We as women have been there more times than we can count (and the occasional man), but we complain and that complaint is that they are not helping us, or they act like a man child. I love my husband dearly but I do the primary cleaning, cooking, and dealing with the kids. While that was agreed upon with me staying home, it doesn't make it any less frustrating when I need help and he just does his own thing.
Growing up in a family with a mother who was narcissistic and faked mental disorders in order to get pills in her later years and a father who wanted to be absent but was caught in the Narcissistic web, both abusive. It was a hard road growing up with not one but two parents who didn't care about you.