Last night the pipes burst and you barely slept a wink in the cold night. Your toes are incredibly cold despite you wearing every pair of socks you own and sleeping under all your blankets while wearing every clean sweater you can find.
Waking up, you happily note that at least the sun is shining, it's early morning hue brightening up the drab buildings on the block.
You gaze out your window where Dimplez, a homeless man known to all in the neighborhood, shuffles down the street and takes his usual perch in front of the coffee shop at the end of the block.
You suddenly don’t feel so cold, as you sadly wonder where he slept last night.
Rising from your bed you head to the bathroom to brush your chattering teeth. “Uniqua play Toast by Koffee” you say to your smart home music player. The words rise over your being; urging you to think of all you can be grateful for. You dance in the mirror while throwing your hands in the air toothbrush and all.
“Mi haffi thank God for di journey, di earnings a jus fi di plus (yeah)
Gratitude is a must (yeah)
Mi see blessings fall by mi right hand
Buss a toast fi di friends weh tek off heavy load”
As Toast ends, you catch sight of your face, puffy but still that familiar canvas that has greeted you faithfully for years.
Blessed by Shenseea which unnecessarily features fledgling rapper Tyga comes on next. How appropriate you think as you hop in the shower.
Never had to pretend-tend-tend
I'm ah five times two, that's a ten, ten, ten
Never, ever beg fren, fren, fren
If they not with me, mi nuh worry 'bout dem
Whoa, blind man can see it
Hang me out to dry by the Cold War Kids comes on. As you turn on the hot water you are hit by the coldest blast this side of Antarctica. “Crap,” you mutter beyond annoyed, “Curse those frozen pipes!” You promise yourself that this is your last year you’ll spend winter in the northeast.
Now hang me up to dry
You wrung me out
Too too too many times
Now hang me up to dry
I'm pearly like the whites
The whites of your eyes
You try to maintain your positivity, but everything seems to be going wrong. In the kitchen you fill the kettle and your two biggest pots on the stove.
Mindfully you place a teabag of ashwagandha and another of tulsi in ar large glass mug.
Street Lights by Kanye West plays softly and you muse on destinations unrealized.
All of the streets lights, glowin'
Happen to be just like moments, passin'
In front of me so I hopped in, the cab and
I paid my fare see I know my destination
But I'm just not there
You pour the steaming hot water over the tea bags and watch the steam dance above the rim. Some water spills over the edge and you think of the importance of boundaries.
Setting boundaries is part of the reason you're alone today - and most days. Your ability to set them is one of your proudest achievements of late.
Your phone rings less these days but your reasons for cutting someone off remains valid. Cutting Ties by 6lack is a great reminder of this truth.
I pray to God I don't have to pay for not knowin'
This world is new to me, I do not know it
My pride never wanted you to know this
Sometimes I wanna be alone and..
The truth is you’ve spent much of your life “paired up.” This new silence in a world that has been unusually noiseless is tougher than you expected. Nevertheless you have committed to learning yourself, deeply. You didn't plan to walk through so much of your life alone. It's just the way the proverbial cookie crumbled. The lessons you've learned about attachment to things (and people) are been priceless. Firebomb by Rihanna punctuates your thoughts.
Seems cold but baby no it doesn't have to be
Microwaving a mental tragedy
Watching it burning, it's beautiful and it's blue
And it's pitiful and it's blue, it's the other half of me
I didn't do it you lit the match for me
Now we're flying from the blast baby thats the thing..
Your tea is now cool enough to sip. A glob of frozen, vegan, chocolate chip cookie dough is the perfect accompaniment to the mild, unsweetened tea. You are flooded with satisfaction, reflecting on the time you've taken to develop your inner parent. The vibrating beat from Find Your Way Back by Beyonce moves your tea in tiny waves. The most painful moments in your life you've dealt with on your own. You are enough.
Find your way back
Big, big world, but you got it, baby
Find your way back
Don't let this life drive you crazy
Find your way back
You are grateful for the lessons and pieces of advice you've gleaned along the way. The cold hard truth is: you did the work to live comfortably in your own skin. You know yourself better than anyone else does. Trick Me by Kelis plays as you promise yourself to learn from your mistakes.
Might trick me once
Woah oh
I won't let you trick me twice
Woah oh
No I won't let you trick me twice
Those days are old and overdone
Always Love by Nada Surf plays next. Such an unassuming song but the lyrics really deliver gems. Love remains in many forms. Real love fulfilling in any of it’s forms from platonic, familial to self love true resonance with the reflection in the mirror.
Slow demands come 'round
Squeeze the air and keep the rest out
It helps to write it down
Even when you then cross it out
....
Self-directed lives
I want to know what it'd be like to
Aim so high above
Any card that you've been dealt, you
Always love
Hate will get you every time
Always love
Hate will get you
You now turn the fire off for the big pot. The bathtub is half-filled with the freezing cold water from the shower ealier and you carefully add the super hot water. The sweaters come off one after the other as Computer Blue by Prince plays, you can’t help but sing at the top of your lungs. Prince was teaching lessons about not settling on this track. You shimmy off the last layer of leggings and underwear and sink into the tub.
Until I find the righteous one, computer blue
Until I find the righteous one, computer blue
A truck honks outside and it almost sounds like a message that everything will be ok. Language by Porter Robinson resonates through the speakers.
Give me release
Let the waves of time and space surround me
Yeah
'Cause I need room to breathe
Let me float back to the place you found me
I'll be okay
You usually opt exclusively for the shower, but today, you appreciate sinking into the now hot water. Your toes feel like they're thawing. You smile. A smile that reaches deep inside you because you've done it! You've learned to be lonely. Learn to be Lonely by Minnie Driver from The Phantom of the Opera drifts from the living room and floats under the bathroom door to your ears.
Learn to be lonely
Learn to be your one companion
Never dreamed out in the world
There are arms to hold you
You've always known
Your heart was on its own
So laugh in your loneliness
Child of the wilderness
Learn to be lonely
Learn how to love life that is lived alone
Learn to be lonely
Life can be lived
Life can be loved
Alone
About the Creator
L
“By hell there is nothing you can do that you want and by heaven you are going to do it anyway”
Anne Spencer
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