3 steps to upgrade the role of children and parents

Bridging junior high school - three steps to upgrade the roles of children and parents

It's summer vacation and the new first-year students have received their acceptance letters. Naturally, the topic of "bridging junior high school" has become a hot topic of concern for parents and children. Most parents understand the bridging of junior high school as simply letting their children learn about junior high school in advance, but in fact, the connotation of the bridging of junior high school is much more profound. Shen Lei's classroom teacher's notes, praise 56 bridging education is like an adapter in two pipes, neither equal to the junior high school learned nor is it a repetition of elementary school learning. Its role is more to help children make a smooth turn and adapt to the inflection point of life.

So the first task of the junior high school transition is not a knowledge transition, but a psychological transition. It is to help the child achieve role upgrading, i.e. the child can realize that he/she is officially upgrading from a primary student to a secondary student! Parents also need to be aware of their own and their child's changing roles so that they can keep up with their child's growth, so parents need to learn and change as well. Once the child has a strong sense of role, the initiative will increase. Possibly, he or she will be interested in looking through middle school textbooks, learning about middle school requirements, and wanting to be exposed to school early, which is the kind of internal drive we expect to see.

How do you achieve role promotion? I'll give you three steps!

01. Get to know the new school

There is a strong sense of loss when you leave your familiar elementary school campus and don't get to see the teachers who cared for you all those years. The best way to fill that sense of loss is to find a sense of belonging to the new school.

Parents may want to take their children to the high school where they will be enrolled and take a look around. Maybe we can't get on campus because it's closed for the holidays or because of the epidemic closure, but together we can go around the school and plan how to get to school and home whether it's by bike, on foot, by subway or by shuttle; estimate the time spent on the road and observe the road conditions in front of the school. ...... These will help your child adapt in advance to the next three years Daily.

Browse the campus website or the school's We Chat public website with your child. In the information age, we can get all the information we want to know about the school.

Among the vast amount of campus news, I suggest you focus on three areas.

1. campus environment

2. School curriculum and activities

3. graduating teachers

The campus environment is highly nurturing, with every plant and tree having a life force; playgrounds, libraries, lecture halls, and campus corners are carefully designed nurturing places that bring a sense of immersive learning. The school curriculum and activities reflect the school's philosophy and educational path, and your child will grow up with such a curriculum and activities. In the context of "double reduction", scientific, positive, and educationally sound teaching and learning behaviors are likely to give children the ability to develop in the long term. About teachers, most of the teachers from the graduating class usually return to the starting grade and will most likely become your child's teachers. Take a look at the teachers' work status, student-teacher relationships, and classroom research reflected in the graphic to better predict what kind of teacher your child will encounter. Once your child has an understanding of the new school and has a vision of it, he or she will be more motivated to actively integrate.

02. Take your child to the bookstore

Once your child has a good understanding of middle school life, it's time to throw out the "gauntlet". There are many subjects and a lot of content in secondary school, and a lot of required reading in language subjects, which brings challenges in terms of knowledge acquisition. Take your child to a bookstore and look through textbooks, teaching aids, required reading, and related books. This will help your child visualize the increase in learning content, difficulty, and requirements between middle school and elementary school. Don't just buy a bunch of teaching aids online. Brushing up on them without meaning and purpose doesn't fit the core literacy of your child under the new curriculum. The process of children flipping through the physical bookstore will produce positive and active comparisons, which is the process of thinking, and the final book selected will be the one they want to read and write more about.

03. Have a formal conversation with your child

A formal conversation is a sense of ritual that makes your child aware of the fact that a role upgrade means not only physical growth but also increased responsibility. By the time they reach secondary school, children are bound to face greater challenges that require a higher level of competence and therefore more effort.

For the formal conversation, the following is suggested.

1. Sincere congratulations Parents congratulate their child on becoming a middle school student from the bottom of their hearts, expressing their joy at their child becoming a middle school student is a great encouragement to their child. Remember: Never express your concerns about your child in a bitter, nagging way. No teenager likes this kind of "distrust".

Parents can ask their children, "What kind of high school student do you want to be?" This is the first step in leading the child to express his or her ideal middle school student.

3. After agreeing together based on the above practices, suggest your child make a vacation plan, and parents can gate-keep and guide your child to turn the dream into continuous action. It is important to note that knowledge is easier than doing, and most plans are very well adhered to, so children need their parents to be their helpers more than anything else.

4. Ask about needs I mentioned at the beginning that the transition to junior high is not only an upgrade of the child's role but also an upgrade of the parent's role. Parents need to face adolescent teenagers, they face multiple pressures of learning and growth, and will become more than the elementary school stage of the problem constantly.

Parents must also be psychologically prepared and actively adjust. Listen to your child's problems and worries, and provide appropriate help. Role promotion is a psychological component of bridging education. Everything is a matter of the heart before action! I hope that the content of the psychological articulation of role upgrading can help you to act first.