Children become "cell phone control"? Parents can do this

Children become "cell phone control" at home? Parents can do this (Special tutoring 1008)

"My child always hides in his room and locks the door to play with his cell phone, I am so angry!

"Mobile phones have become a demon, making children lose their will to fight and get caught up in it."

"What should we do if our child is addicted to cell phones and barely talks to us?"

"Children pick up the phone and play games, brush short video, how to say can not stop, hurt the eyes, but also hurt feelings."

"In school, there are school discipline class rules teacher control, but at home is not spread out to play, no matter not, a control is a chicken flying dog jump!"

...... so on and so forth, this is the trouble of many parents.

As a result of the new pneumonia epidemic, homeschooling and the use of cell phones, computers, and other electronic products by students has grown. In the context of the epidemic, how to develop reasonable rules for the use of cell phones to prevent children from being addicted to the Internet?

1 use a good "block", but also use a good "sparse"

In response to the current situation that online classes are becoming more and more frequent, the education systems in Jiangsu and Shanghai have recently released the "Independent Learning Happy Learning" home study guidance manual, suggesting that when students encounter problems such as low learning efficiency, excessive time spent on computers or cell phones, and addiction to online games, it is recommended to take "a study schedule according to When students encounter problems such as low learning efficiency, excessive use of computers or mobile phones, and addiction to online games, it is recommended that they take measures such as "making a study schedule according to school requirements", "studying according to the school schedule", and "increasing exercise appropriately".

The education department has long had a ban on the supervision of cell phones in general. Last year, the Ministry of Education issued the "Notice on Strengthening the Management of Primary and Secondary School Students' Mobile Phones", which set forth the requirements that primary and secondary school students should not, in principle, bring their cell phones to campus, and that schools should not use cell phones to assign homework or require students to use them to complete their homework.

The notice sparked a lively discussion, with most people applauding the "cell phone ban". All places have introduced supporting measures. The practice of Liaoning Anshan in addition to the good "blocking", but also the good "sparse".

To ensure that the ban on primary and secondary school students carrying cell phones into school is in place, Anshan City schools have implemented a cell phone management responsibility system. The principal is the first person in charge, and the classroom teacher is the direct person in charge, to strengthen the communication and discipline awareness of students. At the same time, campus-themed educational activities are carried out within classes through classroom teaching, expert lectures, and speech contests. Teachers in some schools take the initiative to motivate students and encourage them to learn for themselves about the dangers of cell phones in the classroom and excessive use, allowing students to conclude self-exploration.

Through two years of regular cell phone management, the myopia rate of youth in Anshan City has been effectively controlled, the incidence of myopia among primary and secondary school students has been reduced by nearly 4 percentage points, and the daily behavior of students using cell phones has been effectively regulated.

2 Help children establish a sense of rules

To effectively solve the regulatory problems brought by online classes, many experts have also given their advice. Liu Changhai, a professor at the Academy of Educational Sciences at Huazhong University of Science and Technology, suggests that parents should help their children establish a sense of rules, and both sides negotiate a new rule for using cell phones. First, based on adequate parent-child communication, parents set an example in cell phone use and establish parental authority. "Many parents are playing with their phones themselves, but he is still disciplining the child. At this time, the child will feel unfair." Liu Changhai said.

Second, negotiate the period and length of cell phone use. Let the child participate in the development of rules, he will feel respected and more willing to comply. In terms of the time of use, "some families currently prohibit children from using electronic products for entertainment from Monday to Thursday and can use them on Friday evenings and weekends. If your child has a greater need for a cell phone or computer, you can expand to daily use. But either way, the next step is a strict limit on the length of use." Liu Changhai said. The Implementation Plan for Comprehensive Prevention and Control of Nearsightedness in Children and Youth states that the use of electronic products for non-learning purposes should not exceed 15 minutes in a single session; after 30-40 minutes of learning with electronic products, they should rest and relax from a distance. "If the child proposes a longer use time, without damaging vision or sleep, parents can reach a consensus by compromise and other means." Liu Changhai said.

In addition, in actual implementation, children may sometimes not be able to put down their phones immediately, which requires parents to make considerations in advance in time design. For the use of cell phones for the entertainment of primary and secondary school students, Liu Changhai proposed that if elders are living with the family, parents should reach a consensus among themselves to form a management alliance, not because the parents are away, only grandparents at home, the length of children playing cell phones can be broken at will, even if the appropriate relaxation should be limited.

Then again, what needs to be done is to have family members work together to abide by the rules and enforce them consistently and strongly. "At first, you can let the child set an alarm clock, everything is difficult at the beginning, parents help the child form the habit of setting an alarm clock, slowly will find no need to set an alarm clock, the child also knows that it is time to stop." Liu Changhai stressed that the development of cell phone use habits may require several months of supervision and a slow process of letting go.

3 Practical approach: lead by example

If your child has become "cell phone control", the right thing to do is to give your child the proper guidance and rules. The following methods can be used.

Agree in advance: Every time before giving your child a cell phone, agree with him or her, for example, to finish homework or chores before playing with the phone once. And if the child wants to play with the phone, he or she has to find the password himself or herself, which will be updated daily. Maintain it for 1-2 weeks, and then mom and dad will make adjustments depending on the situation.

Control the length of use: when the child is 3 years old, you can play with the phone properly, but control the time, 10 minutes each time. If your child wants to watch cartoons, you can only watch one episode per week, as each episode may take 15-30 minutes or even longer.

Choose quality content: It is best to set aside a separate cell phone, delete all the movies and games inside, turn off the Internet function, and specifically download some cartoons or music suitable for children to avoid children watching videos continuously and playing games repeatedly.

Choose the right place: don't let your child play with the phone when eating or before going to bed. In addition, try not to let your child play with the phone when waiting for the car or during the journey, so as not to let your child develop the habit of playing with the phone while waiting. Don't use your phone as a tool to appease your child daily either. It is recommended that you give your child a moment to play after meals and during breaks.

Parents set an example and guide their children properly: adults should try to reduce the chances of playing with their cell phones in front of their children. When you are with your child, play games and read more with your child. If parents do have some things that need to be handled through the phone, try not to do it in front of the child, or sincerely tell the child that you are handling work. Put the phone down immediately after the work is done. If you need to relax on your phone, try to do so after your child is asleep. A responsible parent will never be on the phone all day long, you may miss more than just the child's childhood.