Reinventing Her by Tresa Leftenant, CFP®
Creator of The Money Stress Solution: 7 Essential Inner Habits for More Confidence, Clarity, and Financial Wellbeing for Suddenly Single Women
THAT'S TOO RISKY FOR ME...
THAT'S TOO RISKY FOR ME... Have you ever held back from doing something because it was too risky? We probably all have at one time or another. Taking a chance usually means there is something to lose, and people shy away from losing. Let’s face it, no one wants to lose. Still, taking chances is an integral part of life, and if we want our lives to improve, we have to become more aware of what we are willing and not willing to risk.
LIFE IS A MARATHON, NOT A SPRINT: MAKING PERSONAL GOALS IN LIFE
I was a complete and total victim earlier in my life. In my 40’s, I’d been through three marriages and was considering a fourth with another wrong man. I was thousands of dollars in debt, and my children were suffering from my poor parenting. I was drinking too much, blaming too much and feeling like my life was out of control with no personal goals in life.
DIFFERENT PERCEPTIONS ARE A NECESSARY PART OF LIFE
I need to talk to you about something. One of my friends recently interrupted a conversation with those powerful words. As she continued to speak, I felt the moment change into a long instant of mixed emotions. A feeling of dread and a feeling of excitement…different perceptions at the same time. I sensed there was something I had done. Something she didn’t like or something that had hurt her. Something that would be hard to hear. I wanted to hear what she said and didn’t want to hear it, at the same time.
IMAGINE THE POSSIBILITIES: MAKING GOOD CHOICES IN LIFE
What’s the worst decision you’ve ever made? What’s the best decision you’ve ever made? I think about those questions, and I realize that many, if not all, of my worst decisions, were because of some incorrect or confused thoughts I had. Those thoughts were about who I was, what I wanted and what might happen in the future. My actions were a response to everything going on around me. Without realizing what I was thinking the actions I took were preventing me from making good choices in life.
HOW CAN I FORGIVE
How can I ever forgive… Have you ever felt there was no way you could ever forgive someone? Forgiving someone after they have hurt you can be one of the most challenging undertakings of a human being. Hurt feelings are complicated and can be so strong that they seem to hijack us and take away our ability to think or act rationally. Even if we wantto get over a past hurt, actually making it happen is another story. The problem is that when we carry around resentment and hold on to past events that have hurt us, we deprive ourselves of a happy contented life.
WHAT DO I WANT...
When was the last time you said “I want…?” I’m not talking about wanting another cup of coffee or a new pair of shoes, I’m talking about wanting something bigger and better in your life. When was the last time you said “I want a bigger house”, or “I want a more fulfilling job”, or “I want a better relationship”? When was the last time you put your own happiness ahead of the daily grind?
“I’M NOT VERY GOOD AT THAT…”
How many times have you heard yourself say “I’m not very good at ….”? As you said this statement out loud, were you aware of a low energy sinking feeling of self-doubt and fear inside your body? Many women walk around with a constant inner feeling and belief that they just don’t have what it takes to have what they really want in life. The feeling has been around for so long and we are so used to it that we’ve convinced ourselves that it’s just the way life is. But what if it wasn’t? What if you could change your mind about that belief? What if you could free yourself from that icky feeling of self-doubt and replace it with a new sense of confidence and optimism?
FINDING HAPPINESS WITHIN YOURSELF AND STOP RESISTING YOUR LIFE
Do you find yourself wishing that things were different in your life? Do you want a more important or satisfying job, a larger paycheck, a closer relationship? Perhaps you have a wish of finding happiness within yourself or being more hopeful about the future?
THE R FACTOR - ARE YOU TAKING YOUR PART?
Have you noticed that 50% of the time your life is not going the way you wish it would? Today it is working at 60% but last week it felt like only 40%. Experts say it averages out that we have a 50/50 balance of stuff going well and stuff not going so well. The question is, how do you behave when stuff is not going so well?
POWERLESS VICTIM TO SUPERHERO PART II: HOW TO STOP BLAMING OTHERS
Many people find themselves stuck in a life situation that they can’t change. In last week’s article, we learned how blaming others, and complaining makes us a victim of our circumstances.
THE POWER OF CHOICE: TAKING PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY IN YOUR LIFE
Are we allowing our negative thinking to rob us of life circumstances that we want? Are we a victim of that negative thinking? Do we pretend we have no choice in life because it’s easier than taking personal responsibility?