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Hospitals Do Not Care About Nurses and Why Nurses Don´t Quit

Creating a toxic/manipulative relationship

By sara burdickPublished 6 months ago 4 min read
Top Story - November 2023
Hospitals Do Not Care About Nurses and Why Nurses Don´t Quit
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I read this quote the other day, and it hit home.

There’s not a shortage of nurses; there’s a shortage of nurses who aren’t willing to put up with the bullshit any longer.

As of 2023, a survey conducted that 43% of nurses are qualified for retirement, most plan to retire in the next four-ish years, and only 13 % of these nurses plan to retire on time.

However, that is not what concerns me; what I want to know is why nurses like me who are not at retirement age quit. First, I want to talk about the elephant in the room.

Manipulative hospital administration and management.

Most nurses will work burned out, tired, overworked, underpaid, and with horrible staffing ratios because we care about the patient.

However, we nurses are the only ones who care about the patient; the only thing upper management cares about is the bottom line, the money, how much they make, and how much each sick person brings in.

We are in the business of sickness, not healing; if the hospitals cared about anyone, they would change their healthcare model. Instead, management manipulates the only ones who care for the nurses, Rn/Lpn, the caregivers, and even the housekeeping staff.

Why Nurses don't quit

Most nurses have not quit because they are worried about the patient.

I used to be as well, so it took me so long to leave a broken system. A system that manipulated us as caregivers to stay in toxic environments. The only good thing that happened during the pandemic is nurses are waking up and seeing they are pawns in a manipulative, narcissistic game the healthcare system is playing.

According to an article by USA Today, ¨the nation’s long-running nursing shortage only got worse during the pandemic¨ I think what happened is that nurses started to stand their ground.

So, nurses are not realizing this and are finding other jobs.

I truly believe there has never been a nursing shortage; the only problem is that we see the system is broken and leave the field altogether.

We refuse to be bullied and tell our patients to need us; when they get high patient satisfaction scores, they get a bonus; we do not; when they meet magnet status, they get bonuses; we do not.

Like anything, the bottom of the barrel is always the care team. We are manipulated into thinking we can not do anything else and get told how the pay doesn’t matter when you touch someone, fuck that seriously.

If drug companies would stop promoting drugs that are killing us and food that is killing us, maybe then we have a chance. At this point, we are fighting an uphill battle, one that we will not win unless we fight back.

And we are; it might have taken a global pandemic to see that we are being abused; it’s like a relationship that has gone just too far, now we see.

The patients also see; they know.

I used to tell my patients to have a list of questions for their doctors and would help them write it and ask them every question, making them see you as human.

It did work when the doctor paid attention, but unfortunately, they too are in the game of making money, and as much as we like to think they want the best for the patients, their pockets are filled with kickbacks from health ins companies, pharma companies, and it’s a shit show.

It’s almost like you have been married to an abusive spouse, and then something significant happened; he beat you to the point of nearly dying.

You wake up; unfortunately, that is how much it takes for most nurses to realize they are being abused by a system that was supposed to protect them, their license, and, most importantly, the patient.

Younger nurses are realizing this sooner than most of us who have been in the profession a while, and it will take all of us talking about it and bringing awareness to a much greater problem: a broken healthcare system that is finally starting to crumble.

We nurses now have a much bigger job: to let the public know what is happening and why we are leaving, as well as how important it is to take care of our bodies and make healthy choices.

Since the system can not be relied on and search out alternative medications to prescriptions as that is the number one poison, we see the opioid crisis not slowing down.

That, too, was started by big pharma; once you start waking up, you will begin to connect all the dots.

You, the nurse, are not letting the patient down; the system we have in place is you are just no longer allowing yourself to be manipulated and abused.

If they keep us tired, sick, and burned out, we are easier to control.



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About the Creator

sara burdick

I quit the rat race after working as a nurse for 16 years. I now write online and live abroad, currently Nomading, as I search for my forever home. Personal Stories, Travel and History

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  • Mike Singleton - Mikeydred5 months ago

    Hi we are featuring your excellent Top Story in our Community Adventure Thread in The Vocal Social Society on Facebook and would love for you to join us there

  • Novel Allen5 months ago

    Nurses are actually the doctors and vice versa. This could relate to all professions these days actually. But Nursing is special, like teaching, which is also thankless mostly. Healthcare should be free in every country, meds should be natural and helpful, but people have to be smart about taking what they are given. Nurses are angels, if only they had angel powers.

  • Shirley Belk5 months ago

    Retired RN here.... Hospitals=business, Nursing=profession The cost of Caring . The analogy of abuser to the abused is spot on.

  • Justine Crowley5 months ago

    It is a shame. The health care system in Australia has been on the decline. Nurses need much more appreciation, and doctors do as well - especially junior doctors. They have been delightful to me during the fair few times I needed emergency department visits since 2015. Would feel lost without them.

  • Phil Flannery5 months ago

    It's similar here in Australia. My wife has been a nurse for 35 years. When she started, in the 80's, our public health system was strong and nurses were respected, but it has been eroded by successive governments and private health has been getting bigger and stronger with lots of government help. It is now profit driven and nursing is a toxic profession. Ironically she is now a nurse educator and often wonders if she is setting her students up to fail.

  • Rachel Robbins5 months ago

    Great post. I have a friend in the UK NHS service - where apparently money isn't the bottom line, because we are a state run system - but it is getting its grubby little paws into one of best bits of the country. Thank you for speaking out.

  • Artieinfo5 months ago

    Great post

  • The Dani Writer5 months ago

    An RN high-fiving you and not pulling out my soapbox because it will become a permanent fixture. Your story is chock full of truths. Thank you for writing and sharing!

  • A. Lenae5 months ago

    I really appreciate your perspective, and the approach you take that challenges the system while reminding us all that one nurse alone should not be carrying the entire burden of this crap system on his/her shoulders. I am a social worker, and I have worked alongside many, many incredible nurses. Healthcare doesn't exist without these brilliant, compassionate people. My nursing friends are burnt out, sometimes scapegoated, and yet pushing forward because of their love for their patients. I wish we could scrap the system we have in place in the US and then create a nurse-led team to design a whole new one. This was enlightening, sad, and well-articulated. Thank you for sharing your experience. Happy you're finding your joy, and thanks for your years of service!

  • JBaz5 months ago

    I have always had a deep respect for nurses. It was them that took care of me. While the Dr. Would see me for 5 min. Also glad you added the drug company role in all this, they need to be held accountable. Congratulations

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  • Hannah Moore6 months ago

    The system is a little different in the UK, but still, the crisis is very similar.

  • Dana Crandell6 months ago

    So much sad truth in this. Nurses have always been the heroes of the health care system from my perspective and I've had more than enough opportunities to gain that perspective in recent years.

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