11 Key: How To Be A Good Parent

If a child does some mischief, what will the parent do? Will slap him 1-2, scold or at the most stop eating at one time.

But in the Japanese city of Tokyo, a parent left his 7-year-old child as punishment in a dense forest, where wild animals dominated. The parents realized their mistake when after 5 minutes they came back to pick up the child. But he was nowhere to be found. The child was searched in the dense forest for 1 week. This news spread like fire all over the world and the parents were being cursed a lot.

A child named Yamato Tanuka was found in a military camp. There he took shelter in a hut. He kept himself alive by drinking water and sleeping on the ground.

In an interview, the father of that child said with tears that he apologized to Yamato.

Actually, some parents sometimes sit so hard in the pursuit of making the child perfect that they have to repent later.

A Yale professor named Amy Chua described the concept of Tiger Mom in her book 'Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother'. Tiger mom parents refer to strict and demanding parents, who put pressure on their children to give better performance in every field. Along with studies, we also try to be at the top in other award-winning fields so that children can secure their place in today's competitive era.

When the children of tiger parents do not perform as expected, they give emotional threats to the children as well as mild corporal punishment. Such parents never allow children to make their own decisions.

Amy Chua was such a strict Tiger mom. She admits that she didn't mind calling her two daughters Lulu and Sophia garbage in front of everyone. He believes that the successful upbringing of children reflects the skill of their parents and the success of children elevates the stature of the parents.

However, today both his daughters are in a good place in terms of their careers. But it cannot be denied that due to excessive strictness, children face difficulty in adjusting to school. Their self-confidence is low and their chances of becoming depressed increase.

A youth survey conducted in Hangzhou, China, in which 589 high and middle school children were included, found that tiger mom-type parenting was not beneficial. Excessive control can cause frustration in children.

Dr. Sandeep Govil of Saroj Super Specialty Hospital Delhi says that when parents impose their choice and discipline on children like dictators and do not give them a chance to speak, they do not understand that by doing so they destroy their children's confidence. are doing. Discipline your children, but provide them with love and support where they are needed. Be it love or discipline, setting a limit is very important. When you do anything over the limit, it will have a negative effect on the children. If the child has a behavior problem, then you have to pay attention to how is your relationship with your child.

Good upbringing is one in which the qualities of empathy, honesty, self-confidence, self-control, kindness, cooperation, humanity, etc. are developed. Such upbringing saves the child from becoming a victim of anxiety, depression, eating disorders, anti-social behavior, drugs, etc.

To be a good parent, keep these things in mind:

Disadvantages of Highly Disciplined Parenting

Dr. Sandeep Govil explains that the parents who raise their children under extreme discipline, make strict rules for everything. It's okay to have rules for education and safety, but if you make strict rules for every aspect of your child's life, then the following problems will arise:

Rebellion: Children who are raised under very strict rules do not get their freedom, which is necessary for them to become responsible human beings. They themselves never learn what is right and what is wrong. Inner self-discipline is not developed in them, because they are only taught to follow the rules, not to control themselves. In such a situation, many times the tendency of rebellion starts in the children.

Communication problems: Strict parents and children lack communication. When children are afraid that they will be scolded or killed if they share their feelings, thoughts, or actions with their parents, they hide things from them. When children face such a problem, for which they cannot find a solution for themselves, even then they do not share that problem with their parents.

Decision-making ability: Parents who keep their children under strict discipline, do not allow themselves to make decisions, those children are not able to take their own decisions even after growing up and if they do, they do not stick to them. They always develop a tendency to follow the mightier than themselves.

Give an example: Remember, children learn by watching their parents. Your actions echo louder than your words. First set a positive example by good behavior yourself. Then expect good behavior from the children.

Do not give too much love: Do not spoil children by giving too much love, do not listen to everything about children, because their understanding is not developed.

Always feel together: Be available to children mentally and physically in their times of every need. But give them some space too. Don't always be like a shadow with them.

Keep bringing changes in parenting: As children grow up, their behavior changes. You cannot treat 3 and 13 year olds equally. As the behavior of children changes, make changes in your relationship with them accordingly.

Make rules : Discipline is also needed with love. Don't make strict rules. But develop a sense of responsibility in them from childhood itself. Teach them the tricks of self control.

Give freedom to children: Don't always impose your likes and dislikes on children. Give them some space so that their own personality can develop.

Be nice to children: Talk to children politely. Listen carefully to their thoughts. Treat them with love. Keep in mind, the way you treat your children is the cornerstone of how they treat others.

Never Say These Things To Kids

Sometimes parents tell children things that strike their minds, so avoid saying these things:

I was more responsible when I was your age.

You always take wrong decisions.

Why don't you become like your brother/sister?

- You should be ashamed of yourself.

It would have been better if I had a child like you, I would have been childless.

Leave your dirty friends.