Recently, acclaimed author Lauren Groff refused to answer the work/life balance question in an interview with the Harvard Gazette. Alexandra King, with CNN, responded with an op-ed on why she believes Groff, and all women “in positions of influence,” should have answered the question. My rebuttal is that King missed the mark entirely on the original question asked of Groff and Groff's response, ultimately reinforcing a sexist position the question takes.
I’m not really a lipstick girl. I love the look of lipstick, but in reality I rub my lips together a lot, drink liquids often, and have very dry lips prone to cracking, which a lot of lipstick formulas aggravate. Yet, when a mom acquaintance touted the long lasting wear of LipSense by SeneGence that she’d started to sell, my interest piqued. I wanted to be supportive, keep my wineglasses and coffee cups pristine, and possibly become one of those females who always looked fresh.
As journeys do, I’ve come across more hurdles and discovered more ways I can use lessons learned from one to influence the other.
Hairbrushes. They just aren’t something I think about until I’m actually brushing my hair. Am I alone in this? I certainly do not rely on my brush to smooth all the frizz. That heavy duty lifting power belongs to the expensive creams, sprays, and the straightening iron. I don’t replace my hairbrush on a regular, or even yearly, basis (again, just me?). It’s a trusted beauty tool that should detangle my hair and pull it as taught as possible as I blow dry. Its durability is taken for granted until that inevitable day when it breaks! Or in my case, the brush flies off the literal handle and crashes into the bathroom mirror while I’m in the middle of blowdrying my super long, super thick, super curly hair. Suddenly, hairbrushes are all I can think about and an item I have to replace immediately. I cannot go without it. It’s like when your air conditioner goes out in the middle of summer and you live in Texas.
Becoming a mom for the first time is an uncertain but rewarding journey. As all journeys are, it’s enhanced when you have trusted friends to keep you company along the way. Here are the types of friends that supported me as I set out into motherhood, making my life a little bit easier:
Over the last year, I’ve dedicated a large amount of my free time to writing and running. My jobs always required extensive writing, but now I write for myself, finding my creative voice instead of a professional one. Running, on the other hand, is a new passion, chosen because it fit my criteria for an exercise regimen (full body workout, convenient, relatively cheap). As I cultivated both activities, I began to see parallels in my fears, ability, and routine. If you’re a beginner to creative writing or running, I’d like to reflect on these mental hurdles and hopefully inspire you to stick with it!