14 Sexy, Discreet Secrets to Grind with a Guy & Get Him Hard in Seconds

Whenever we think of the art of grinding, we usually associate it with adolescents. But in reality, it’s something that all of us use all the time. As a girl, there’s a thin line between being classy and being crass. Of course, you can outrightly grind with any guy you like, but do you really want to be so obvious about it?! Instead, learn how to grind with a guy discreetly and in the sexiest manner and see where it goes!

If you want to grind with a guy and look good while doing it, you need to know a few things to do it the right way. And most importantly, never be too obvious when you’re trying to grind with a guy, otherwise It’ll just make you seem too easy to get.

What is grinding anyway?

Now all of us know this, but for the uninitiated girls, grinding is the art of moving your butt around a guy’s crotch, especially while dancing with him. Sounds quite bold, yes, but it’s something that comes naturally between opposite sexes when they’re aroused by each other.

Many girls wonder about the right way to grind and look good while doing it. But understanding how to grind with a guy needs no lessons. You can do it any way you like and the guy will still love it.

But what matters is how easy you’re going to play and give in to a guy’s crotch.

Can grinding ever be subtle?

Grinding doesn’t need to be full-on pornographic. There are ways to learn how to grind with a guy and not make everyone else see what you’re doing.

Of course, you can grind away in public if you’re subtle enough but if you’re in private? You grind away, girl, and don’t care whether you’re being subtle or not!

But, if you are in a club or bar and you’re grinding up a storm, you can be subtle by making your moves slow, small, and perhaps sitting or standing behind a booth or some kind of divider. That way, it’ll just look like you’re dancing and he’ll be able to enjoy what you’re doing.

Why might grinding be a bad thing?

Learning how to grind with a guy is all fine and no, it’s not bad! But, if you’re in public and you’re all out grinding on a guy’s lap, especially a guy you don’t know so well, it may be perceived as being “too much” by the guy or those around you.

Does it matter to you? That’s up to you.

But, if you want this dalliance to turn into more than just a one night stand, be very careful with the grinding action you indulge in. Of course, if you’re with the guy and you’re both out for a night in the club, you can dance with your man and grind on his lap all you want. You’re together and you know where you stand. But, if you’ve just met this guy and you don’t want to give him the impression that you’re easy, tread carefully.

Should we have to have this conversation? Hell no! But, we all know that’s the way of the world. But, if it doesn’t matter to you or you’re not interested in more with this guy, make your own choices and do whatever you want to do. It’s your life at the end of the day and you know who you are!

How to grind with a guy and arouse him

If you want to know how to grind with a guy, arouse him, and feel great doing it, here are a few tips that can make all the difference between a hard-to-get girl and an easy-to-get girl.

1. Get a girlfriend to dance with you

Dancing alone makes the whole grinding game rather obvious. To start off, dance with your girlfriend and make it seem like you’re not really noticing any guy.

Soon enough, you’ll have a few cute guys dancing around waiting for your attention.

2. Dance next to the guy you like

But don’t even bother looking at him just yet. Watch him from the corner of your eye and see if he’s been noticing you. Or if you want to grind with some guy who hasn’t noticed you yet, just move along on the dance floor until you’re close to him.

3. Brushing time

Dance normally as you always do, but move really close to a guy you like and brush him with your butt *fake-accidentally, of course*.

Don’t try to get his attention just yet, don’t look at him, don’t smile at him, and don’t make it seem like you’re desperate to dance with him by staring and giggling at him.

Wait for him to do something or reciprocate. Right now, just make it seem like you’re dancing with your friend. But don’t stop the occasional butt brushing against him, let him feel your touch and want more of it..

4. Touch him with your breasts

Grinding with a guy is the easy part. The tough part is to make it all seem discreet. As you’re dancing with your friend, move your shoulders around so your breast touches his arm now and then.

Does he notice your accidental touch? Does he smile or does he move closer to you? If he notices it and tries to get your attention, flash a small cute smile back at him and let him know that you’ve noticed him.

But don’t do it too obviously, and avoid letting him know that your touches were intentional.

5. Drop your hands

Keep your hands by your sides as you’re dancing and let them hover near his butt and legs. He’d obviously start moving about a lot more just to get more of your touches.

Always keep your body or hands really close to a guy, but avoid making the first touch if you want to make him work for your attention.

6. Dance by his side

Move along the dance floor so you’re dancing by his side. You don’t need to stand in front of him to grind a guy just yet.

Just build the sexual tension up by letting your hands and hips touch each other often. But as before, don’t give him too much attention just yet. Just have fun with your own friend who’s dancing with you.

7. Let the fingers touch

Let your fingers touch his fingers as both of you dance beside each other. And when your fingers do touch his, don’t move them away but don’t do anything about it either.

It’ll drive him crazy and all he’d want to do is clasp it. He may even try that!

8. Step in front of him

Once you’ve had a lot of body touches going on and he’s constantly trying to look for ways to touch you, it’s time to get to the part where you grind with the guy discreetly and subtly.

By teasing him long enough, you would be able to arouse him and make him work for your attention instead of being too easy to get which is always a good thing. It’ll make him want you more too!

Step in front of him and move your pelvis around so your butt is constantly touching his thigh. This will be his cue to come close behind you. If he’s shy, a few *accidental* touches on his crotch with your butt while dancing will definitely do the trick.

9. Move your butt around

Once he’s right behind you, get really close to him and press your butt gently against his crotch.

Sway around and dance like you always do, but pay more attention to swaying your hips around so you can feel his pants tighten behind you.

10. Don’t move too fast

If you want to be subtle when grinding with a guy, you need to move slowly. Moving your butt in small circles is the best way, or swaying from side to side. That way, it just looks like you’re dancing.

He won’t know whether you’re being intentional or not and that’s the vibe you’re going for.

If you push your butt back too far and lean into him too hard, there’s going to be no mistaking what your game is. Keep it small and on the right side of the line.

11. Drop your hands to the side

If the guy isn’t placing his hands on your hips already, drop your hands down or run them down your hips now and then as you sway your hips. Even better if you can get your hands to drop down and touch his fingers often.

You’ll arouse him so much that all he’ll want to do is hold your hips or your hands and come even closer while you move your butt all over his crotch.

And really, that’s all there is to grinding and making it seem like the guy is doing all the work!

While a club may be the best place to grind with a guy, you can also discreetly grind with a guy at concerts or even in crowded queues. It’s easy and fun, if you’re in the right mood!

Grinding tips to arouse a guy

If you’re grinding with a guy and want to turn him on a lot more, all you need to do is use these three little tips to drive him wild.

1. Stand in front of him as you’re dancing. Raise one hand and place it behind his neck while grinding with him.

2. Slip your thumb into his jeans or just under his belt when he’s behind you. Guide his hand to hold you around your waist or just under your breasts.

3. Graze your butt against his crotch until you feel him harden up. Turn around and get your pelvis as close to him as you comfortably want to.

Don’t be afraid to try!

A lot of the time, it’s just confidence that holds us back. You might really like a guy and get the vibe that he’s looking your way, but you’re not confident enough to make the first move.

These tips will help you do that without making it seem super-obvious. Plus, he’ll have no doubts in his mind by the end that you like him, and want him too!

You’ve done it all subtly and kept him guessing. What happens next is up to you!