10 Weird Things New Mothers Worry About

10 things a new mother worries about, but shouldn't.

1. Childbirth.

It is defiantly something all new mothers worry about because you don't know what to expect, and I completely understand that. I never thought about childbirth until I was getting induced. I started worrying that day, and the thoughts were overloading my brain. It is scary, but you have to do it. So no matter what, you have to be brave and push that baby out! I'm not going to lie to you. Childbirth is extremely painful, but it will be okay. Once you see your baby, all the pain and worry disappears and you realize that all the pain and pushing was so worth it. So don't worry and just PUSH!

2. Frequent Sneezing.

Trust me when I say it's nothing to worry about. If your infant isn't showing any signs of of a cold, such as coughing and fever along with the sneezing, then it is more than likely nothing to worry about. Babies have narrow nasal passages, so any little dust particles that get in their noses make them sneeze because their nostrils are so tiny. My baby is almost 3 months old and he still sneezes a lot. It's okay, I worried about it too. If you are unsure whether it is normal, just contact your doctor and they will examine and reassure you that it is nothing to worry about.

3. Development.

Please DO NOT compare your children to other children around your baby's age. Every baby is different and will develop at their own pace. Do you want to know something cool? If your baby was delivered at 37 weeks, then your baby is technically 3 weeks younger than they really are. You have to consider gestational age whenever you determine which milestones your baby should be hitting. For example my baby is 2 months and 3 weeks old, almost 3 months, but he was born at 37 weeks gestational age, so technically he should only be doing what a 2 month old is doing. But of course, if your child is completing milestones ahead of time, then that is great. Just please don't compare your child to other children because your baby will eventually complete those milestones in their own time. Calm down mama, you're doing great.

4. Breastmilk or Bottle.

A lot of mamas suggest that breastmilk is better for your baby than formula. The only real benefit that breastmilk has over formula is breastmilk will adjust to your baby, like whether he or she is sick or not. Breastmilk will produce more antibodies to help your baby get better quicker. But as far as whether or not your baby will be smarter if they drink breastmilk for a year rather than drinking formula for a year, it's false. Your baby will be fine whether or not you choose breastmilk or formula. Do what you want to do mama, and don't let anyone influence you otherwise. If breastfeeding is exhausting or just isn't for you, don't feel bad in giving up. I did. My baby is currently on formula, hitting all of his milestones, and is healthier than ever. You do what you think is best because you are in charge, and don't let anyone ever make you feel otherwise.

5. Having a certain feeding schedule and sleeping schedule.

Most likely your baby is going to sleep and eat when they want, whether you develop a schedule for them or not. If your baby cries and is hungry, feed them. If they fall asleep, let them sleep. As a newborn, a sleeping and feeding schedule really isn't necessary. Once they begin to get older and understand a certain schedule, then you can develop one and stick to it. But if schedules aren't for you, that's fine too. Just go with the flow, like me. Either way you are doing great!

6. Listening to others.

You don't have to listen to anyone. That's the awesome thing about motherhood. You can do whatever you want, and although other mothers may judge you, you don't have to listen. It's great. Nobody should ever tell you how to raise your own child. If they pushed them out, then they have a two cents. But if they didn't, then they have no reason to include their options about the way you mother your children. You do you, and don't let anyone influence your decisions.

7. Flat spot.

I'm guilty of worrying about this, and it's okay. A baby having a flat spot is almost inevitable. Their skulls are so soft and flexible (to get through your birth canal) that getting a flat spot is pretty much normal. Even a baby sleeping on his back for 8-10 hours a night every night might develop one, but what can you do? Honestly, nothing. Babies sleeping on their back is the best to avoid suffocation, and I would much rather my baby have a flat spot than suffocate during his sleep. It's okay. The flat spot will eventually go away between 6-12 months, depending on how severe the flat spot is. It will not effect the way they develop. It's normal.

8. Stretch marks.

More than 80% of pregnant women get stretch before and after childbirth, and it's okay. It's a beautiful indication that you carried, developed, and birthed a child. If anything, you should be proud of those stretch marks and show them off mama. They are beautiful as are you. Being a mother is a beautiful experience, so show off your body and let the world judge.

9. Getting back in your jeans.

The time will come when you will be able to fit back in your jeans. Whether it requires some serious exercise or just comes naturally, you will eventually see yourself in those jeans that you wore before you got pregnant. Please don't be like me and think that you will fit back in your jeans the day after you give birth. Give it a week or two for your pregnant after birth belly goes away and soon you will be rocking those jeans again. If not, that's okay. You are still beautiful the way you are.

10. Being a good mom.

This is the top thing mothers worry about the most. To be honest, it's a natural instinct to be a good mother, so technically all the nurturing for your child comes naturally, so why worry about it. Let the natural instincts take over and be the best mama you can be. Don't worry about being a good mother, you are a great one. Just keep doing what your doing and if you and your baby are happy, then you are doing a great job! Much love.

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11. Soft Spot.

Gosh, I cannot tell you how much I worry about this. I have searched and searched google about the soft spot and how sensitive it really is. Almost every article and doctor have admitted that the soft spot isn't really as sensitive as we might think. It is covered with a thick membrane that protects the brain until the soft spot closes around one year. It's okay to touch it and wash your baby's hair. Your baby will not become brain dead if you touch it or accidentally nudge it. Everything will be perfectly fine, but of course, if you are worried about it, consult your doctor and go from there. It's also normal for it to pulse. It looks very weird when it does so, but it is normal and nothing to worry about.

Worrying is a common instinct that comes with parenthood, and it just proves that you love your baby and want nothing but the best for them. So keep worrying, but it really isn't necessary. You're doing a great job!