Hu Yinmeng's nine life advice to his daughter

01

Learn to love yourself and let go of the past and the future.

Learn to love yourself, maybe you have heard too much. But to really do it, it may not be so easy and thorough.

If you can't treat yourself with love and respect, you can't attract others to approach you with love and respect.

It is easy for people to see their own shortcomings, because you are the one who has come into contact with you recently, which is why some stars and beauties still feel that they are not beautiful at all.

Do you think you're beautiful?

Do you think you deserve to be loved?

Do you think you are a lively and interesting person?

If you don't feel it yourself, how can you attract others to surround you with pleasure? just like Lin Huiyin, she has great talents such as Xu Zhimo, Liang Sicheng and Jin Yuelin who never give up on her, which is the result of her charm both inside and outside.

The weakness of each of us is that we spend too much time remembering the past and too much time worrying about the future.

In many relationships, what a wonderful thing it would be if we could really do something happy with a lover, regardless of whether it was fate or not, and really enjoy the harmony of loving each other at the moment.

02

Learn to be aware of yourself and recognize the present.

It's not easy to be aware of yourself. As the saying goes: the incumbent is confused, the bystander is clear. And we have the same blind spot. Emotionally, we are more or less suspected of "only state officials are allowed to set fires, but people are not allowed to light lamps."

Take myself, for example, in my emotional experience, it is easy for me to see if the other person has reservations about love. In fact, when I reflect carefully, my insight is actually a sign that I am not 100% committed.

For example, I like to see handsome boys and beauties, but if my boyfriend likes other beauties, I will be more or less jealous; when I see an excellent sunny man, I will be secretly moved, but if my boyfriend has such courage, I can't help but feel the anger of him on the spot. He is really strict with others and lenient with himself. Fight, fight, fight!

03

Have the ability to transform your inner troubles.

Since I learned the spiritual teaching, my mood is basically happy. But before and after a woman's month, there are always times when she is depressed.

When you really regard any emotion as a kind of energy, you will not resist it, dispel it, and will not increase its anti-elasticity. It will not only dissipate naturally, but also play a wonderful role in opening up your inner depression.

04

Be bold and search for your potential.

This is too important for women in the new era. Many women are content to get married and have children, as Zhang ailing said: marriage is the best way to destroy a female genius.

After getting married, many women have lost many of their aspirations and ideals in their youthful years, preventing their husbands from having an affair and fighting a protracted battle with the other woman who will never give up, thus exhausting their mental, physical strength and motivation. What a pity it is that life has passed like this.

I used to vacillate between enjoying myself and tapping my potential, but now I am determined to reach my full potential easily, playfully and effortlessly.

05

Be emotionally self-sufficient, which is usually the ability that women lack the most.

It is impossible to overemphasize this point. To be emotionally self-sufficient, a man's moisture can only be the icing on the cake.

Can not be like Zhang ailing, in the article "human skills", but in real life, a Hu Lancheng let her "wither from now on."

Every woman should regard herself as the most delicate rose in the hands of the "little prince". She is responsible for watering and irrigating herself, and she is responsible for her own invincible life.

06

Learn to face loneliness.

Many people get married or enter a sexual relationship in order to get rid of loneliness. Little do you realize that if you have different dreams in the same bed, you will be more lonely.

Sooner or later, a person has to face loneliness, because the one who accompanies you the longest is yourself.

When you are alone, learn to sit still and meditate with the most valuable people in the world: get along with yourself, really know yourself, really develop yourself, and really understand yourself. This is the most worthwhile thing to do when you are alone.

07

The most fundamental thing in life is body and mind.

If we are really physically and mentally healthy, there will be no problems that cannot be overcome and no goals that cannot be achieved. As we all know, no matter how big the stomach is, you can only eat three meals a day; no matter how luxurious the house is, you can only sleep three feet at night.

In this world, "you should guard your heart more than anything else, for the results of your life come from your heart."

You just earn the whole world. I want your soul tonight. What's the use of what you earn? think about what is important in your life.

Have you ever loved anyone?

Have you ever been loved?

If only for fear of being hurt, but miss the true feelings of the world. Even if you are rich, you can't beat the cold without love in your heart.

Recognize that the most fundamental thing in life is body and mind, and everything else is unimportant.

08

Never follow the fashion.

Thanks to my father, he taught us from an early age that regular defecation is a hundred times more important than buying designer clothes. Although I didn't understand until I grew up, I also benefited a lot.

Never follow the fashion, according to your own style, your own needs, your own financial ability, become your own fashion.

09

You can grow through every relationship, whether it's a robbery or a fate.

All persuasion about marriage should be said when fate arrives, not at the time of bottleneck crisis, because it is said in vain.

I have been thinking about fate now. I have calculated my partnership with two men, one is "he appears in your chart as a family member", and the other is "he is your destiny in your previous life."

So I think any kind of relationship, whether it is "robbery or fate", if it is a journey that you have to go through in your life, a period of learning.

Then the persuasion of marriage, no matter how reasonable it is, is still a mystery, or: unless you have experienced it, you cannot grow up! Therefore, these persuasion is really: it is useless to say it.

Just like myself, I seem to have become an expert in love and marriage, but if things come to an end, there may still be a lot of room for learning and growth. This is actually not a bad thing. Among the six needs of life, the sense of growth that any relationship brings to me is very precious.