or if both parties are willing to work on them together, says Frontera, "go back to the ring and work it out." Try doing it."
2. You Share the Same Values
If you both want the same things from life and have similar values, don't be too quick to move on. "In this day and age, it can be difficult to find someone else moving in the same direction as you," Birch says. "If you make it this far, it's worth fighting for."
3. I'm still best friends and I'm still attracted to each other
At some point in your relationship, the lust factor may drop a bit. It is normal to feel relaxed after the honeymoon phase is over. While boredom isn't great for a relationship, it is something you can change. If you still want your partner physically and still have a strong friendship, Birch says, you should try to work things out. Being more playful, spontaneous, and spontaneous are surefire ways to keep that spark alive.
4. Things Started Shattering After a Big "Incident"
"Life happens," Birch says. We all go through big events that can shake you like an illness or the death of a family. If you can pinpoint the beginning of your problems to a specific event, then your relationship is worth keeping. According to Birch, you won't always know how to handle these situations on your own, let alone your partner. "If it's the first of its kind and you don't have a precedent to deal with, your bond could start to fall apart," she says. The best thing to do in this case is to wait a bit. After some time see if you can get back on track.
5. When you are in the middle of a crisis, your partner is still the first person you think of
"Thinking about the first person you call in a crisis is a great test of intimacy and trust," says Birch. "Usually this is the person you trust the most and with whom you feel most comfortable." If you're going through something and your partner is the first person you think about, that's a pretty good sign to stay with your relationship. No matter how bad things are, they are still reliable and you can still count on them.