"Want to get married, want to break up. "

Someone took a look; Someone used three confessions; There are people who have spent five years and are not ready.

My friend belongs to the last category. She and her boyfriend have been together for five years without any quarrels, breakups or family interference. Finally, when it comes to getting married, her friend suddenly hesitates.

This next anxious bad two families, surrounded in her side, constantly ask its reason.

She faltered and said, "I haven't decided yet."

"I haven't decided yet," that's how both families got angry,

Even her grandmother, who loved her most at ordinary times, could not help but accuse her, "This all talked about so long, you did not think well early why to go? "

The friend was so choked that he could not say a word.

That night, she had a sleepless night.

She recalled the whole process of getting to know each other, getting to know each other and falling in love, which was filled with many boys' carefulness and thoughtfulness.

She also admits that she should be grateful to have someone to accompany her from her youth to maturity.

In all respects, boys are her best and only choice at the moment.

She should have been lucky that he was upright, good-looking, gentle to her, and that his parents were quite satisfied with her.

However, her boyfriend has not married this matter, like a thorn, stuck in her heart can not go.

She did not want to get married and still live in a rented life, because of this matter, she could not be sure to enter a marriage relationship with him.

But other than that, he would be a very good man to marry.

"Break up or get married? "

When the words suddenly came to her mind, she was suddenly startled.

Maybe many people thought they had finally broken up, but it turns out they still got married as planned.

In the face of known "shortcomings" and unknown "risks", she made the safer choice and decided to get married.

Of course, factors such as old age, family urging marriage, and fear of what's next,

But the most important thing is the words our friend said to us later: "Since the outcome of the relationship is unpredictable, it is better to go step by step. As long as we still like and are suitable, we will be together, and there is no need to use the future uncertainty to kidnap the present happiness. "

In the face of long-term love, whether to get married or break up, perhaps most people, like friends, have tangled and dilemma, and finally preserve the present, choose marriage.

Relationships are never black and white.

Before falling in love, FROM the bottom of my heart, I think "I want to be with him forever", but once I get married, I often think "I am wrong to marry this person".

Sometimes it happens on the wedding day, sometimes it happens on the honeymoon, sometimes it happens with the in-laws, sometimes it happens during pregnancy,

I feel that the people in front of me are suddenly not suitable for me, and the life in front of me is suddenly not what I want.

Wedding vows to "stay with each other for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health" were suddenly shattered by such trivial things as grinding their teeth, snoring, not turning on the toothpaste cap and not changing their shoes when they got home.

Perhaps a lot of people do not think of themselves, their 981 rare marriage, may end up just because of a meal, a look or a word.

There are only those who suffer losses and hit a wall in marriage, and there are those who are like fish in water in marriage.

Obviously the other party is not the ideal type, but daily necessities can cooperate with each other, piano, chess, painting and calligraphy can also appreciate each other, the fit in life, let them automatically ignore some of the unmatched place on each other, in the marriage can feel the heartbeat and sweetness of love.

Some people love for three years, but regret to stop at marriage, some people eye ten thousand years, from love to marriage just a few days.

Some people miss the person who loves you secretly, and so on to full of their own people, some people miss the true love, it is really regret for life.

Feelings are complex and subtle, not to people's mind development, nor will temporary gains and losses as the final outcome.

Whether they choose to get together or separate, whether they want to break up or get married, they may have their own regrets, but there is no right or wrong.

I have heard people say: "the shelf life of ice is only three years, we are all flesh and blood, temper, ideas, and how to ensure that there is no problem in life, right now is already lucky. "

When you're in a year-by-year relationship, there's no universal answer to whether you want to break up or get married.

This is like us in the process of moving, there are always some things, throw away reluctant to leave the position, tangle to tangle, it is difficult to make a choice.

But even then, we both know that there's no right or wrong choice between staying and throwing away,

Most of all, you should not waste too much time in the trade-off, delay the real big thing - "move".

Finally, two words to share with you about breaking up or getting married:

"Every girl dreams of wearing a wedding dress because it will be the most beautiful day of her life. "

"Not every girl dreams of getting married, because there are many moments in life that are more important than marriage. "

If one day you were forced to choose between breaking up and getting married, what would you do?