10 tips to become a good/great dad, You should know about

1-Sometimes you will feel like you have made a big mistake

When you are still in anticipation, you will be occupied with such and such thoughts. You may even, out of fear of the unknown, even think about it if you are truly prepared for such a responsible and extraordinary role as the role of a father. However, let us comfort you - there is no hero who is one hundred percent sure of himself and his parenting abilities. One should simply indulge in a new role and learn every day and strive for the well-being of the family and, above all, the child. Once you hold your offspring in your arms, you will surely ask yourself "Why didn't we decide to take this step earlier?" With a new life comes a lot of love, dedication, and the ability to overcome all obstacles. And if you do your part with a lot of love and a touch of common sense, everything will be alright in the end.

2-Baby + travel = big mess

You’re already thinking about how scary the idea of ​​traveling with a baby is, what all you’re going to need with you and that this kind of idea is actually unfeasible. However, this is not the case. Because of this feeling, some parents even wait for years before going on a trip with their child, as they believe that something could happen to the child. Remember, it’s about the baby after all, not some fragile, fragile thing. You can take your child with you a lot. But for traveling with a baby, you only need a few basic things: a bottle of milk or mom’s breast, moisturizing wipes and a waterproof liner, extra diapers, and clean clothes, and you’re ready for the action.

3-The handheld vacuum cleaner will come in handy

Once you experience the role of a father, you will also realize the fact that most of the time it will revolve around cleansing. At first, you will clean the consequences of vomiting, (too) full diapers, and later pouring, crumbs, pieces of paper, etc. Your life will be occupied with such small particles and debris that your child will scatter all over the house (and most likely also around the car), so a good and quality hand-held vacuum cleaner will definitely be a good investment for you.

4-It’s also great on a quick meal

Parenting is quite tiring and due to the fast pace and desire to make the most of your time with your child, you will sometimes be short of time for other tasks. So, if you occasionally quickly prepare a meal for your child and offer him a fried egg or corn figs instead of vegetable soup, there will be nothing wrong with that. Of course, this should not become a habit and become a part of the child's everyday life, but here and there some 'sin' with a quick meal will not harm anyone.

5-Be mature

Even though there will be moments when you would like to go down to the level of the child and shout at him, as he has been screaming all day because of anger, excitement, sadness, or because he did not get the toy he wanted so badly, be mature enough not to do so. Even if you are tempted to argue with your toddler, be aware that you are his role model and that you are there to explain things to him, to talk to him, and to help him understand and accept certain situations, however very frustrating. You and your child need to be aware of which of you is the parent and which is the child.

6-Accept the help of others

Although you feel you need to constantly prove to yourself and others that you are up to the new role of a father, take a step back here and there and allow other people and loved ones to help you as well. Accept advice, a kind word, and help when someone offers it to you. And even if she doesn’t offer it to you, ask for it when you need it. After all, you too are just a human being, bleeding under the skin and sometimes you need time just for yourself, even if during that time you just stare at the wall in front of you and indulge your thoughts. This will make all parenting tasks and obstacles easier to do, as your child needs you to be rested and happy. So do not refuse help, but accept it with both hands.

7-Be a good man

Being a good father does not mean providing your child with all the material things you would need or just want. Being a good father means taking time for the child and family to play with him, talk to him, protect him and give him a sense of acceptance, of love. But you can only be a good father if you are also a good husband before that. If you respect the mother of the child and help her with all the parenting tasks. And even if it happens that the path with the mother diverges for one reason or another, respect is still what all other, healthy relationships in the family are based on. Be a pillar on which other members can rely and rely.

8-Also take time for yourself

However, the fact that you have created a family does not mean that you have to completely give up who you are and what you like to do in life. Keep some of your hobbies, thing, or activity that you enjoy. Take time for friends and maintain other relationships that are important to you. When you have a fulfilled life and are happy, you will also be a much better father and partner.

9-Be gentle

If water is what makes flowers bloom, it is love that makes children develop so beautifully into pleasant and loving adults. Even before they understand your words, children will feel love through your actions and touches. Be gentle, love them, cuddle them and hug them. Read them goodnight fairy tales and tell them about the world. Be that warm, safe shelter they need. There is nothing more beautiful than the warmth and security of a father.

10-You are not a surrogate mother, but a father

When you understand that your fatherly role is completely equal to your mother's role, the fulfillment of it will be achieved. You need to be aware that the child is just as much yours as hers, and that the fact that you are taking care of the child does not mean that you are a surrogate mother or babysitter, but only a father. After all, all responsibilities and worries are divided in half. Be an educated, involved and active dad and never allow yourself to be belittled by someone out of devotion to family. This is a unique life experience that you should not miss, because children grow up too fast and believe me - you want to be a part of their lives.