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10 Mistakes Most Parents Make When Raising Children

Don't like to communicate with children

By Holy horsePublished 2 years ago 5 min read
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10 Mistakes Most Parents Make When Raising Children
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Some work to be able to afford to buy them new toys, others tend to be strict because they want their children to be educated, while others who are goal-oriented offer their children choices and guide them in making their own decisions. Each family has its parenting style, but most parents have one thing in common: when they return, they want to fix some of the mistakes they made earlier.

Some work to be able to afford to buy them new toys, others tend to be strict because they want their children to be educated, while others who are goal-oriented offer their children choices and guide them to make their own decisions. Every family has its parenting style, but most parents have one thing in common: When they come back, they want to fix some of the mistakes they made earlier.

1 - They don't like to communicate with their children

A child who grows immediately from a small child to a relatively self-sufficient person wants consistent contact with adults. The reality, however, is that parents want this kind of communication too. Yes, it's okay to not have any free time to do something while mom is at her kid's game. But if you turn it into a habit, sooner or later you may see that your child is currently old enough to live his or her own life.

There is absolutely no way you can lose time, so not only be physically close to your child but emotionally as well.

2 - They don't hug their kids often enough

Researchers have proven the importance of hugging for well-being (for moral and physical health). There are many obvious benefits, but you may agree that cuddling your baby is just delightful. Sometimes there are many reasons why parents don't do this, most of which are fallacious or outdated (for example, there are messages telling moms, "Don't hold them for long periods, they'll get used to it ......").

3 - They don't take enough pictures and videos

If you don't take pictures, nothing terrible will happen. It will not affect your child's mental state, moral character, or physical health. Nevertheless, in the long run, you will likely want to remember these most precious moments of your life and discuss these feelings with your adult children. Many parents regret not having a camera.

4 - They didn't write down their first words

These are just good memories. You can easily live with them, but it's better to have them.

5 - They didn't play creative enough games

But there is a chance. First, if you engage your child in a lot of different tasks, you can learn exactly what he's interested in and what he's good at. After that, you can work on creating his strengths. Secondly, any kind of action, for example, reading aloud to him and playing with playdough and toys, can develop his intelligence, creativity and improve his language skills. Finally, you create a stronger relationship between you and your child, and that alone is a great reason to do something collectively.

Experienced parents often regret not discovering their child's abilities, even though some skills can be seen at a very young age. Give your child the opportunity to test a variety of games and read as much as possible.

6 - They are too strict

It's one thing to tell someone to do something pathetic, and quite another to start blowing off steam. There is a popular myth that the higher the expectations, the more successful a person will be. However, the truth is that you can get the opposite effect: behavioral problems as well as growth problems. And, naturally, one of the downsides can be a poor relationship with your child.

Punishments for poor grades can also be harmful - they only reduce their general success in college. Punish and reward your child only for the items that matter. An "F" and a broken cup don't make anyone feel bad.

7 - They don't take your child's opinions seriously

You've heard phrases like "you're too young to choose" or "adults know better" plenty of times, and it's not pleasant to listen to them. But in this case, offending your son or daughter is not the worst thing that can happen. Children whose views are often ignored can become insecure. It makes sense: How do you understand exactly what you want out of life when there is always someone to leave all the options open for you?

It's far better to examine their fantasies and clarify things than to ignore and limit them.

8 - They don't make their kids happy

The good memories we have when we are young are the most precious things that no one can deprive us of. On top of that, little vacations can turn into bigger accomplishments later: when a young child grows up in a healthy environment and includes plenty of new adventures, it usually means they are actively growing up. Happy children find it easier to adjust to a mature life and start new relationships.

Make sure your child has as many happy times in their life as possible.

9- They often follow the guidance of others

Some people like to give information, even if it's inappropriate, that young moms hear all the time. When you find these "experts," you may hear a lot of advice on the best ways to groom, feed, and educate your child. However, the reality is that you are the parent and you also know better than anyone else what is good for your child and what is not. You can hear all of this information, but that doesn't mean you need to follow it.

One more thing, you shouldn't let strangers tell your child to be naughty. You always need to be on your child's side and make them feel like you are encouraging them no matter what. They should always have the ability to rely on you when they need help.

10 - They are not there for their children at the most critical times in their lives

Some things that don't seem serious to us can be very serious to our children. At times like these, everyone (especially children) must have someone by their side. Even if you think you have a fantastic reason to ignore your child's birthday party, try not to. Later, once you know the number of critical events you missed, you will feel sorry for yourself.

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Holy horse

There is no one who does not know the name America, the country that is on the Internet in movies and television as if it were made up by God out of thin air.

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