I'm a foodie, mom of 5 beautiful & complicated young adults, lover of all things Wizarding World & Star Wars, proud Blerd, podcaster/YouTuber and huge MMA fan.
Hope you enjoy my perspective on all of the things I love!
Fighting in the UFC for fun?
Kevin Holland has talked and finished his way into the hearts of UFC fans during the pandemic. The gregarious fighter went on a 5-0 win streak upon joining the organization, including some spectacular finishes. Landing his first main event, Holland lost a lackluster fight to Derek Brunson and was deeply criticized for the performance. Yet had he won, still behaving as he did during the fight, none of the criticism he has received since the loss would exist today. Here lies the problem.
Elite Adult Female Fighters are Women, not "Girls"
Two weeks ago, the most dominant female mixed martial artist in the history of the sport, Amanda Nunes, defended her featherweight title at UFC 259. Her performance was outstanding. She destroyed her opponent, former Invicta featherweight champion, Megan Anderson within 2 minutes of the first round. The performance was unforgettable and should have left female MMA fans, like myself, in euphoria over the dominant performance. Yet, I turned off the TV after the post-fight conference with a knot in my stomach. Sexism had reared its ugly head again.
Self-Care is for EVERYONE
I met Mercia in college back in 1994. She was thin and absolutely stunning, with beautiful and piercing light eyes. Upon first glance, she appeared to be the perfect young woman with no cares in the world. However, appearances can be deceiving and Mercia was everything but what I had assumed upon our introduction. Instead of being the self centered young woman I expected her to be, Mercia was actually one of the most selfless and outspoken friends I would make during my college years.
She’s gonna be late. She knew it. Even though she got up and out of the apartment thirty minutes earlier than normal, she still wasn't going to make it into the lecture hall before Dr. Watson finished his post-chapter review. She's been warned already this semester that tardiness would not be tolerated in this course. Yet here she was, getting ready to rack up her third such tardy in as many weeks. If only she had a few bucks, she'd stop and pick Dr. Watson up a doughnut. She was already late, so what harm could it have done? Oh well, she thought. The joys of being a poor college student.
Coming Out as Blerd
Coming out to your family, friends and community about something that is at the very core of who you are is incredibly difficult. It can be even more complex when you are a person of color coming from a family or community with a very siloed view of the world and what your "norms" should be. There are many stories of coming out and this is mine.......